I have heard this question so many times and I want to hear what you will say. So what would you do?What would you do if you caught your spouse cheating on you?
A trial separation is good. I've been there. The feeling of betrayal is pretty intense and doesn't go away quickly...but it's a time for the person who got betrayed to step away for awhile, find themselves, regain their footing and see where they want life to take them.What would you do if you caught your spouse cheating on you?
If that is a right ';catching'; then I would join. And later we could discuss what to do.
Sorry but I would go absolutely spare.....I'm not sure what I would do exactly....I hope whatever it was ..I would retain my dignity.....
manslaugheter,1,2,3-vehic homicide,posion,arson,1st degree murder,2nd degree,3degree.........murdur was the case they gave me
OVERRRRRRRRRRRRR
divorce. and never look back when this happens cheater will never change only get worse
Depends on what you mean by being caught. If I saw him I would walk up to him and her and say hello, introduce myself and then go home, pack and leave.
If I found out while at home I would ask him why (probably) then I would pack and leave. I definately would not have a screaming fit or crying in front of him or any of that I would try to react as calmly as I could because there is nothing I can do that would change what happened. After I left I would file for divorce.
tellher to get up and cleanthe friggin house because s**t whatevers his i own half of so i might as well use her too!! no seriously i just did and he's like so never seeing me again.
leave him
leave her
There would be no white flag upon my door.
I would leave him most definitely. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
wow not sure what i would do. i have been cheated on but i actually never caught them together. I guess i would just panic and think later i dont know. Mabye join them who knows.
If she was attractive, join in!
Sunday, August 22, 2010
Can a spouse attend MENSA social gatherings with a member?
I assume they wouldn't go to weekly or mothly normal meetings, but can they attend other events? Such as game nights or social nights with food/drinks? I want to join but only if my husband can participate with me sometimes. I qualified but this will be the deciding factor in my choice. Can anyone shed some light on the subject? Are you a member and your spouse is not? How does that work? I appreciate any insight.Can a spouse attend MENSA social gatherings with a member?
I was a member in Los Angeles and almost every week I attended a function with a friend who was not a member. Many functions charge a small fee for the cost of food and may charge more for non members.
When I moved to a small city the social gatherings almost vanished. I finally quit since the fee was too high and I got nothing in return.
I was a member in Los Angeles and almost every week I attended a function with a friend who was not a member. Many functions charge a small fee for the cost of food and may charge more for non members.
When I moved to a small city the social gatherings almost vanished. I finally quit since the fee was too high and I got nothing in return.
Did you ever cook a meal that your spouse went absolutely crazy over?
Mine is long spaghetti with cheese garlic breadDid you ever cook a meal that your spouse went absolutely crazy over?
My husband does like most of my food. I try to make something differant some part of the world every night so we do not get bored.Did you ever cook a meal that your spouse went absolutely crazy over?
my husband loves breadsticks. They are super easy to make. Jiffy pizza crust mix, water, butter, garlic powder.
prepare the pizza crust according to instructions.
You let it rise 5 minutes.
put it on a greased pizza pan like you would a pizza crust.
cover it with melted butter and garlic power. (the amount depends on personal preference)
bake in a 350 degree oven for 12 -15 minutes.
cut into pieces.
You can use pizza sauce as a dip.
My husband is a chef so he pretty much appreciates anything anyone cooks for him as usually he is the one slaving over a hot stove. I can't cook like he does but he loves it when I make roast chicken stuffed with lemon and herbs and roasted sweet potatoes and squash
NO BUT HER MOM ABSOLUTELY LOVED MY SPAGHETTI WITH MEAT SAUCE AND FRIED CHICKEN ON THE SIDE. DON'T ASK ME HOW I CAME UP WITH IT I WAS STARVING I GUESS AND I STILL LUV IT TO THIS DAY FYI HER MOM WAS CAUCASION LOL..
Grilled portabella mushroom caps with a bit of bleu cheese sprinkled on the last minute or so, wild rice, fresh asparagus spears steamed over lemon water, a warmed whole wheat bread and rosemary, garlic and olive oil marinated and grilled pork loins.
My homemade cinnamon rolls. People joke that those cinnamon rolls were why he asked me to marry him. It'll be our 30th wedding anniversary this year.
I cooked a pineapple cobbler the other night. It disappeared.
I also love to make Pesto.
Well I'm still trying to be better at it. I don't know...most of the the time he'll say ';Mmm honey this is really good';, but a few times he's told me it wasn't very good. Okay once or twice he'll rave of the Fresh corned beef or my Meatloaf. = )
my hubby likes my cooking very much as well; but recently his favorites have been my fresh LemonPepper-Garlic chicken over steamed rice, and for some reason, my Pita Pizzas. They're incredibly simple and require almost no work...yet he absolute raves over them.
my favorite meal that he makes is Pot Roast with baby carrots and potatoes. :D
We call it Platter Meal: Grilled yogurt marinated chicken and flank steak, flatbreads, rice and beans, fresh cut veggies (tomatoes, cucumbers, olives, and peppers), chickpea and eggplant curry. It takes a while to make but it's so tasty and good for you!
mine was cordune blue chicken brests stuffed with ham and swiss chees
Beef vegetable stew. He loves it.
I don't see how, but he loves every single thing I cook for him. His absolute favorite is a german dish my mother used to make with sausage, potatoes, saurkraut, vinegar and caraway seeds. Sounds awful yes? It's delicious! His other favorites are my own Pami's Steak Stir Fry and Mexican Chicken. You have to appreciate a man that can love and appreciate everything you do! :)
My husband does like most of my food. I try to make something differant some part of the world every night so we do not get bored.Did you ever cook a meal that your spouse went absolutely crazy over?
my husband loves breadsticks. They are super easy to make. Jiffy pizza crust mix, water, butter, garlic powder.
prepare the pizza crust according to instructions.
You let it rise 5 minutes.
put it on a greased pizza pan like you would a pizza crust.
cover it with melted butter and garlic power. (the amount depends on personal preference)
bake in a 350 degree oven for 12 -15 minutes.
cut into pieces.
You can use pizza sauce as a dip.
My husband is a chef so he pretty much appreciates anything anyone cooks for him as usually he is the one slaving over a hot stove. I can't cook like he does but he loves it when I make roast chicken stuffed with lemon and herbs and roasted sweet potatoes and squash
NO BUT HER MOM ABSOLUTELY LOVED MY SPAGHETTI WITH MEAT SAUCE AND FRIED CHICKEN ON THE SIDE. DON'T ASK ME HOW I CAME UP WITH IT I WAS STARVING I GUESS AND I STILL LUV IT TO THIS DAY FYI HER MOM WAS CAUCASION LOL..
Grilled portabella mushroom caps with a bit of bleu cheese sprinkled on the last minute or so, wild rice, fresh asparagus spears steamed over lemon water, a warmed whole wheat bread and rosemary, garlic and olive oil marinated and grilled pork loins.
My homemade cinnamon rolls. People joke that those cinnamon rolls were why he asked me to marry him. It'll be our 30th wedding anniversary this year.
I cooked a pineapple cobbler the other night. It disappeared.
I also love to make Pesto.
Well I'm still trying to be better at it. I don't know...most of the the time he'll say ';Mmm honey this is really good';, but a few times he's told me it wasn't very good. Okay once or twice he'll rave of the Fresh corned beef or my Meatloaf. = )
my hubby likes my cooking very much as well; but recently his favorites have been my fresh LemonPepper-Garlic chicken over steamed rice, and for some reason, my Pita Pizzas. They're incredibly simple and require almost no work...yet he absolute raves over them.
my favorite meal that he makes is Pot Roast with baby carrots and potatoes. :D
We call it Platter Meal: Grilled yogurt marinated chicken and flank steak, flatbreads, rice and beans, fresh cut veggies (tomatoes, cucumbers, olives, and peppers), chickpea and eggplant curry. It takes a while to make but it's so tasty and good for you!
mine was cordune blue chicken brests stuffed with ham and swiss chees
Beef vegetable stew. He loves it.
I don't see how, but he loves every single thing I cook for him. His absolute favorite is a german dish my mother used to make with sausage, potatoes, saurkraut, vinegar and caraway seeds. Sounds awful yes? It's delicious! His other favorites are my own Pami's Steak Stir Fry and Mexican Chicken. You have to appreciate a man that can love and appreciate everything you do! :)
What is the most degaussing thing that you spouse do?
I hate when husband do #2 before bed ,yukWhat is the most degaussing thing that you spouse do?
When he blows his nose in the shower and it doesnt rinse on down!!!Cause for divorce right there!!Samantha....lighten up!!!!!!!!What is the most degaussing thing that you spouse do?
What is ';degaussing';
I've thought about it, and my wife realy doesn't do anything that is discusting. She's a pretty normal woman.....
I think you mean disgusting.
Degaussing is the removal of a magnetic field.
talks about bowel movements...period..we know what happens in the bathroom...no need to give and update or describe...so i feel you!
pull blankets over my head %26amp; fart !!
Cheating is the most disgusting.
When all he does if fart fart and fart some more..
i like to get on the toilet why my womans in the bath and have a good dump she hates it i normally say dont mind me im just having a crap
#2 before bed, well honey, it's a part of life.
Now my biggest pet peeve not only for hubby but for everyone,
IS CHEWING WITH THEIR MOUTH OPEN!!
Other's do not want to see what the heck is in your mouth, so close it when you are eating.
FART
SNEEZE W/O COVERING UP
we have this Van de Graaff generator in the bedroom, and the last thing we do before going to bed is degaussing it. It's really fun to watch all the magnetism evaporate into thin air. Holy flux, batman!
My wife talks to her sisters and what dogs.
farting in bed or in the car
you want him to hold it? hater!
He likes to tell me when he's had a REALLY good bowel movement. TMI.
The most degaussing thing? Hm, I don't seem to remember her ever fixing any TV sets....
When my wife burps (and she can rattle the windows to the house next door) and it smells like rotten eggs and raw sewage. The farting doesn't bother me because we getting into farting contest all the time. It should be an Olympic Sport...lol
How shallow and immature can you really be? All of you? Sounds like all of you need to grow up right now! Wait until he sees you going through labour and delivery, it would be a surprise if he ever touched you again after that.
I just laugh at woman like you...there isn't a single thing that he does that I find discusting....not one. There isn't a lot that bothers me, the way it bothers you guys.
GROW UP!pimple cure eye pencil
When he blows his nose in the shower and it doesnt rinse on down!!!Cause for divorce right there!!Samantha....lighten up!!!!!!!!What is the most degaussing thing that you spouse do?
What is ';degaussing';
I've thought about it, and my wife realy doesn't do anything that is discusting. She's a pretty normal woman.....
I think you mean disgusting.
Degaussing is the removal of a magnetic field.
talks about bowel movements...period..we know what happens in the bathroom...no need to give and update or describe...so i feel you!
pull blankets over my head %26amp; fart !!
Cheating is the most disgusting.
When all he does if fart fart and fart some more..
i like to get on the toilet why my womans in the bath and have a good dump she hates it i normally say dont mind me im just having a crap
#2 before bed, well honey, it's a part of life.
Now my biggest pet peeve not only for hubby but for everyone,
IS CHEWING WITH THEIR MOUTH OPEN!!
Other's do not want to see what the heck is in your mouth, so close it when you are eating.
FART
SNEEZE W/O COVERING UP
we have this Van de Graaff generator in the bedroom, and the last thing we do before going to bed is degaussing it. It's really fun to watch all the magnetism evaporate into thin air. Holy flux, batman!
My wife talks to her sisters and what dogs.
farting in bed or in the car
you want him to hold it? hater!
He likes to tell me when he's had a REALLY good bowel movement. TMI.
The most degaussing thing? Hm, I don't seem to remember her ever fixing any TV sets....
When my wife burps (and she can rattle the windows to the house next door) and it smells like rotten eggs and raw sewage. The farting doesn't bother me because we getting into farting contest all the time. It should be an Olympic Sport...lol
How shallow and immature can you really be? All of you? Sounds like all of you need to grow up right now! Wait until he sees you going through labour and delivery, it would be a surprise if he ever touched you again after that.
I just laugh at woman like you...there isn't a single thing that he does that I find discusting....not one. There isn't a lot that bothers me, the way it bothers you guys.
GROW UP!
Would this hurt your feelings coming from your spouse?
I have been begging my husband to get a couples massage with me, because it would be romantic to do together and we are always massaging each other at home, why not get the real thing done? So, he finally comes out and tells me he would be afraid of getting a huge hard on! That really hurt my feelings, maybe because I'm 8 months pregnant..but still I wouldn't get aroused at another man giving me a massage. Would you be a little hurt?Would this hurt your feelings coming from your spouse?
Congrats on the Baby.
I can see where he is coming from, as a man we have all been faced with this delima more than one time. I don't begin to think that I know much about women, but I bet alot of you have had this happen to you also. The difference is that when a woman is aroused it doesn't ';stick out'; so to speak, as it does with a man. Please don't get upset with him, he had the guts to tell you upfront so obviously he loves you dearly. Tell him not to worry, if it happens it happens. Would this hurt your feelings coming from your spouse?
You know I can see how that might have hurt your feelings, but guys are gross and get aroused for anything. I got a couples massage with my boyfriend once and I also thought to myself that he might get a ***** from it, but fortunately he didn't and that was because he got a guy masseuse. After he had the massage he said that it was the best massage he ever got cause the guy knew exactly how much pressure to give. Why don't you look into having a guy massage him? He might like it.
If someone is massaging you in ways that would make your body feel good then you would like it too. It shows more on men because of the the piece they have below the belt. If he is afraid of that happening make sure he gets a guy. If it stills goes up then that confirms that its just the treatment that is making it erect not that he is unattracted to you. I think that is really cool that he told you the reasoning as to why he would not go. It sounds like you both have a very open relationship which is really good. Good Luck and I say go to the massage.
No. I don't think he meant he would be consciously aroused by the masseuse, but sometimes a man's penis has a mind of it's own and it may become aroused, no matter how he tries to stop it, and that would be embarrassing for him.
I know my husband has had his respond to a doctors exam, and I know he wasn't turned on, but the mere fact the doctor was that close to it made it pop up to take a look.
I wouldn't like to think that my hubby could get turned on by anyone but me but that would not be reality. I am not a guy so I don't know how those things work, but perhaps that may happen because the massage feels so relaxing??? What if he has a male massage therapist??? Maybe that could have the same reaction? Emotions are a little stronger when preggo so don't let it get to you.
He's probably right...hey if he's in the room alone and a breeze hits at the right place...he might get wood. If you are 8 months preg (my wife is 8+ now)...then there you have limited positions for you to have a massage with. If you want a romantic massage as a couple, you might have to accept the side effects that he's talking about...I mean...Women have the luxury of not being so obvious...the therapist could be 60 years old and ugly...but she might hit that spot (like the wind)...Take Care
You should not take that personal...Its just a real fear that men have to worry about...Its not any different than the same fears they went through about having to go in front of the class when they were in high school. The ONLY reason he worries about it is because someone will be RUBBING on his body...it has nothing to do with WHO that is!
Don't be insecure...remind yourself that he is YOUR hubby, and the TWO of you are going to have a beautiful baby very soon! It doesn't get any better than that dear!!!
Men can get aroused if the wind blows hard enough. Your over reacting. He knows his body and if you hurt by him telling you this and him not wanting to go...imagine how hurt you would be if he went and he did get a hard on. Let it go and continue massaging each other.
That is sweet of you but it sounds as if your husband has had a massage before probably recently that you do not know about in other words he would expect a happy ending and he is afraid you couldn't handle watching and i think he might be right.
My mom is a massage theripast, and she has told me stories of men getting hard ons all the time. One of her friends(a guy) gave a massage to another guy, and the guys he was massaging still got ';happy';
Its normal!
Hey, you asked for it.
you kept bugging him.
he didn't want to tell you, and now you're going to get hurt by it.
not cool and completely unfair to him.
plus, I spend half my day with a hard on. The wind blows and it's ';boing';.
You can't hold this against the dude.
No, I hear that is natural. But just respect his wishes and don't get them done. I wouldn't want to have a couples massage anyway. I like being touched by my husband, but no one else. And I don't want anyone else touching my man.
Simple answer, just have two massuears, a female for you and a male for him, then if he still gets a hard on, well there are bigger issues.
Dont let your hormone take control of your emotions. Its natural for man to get aroused at another woman giving him a massage maybe see if the spa has a male massuse so you dont have a problem like that!!!
I dont think he meant the person giving him the massage, but the massage itself. I'd likely just laugh it off.
I think every man is afraid of that happening.
No, I think that is a natural reaction for some men...one that he cannot control I would appreciate his honesty...and then give him a message so he is aroused by YOU!!!
No, not at all. Guys get hard-ons over anything, I'm well-aware of that.
No.
Men are like that.
No that is a man for you....Some men rise for anything...
relax la mum, i'm sure after gift birth every things going to be ok. do whatever then.
No, it is a natural thing for a man. It doesn't mean he loves you any less.
so what? my ex wife got turned on when an attractive doctor had to touch her on her stomach and probe round her body. people are just like that. its just more obvious with men than it is with women
yes i'd be very very hurt. men are pigs tho. most i should say. the only difference with your man seems to be that he is more open and honest with his. most other guys would have just been thinking it and not said it out loud.
Well, at least he was honest. I would probably be a little hurt too - and being pregnant doesn't' help either. He probably didn't mean to hurt your feelings - but I'd let him know how you felt.
Congrats on the Baby.
I can see where he is coming from, as a man we have all been faced with this delima more than one time. I don't begin to think that I know much about women, but I bet alot of you have had this happen to you also. The difference is that when a woman is aroused it doesn't ';stick out'; so to speak, as it does with a man. Please don't get upset with him, he had the guts to tell you upfront so obviously he loves you dearly. Tell him not to worry, if it happens it happens. Would this hurt your feelings coming from your spouse?
You know I can see how that might have hurt your feelings, but guys are gross and get aroused for anything. I got a couples massage with my boyfriend once and I also thought to myself that he might get a ***** from it, but fortunately he didn't and that was because he got a guy masseuse. After he had the massage he said that it was the best massage he ever got cause the guy knew exactly how much pressure to give. Why don't you look into having a guy massage him? He might like it.
If someone is massaging you in ways that would make your body feel good then you would like it too. It shows more on men because of the the piece they have below the belt. If he is afraid of that happening make sure he gets a guy. If it stills goes up then that confirms that its just the treatment that is making it erect not that he is unattracted to you. I think that is really cool that he told you the reasoning as to why he would not go. It sounds like you both have a very open relationship which is really good. Good Luck and I say go to the massage.
No. I don't think he meant he would be consciously aroused by the masseuse, but sometimes a man's penis has a mind of it's own and it may become aroused, no matter how he tries to stop it, and that would be embarrassing for him.
I know my husband has had his respond to a doctors exam, and I know he wasn't turned on, but the mere fact the doctor was that close to it made it pop up to take a look.
I wouldn't like to think that my hubby could get turned on by anyone but me but that would not be reality. I am not a guy so I don't know how those things work, but perhaps that may happen because the massage feels so relaxing??? What if he has a male massage therapist??? Maybe that could have the same reaction? Emotions are a little stronger when preggo so don't let it get to you.
He's probably right...hey if he's in the room alone and a breeze hits at the right place...he might get wood. If you are 8 months preg (my wife is 8+ now)...then there you have limited positions for you to have a massage with. If you want a romantic massage as a couple, you might have to accept the side effects that he's talking about...I mean...Women have the luxury of not being so obvious...the therapist could be 60 years old and ugly...but she might hit that spot (like the wind)...Take Care
You should not take that personal...Its just a real fear that men have to worry about...Its not any different than the same fears they went through about having to go in front of the class when they were in high school. The ONLY reason he worries about it is because someone will be RUBBING on his body...it has nothing to do with WHO that is!
Don't be insecure...remind yourself that he is YOUR hubby, and the TWO of you are going to have a beautiful baby very soon! It doesn't get any better than that dear!!!
Men can get aroused if the wind blows hard enough. Your over reacting. He knows his body and if you hurt by him telling you this and him not wanting to go...imagine how hurt you would be if he went and he did get a hard on. Let it go and continue massaging each other.
That is sweet of you but it sounds as if your husband has had a massage before probably recently that you do not know about in other words he would expect a happy ending and he is afraid you couldn't handle watching and i think he might be right.
My mom is a massage theripast, and she has told me stories of men getting hard ons all the time. One of her friends(a guy) gave a massage to another guy, and the guys he was massaging still got ';happy';
Its normal!
Hey, you asked for it.
you kept bugging him.
he didn't want to tell you, and now you're going to get hurt by it.
not cool and completely unfair to him.
plus, I spend half my day with a hard on. The wind blows and it's ';boing';.
You can't hold this against the dude.
No, I hear that is natural. But just respect his wishes and don't get them done. I wouldn't want to have a couples massage anyway. I like being touched by my husband, but no one else. And I don't want anyone else touching my man.
Simple answer, just have two massuears, a female for you and a male for him, then if he still gets a hard on, well there are bigger issues.
Dont let your hormone take control of your emotions. Its natural for man to get aroused at another woman giving him a massage maybe see if the spa has a male massuse so you dont have a problem like that!!!
I dont think he meant the person giving him the massage, but the massage itself. I'd likely just laugh it off.
I think every man is afraid of that happening.
No, I think that is a natural reaction for some men...one that he cannot control I would appreciate his honesty...and then give him a message so he is aroused by YOU!!!
No, not at all. Guys get hard-ons over anything, I'm well-aware of that.
No.
Men are like that.
No that is a man for you....Some men rise for anything...
relax la mum, i'm sure after gift birth every things going to be ok. do whatever then.
No, it is a natural thing for a man. It doesn't mean he loves you any less.
so what? my ex wife got turned on when an attractive doctor had to touch her on her stomach and probe round her body. people are just like that. its just more obvious with men than it is with women
yes i'd be very very hurt. men are pigs tho. most i should say. the only difference with your man seems to be that he is more open and honest with his. most other guys would have just been thinking it and not said it out loud.
Well, at least he was honest. I would probably be a little hurt too - and being pregnant doesn't' help either. He probably didn't mean to hurt your feelings - but I'd let him know how you felt.
Can a spouse ';steal'; money from a joint bank account? What are the rules in Canada?
If it's a joint account, it's not ';stealing'; for one of the people to drain the account. Either person may withdraw whatever they want.
What is the weirdest or dumbest thing your spouse has ever cried about?
my husband cried once cause somebody left from rock of love that he really liked and then i slaped him for thatWhat is the weirdest or dumbest thing your spouse has ever cried about?
I cried hysterically because of a dead feral kitten in my back yard; my SO still can't get over it.What is the weirdest or dumbest thing your spouse has ever cried about?
It wasn't that weird but it surprised me. While watching the movie Radio he burst in to tears when Radio's mom died.
I cried hysterically because of a dead feral kitten in my back yard; my SO still can't get over it.What is the weirdest or dumbest thing your spouse has ever cried about?
It wasn't that weird but it surprised me. While watching the movie Radio he burst in to tears when Radio's mom died.
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