Have you made it very clear what you would like them to change... or what you don't like... or what you want...
Or do you stew. And hope. And drop hints. And wallow in fear, hoping that time will sweep in and do the hard work of granting your wish. ???Have you clearly told your spouse what your issue is with them?
Straight forward tell him what I want and then since he is a man, I remind him and reward him when he gets it right. Men are like dogs, they will do just about anything for the right reward and generally if you don't beat them they will be loyal, although there is always a tramp in the mix that screws a good btich over!Have you clearly told your spouse what your issue is with them?
My husband told me something that I think we all need to remember last week (and we by no means have a perfect marriage) he said, I sometimes dwell upon the things that irk me with you... I nit pick your faults and point them out to you constantly, but I have faults too, I'm not perfect, and you don't do that to me. I think to myself when I get really annoyed with your habits that irritate me that maybe I should go find someone better, but then I immediately realize that that person may never let laundry back up, hangs up their towel after showers, has a better memory, but is not such a great mom, isn't such a great listener, wont be there for me whenever i need them and will have their own set of problems that are surely far worse then yours.
In other words, instead of constantly complaining about our spouses as though they are supposed to be perfect or something, and instead of ';dropping hints'; to get them to change, respect them for who they are take them for who they are, realize you're sure as heck not perfect yourself and be happy with what you have because perfection in this world only lies in imperfection.
I tell him all the time. Unfortunately, he can't hear 'cause he's dead. It sucks too 'cause I'm really mad at him for it. Ten years later. Talk about a grudge, huh?
The relationship that I have had for the last 9 or so years is amazing though. And it really is because of him. He listens and he doesn't judge. I can absolutely tell him what I want and need from him in the context of our relationship. I don't expect him to solve my problems. I don't want to get married or live together. I can grant my own wishes, in time. Fear? Oh hell no. Life's way to short to waste on game players. Open, honest, straight up. The look in your eyes and know that everything's good. I'm addicted to it.
Go find yours. Why are you wasting time?
I'm straightforward when I'm not feeling something. I haven't mastered the art of silence. If there is something clearly that is his personality and something he can not (and I will not ask) to change then I sit back and see if it's something I can deal with. If it's something I can deal with then I say nothing and move on. If I can't deal with it then I'm out.
I would get all angry for Courtney's thumbs downs, but that person isn't going to edit their answer and debate what she said because she's right. Their ego got injured, so they thumbs down and crawl away quietly. So be it...
Sometimes the women don't communicate what they want, sometimes they just don't know what they want. Most times the guy just doesn't understand or care what they want.
Dude I love some of your responses and I am in the same boat but my wife will put out at times. Check out this site and purchase this e-book nymphowife.com. This book will give tips how you should act so that she will get the hint (i do not get any money from this book it has helped my).
Hope things change for you soon.
Communicate clearly to him.
Work together on what ever issue you might have. The line of communication should always remain clear. Don't go running around the topic because that will make BOTH of you irritated and frustrated.
Its a two way road. Work with each other :)
Yes and No. Yes i wish it would sort itself out and No i haven't told him because im not ready for him to take half my S**t in the divorce
If I have an issue, I come right out with it. I dont beat around the bush and I tell him what is bothering me.
And I know I can expect the same thing from him should something be bothering him.
I would answer your question, but I'm too busy laughing at Courtney's answer. Sorry.
I wish I could give her more thumbs up....LMAO
She's right...Ask any man
Edit. right on HeyBabe...see? he knows.
I don't want him to change... I made peace with his shortcomings before we tied the knot.
I concur with Maggie.
LOL CM!
YES i have...no sex is my issue
Yes..and he just blows me off.
I accept my guy the way he is......no issues....can't waste my time sweating the small stuff, y'know?
Thursday, July 29, 2010
What would happen if your spouse came home and demanded dinner?
And expected you to bring them a beer as well?What would happen if your spouse came home and demanded dinner?
Demand dinner back, tell him to go cook for you.... and bring you the beer and rub your feet......what an a**hole!!!What would happen if your spouse came home and demanded dinner?
Depends on the way he asked. Ask nicely and sincerely, why not? and of course if there's still time to cook + if the beer is in the fridge. If he nagged about it, then just act dumb. heh heh. tell him that u only cook when u feel loved and appreciated.
Make pasta and sauce, Hot, I mean temp. and drop it on his/her freakin' head.
I don't drink beer, but if I came home and demanded dinner, my wife would tell me to make it myself.
I'd just laugh and say ';you want a beer? Me too...get me one while you're up';.
I'd tell him where McDonald's was. Then I'd tell him to stop by the Chevron on his way home.
I'd throw the a piece of frozen meat at him and tell him..here's your dinner..
Been there done that..right after we got married..He never done it again..
It would have already been ready, so I would dish it out and twist the cap off for him!
I better not have to demanded nothing..
I'd say ok what do you want? he doesn't like beer so I'd be surprised--I'd say go buy a beer if you want one but I'm not going to go. He doesn't demand anything but I almost always have dinner ready.
i would laugh in his face and ask him who he thinks he is. That if he wanted to eat and drink that bad that he know where the kitchen is at. My husband know not to talk to me like that cuz im the one in charge of when to cook or not.
Nothing. I do not respond to demands.
oh he would get it but not where he wanted it!
he wouldn't have to demand dinner and a beer, it would already be waiting on him.....
I would politely tell him where he can go and the shortest route there.
I'd knock him upside the head with a frying pan, grab a can of beer, shake the hell out of it and open it in his face then ask is there anything else he would like?
I would have to teach him the magic word.
I would bring it to him with a smile and a kiss. You didn't say if he continued to drink. One beer or a couple with dinner after a hard days work he's more than earned .....
They would get asked what was wrong with their arms and legs. They would either get it for themselves or go somewhere else for the service.Nobody demands anything in my house.
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...you should get him a beer...cook dinner...then ask him if he wants a bj.
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I'd point him to the kitchen, as I finish changing my one year old dipper, and say 'I'm hungry too. Thank dear.';
Tell him to get over it you are not his slave! you are his wife. Tell him you would gladly make him dinner as it is part of the wife duties. But youll get to it when your ready!
he would starve!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and go thirsty!!!!!!!!!!!!!and not get anyfor a long long long time !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you treat those you love with respect
I'd serve him or her naked lol
HA id like to see mai husband try that,
theres something called respect and men dont seem to understand the meaning.
i cook dinner for mai husband because its appreciated, the moment he begins to EXPECT it, no more. he learned im not his mom and i dont NEED to do anything for him,i do cuz i want to and he should be thankful.
im not his maid.
i married because i wanted to be in a stable relationship to have kids with someone i love, and for companionship, not to be ordered around. if i wanted someone telling me what to do or to be asking for permission to go out then i woulda stayed at home with mai parents for the rest of my life.
if he ever talls you that then just as rudely point out to him that he has hands, feet and he knows where the kitchen is.
if not im sure yu can point him towards the nearest mcdonalds...or better yet his mommas house.
DONT take crap from a man.
I would hand him the Visa and a take out menu.
if he only demand for food,i will serve him some chow but if he also wants some beer,i might just put him on HUNGER STRIKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! no guy dares drink beer in my home,if you encourage him to drink beer.The beer might soon be your rival and he might trade you for a BOTTLE OF BEER!!!!!!!!!!
2 scenarios: If I had already cooked dinner - i would laugh and tell him that he not only knows where the kitchen is, but can grab his beer when he's up.
2nd: If i didn't cook (which does happen often) - I would just laugh at him and leave the room.
My husband has respect and a sense of humor.
I would finish ironing his shirts and prepare him a nice dinner. Oh I forgot the beer, and there are no chilled glasses. I guess he'll have to kiss my ***.
Ask him if he were in the wrong house.
Absolutely nothing. I'd ignore him.
Demand dinner back, tell him to go cook for you.... and bring you the beer and rub your feet......what an a**hole!!!What would happen if your spouse came home and demanded dinner?
Depends on the way he asked. Ask nicely and sincerely, why not? and of course if there's still time to cook + if the beer is in the fridge. If he nagged about it, then just act dumb. heh heh. tell him that u only cook when u feel loved and appreciated.
Make pasta and sauce, Hot, I mean temp. and drop it on his/her freakin' head.
I don't drink beer, but if I came home and demanded dinner, my wife would tell me to make it myself.
I'd just laugh and say ';you want a beer? Me too...get me one while you're up';.
I'd tell him where McDonald's was. Then I'd tell him to stop by the Chevron on his way home.
I'd throw the a piece of frozen meat at him and tell him..here's your dinner..
Been there done that..right after we got married..He never done it again..
It would have already been ready, so I would dish it out and twist the cap off for him!
I better not have to demanded nothing..
I'd say ok what do you want? he doesn't like beer so I'd be surprised--I'd say go buy a beer if you want one but I'm not going to go. He doesn't demand anything but I almost always have dinner ready.
i would laugh in his face and ask him who he thinks he is. That if he wanted to eat and drink that bad that he know where the kitchen is at. My husband know not to talk to me like that cuz im the one in charge of when to cook or not.
Nothing. I do not respond to demands.
oh he would get it but not where he wanted it!
he wouldn't have to demand dinner and a beer, it would already be waiting on him.....
I would politely tell him where he can go and the shortest route there.
I'd knock him upside the head with a frying pan, grab a can of beer, shake the hell out of it and open it in his face then ask is there anything else he would like?
I would have to teach him the magic word.
I would bring it to him with a smile and a kiss. You didn't say if he continued to drink. One beer or a couple with dinner after a hard days work he's more than earned .....
They would get asked what was wrong with their arms and legs. They would either get it for themselves or go somewhere else for the service.Nobody demands anything in my house.
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...you should get him a beer...cook dinner...then ask him if he wants a bj.
.
I'd point him to the kitchen, as I finish changing my one year old dipper, and say 'I'm hungry too. Thank dear.';
Tell him to get over it you are not his slave! you are his wife. Tell him you would gladly make him dinner as it is part of the wife duties. But youll get to it when your ready!
he would starve!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and go thirsty!!!!!!!!!!!!!and not get anyfor a long long long time !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you treat those you love with respect
I'd serve him or her naked lol
HA id like to see mai husband try that,
theres something called respect and men dont seem to understand the meaning.
i cook dinner for mai husband because its appreciated, the moment he begins to EXPECT it, no more. he learned im not his mom and i dont NEED to do anything for him,i do cuz i want to and he should be thankful.
im not his maid.
i married because i wanted to be in a stable relationship to have kids with someone i love, and for companionship, not to be ordered around. if i wanted someone telling me what to do or to be asking for permission to go out then i woulda stayed at home with mai parents for the rest of my life.
if he ever talls you that then just as rudely point out to him that he has hands, feet and he knows where the kitchen is.
if not im sure yu can point him towards the nearest mcdonalds...or better yet his mommas house.
DONT take crap from a man.
I would hand him the Visa and a take out menu.
if he only demand for food,i will serve him some chow but if he also wants some beer,i might just put him on HUNGER STRIKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! no guy dares drink beer in my home,if you encourage him to drink beer.The beer might soon be your rival and he might trade you for a BOTTLE OF BEER!!!!!!!!!!
2 scenarios: If I had already cooked dinner - i would laugh and tell him that he not only knows where the kitchen is, but can grab his beer when he's up.
2nd: If i didn't cook (which does happen often) - I would just laugh at him and leave the room.
My husband has respect and a sense of humor.
I would finish ironing his shirts and prepare him a nice dinner. Oh I forgot the beer, and there are no chilled glasses. I guess he'll have to kiss my ***.
Ask him if he were in the wrong house.
Absolutely nothing. I'd ignore him.
Do you think it is gross to share a toothbrush with your spouse?
Yea a little, lol. But when my husband was home he would use mine in the shower, i have one in and out of the shower and he'd always use my shower one. But he is in the desert so i would love him to be home using my toothbrush! =(
=)Do you think it is gross to share a toothbrush with your spouse?
YES!
toothbrushes are PERSONAL!Do you think it is gross to share a toothbrush with your spouse?
My husband and I each have our own toothbrushes however we still end up sharing...we just don't have personal boundaries
yeah, there are some things that should be kept as a personal item between people and toothbrushes are one of them.
kind of gross, but in a way kind of interesting.
Not really. You kiss each other and share other things...
Yea I think it's gross
very gross. *gags*
Yes
Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
very much so.......♥
Ewwww.
yeah I think it is because your brushing scum off of your teeth
hell yes
yeah i do..
my cousin and her boyfriend have done that i think its gross.
ew yes.
yes why don't you just go out and buy one I'm sure you have a buck or two in your life savings
=)Do you think it is gross to share a toothbrush with your spouse?
YES!
toothbrushes are PERSONAL!Do you think it is gross to share a toothbrush with your spouse?
My husband and I each have our own toothbrushes however we still end up sharing...we just don't have personal boundaries
yeah, there are some things that should be kept as a personal item between people and toothbrushes are one of them.
kind of gross, but in a way kind of interesting.
Not really. You kiss each other and share other things...
Yea I think it's gross
very gross. *gags*
Yes
Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
very much so.......♥
Ewwww.
yeah I think it is because your brushing scum off of your teeth
hell yes
yeah i do..
my cousin and her boyfriend have done that i think its gross.
ew yes.
yes why don't you just go out and buy one I'm sure you have a buck or two in your life savings
Stimilas check and injured spouse?
My husband owes a $1000 in arrears. I filled an injured spouse form for my taxes do I need to do another one? Also will I get my refund and my child that we have together, and how long will this process take to get my portion? We are suppose to get a bigger check than he owes, and they already take money for this out of his check every week. Thanks!Stimilas check and injured spouse?
If you filed an injured spouse form, it is supposed to cover both the regular refund and the stimulus refund (which will be divided 50-50).
Eg, if you and your hubby qualify for $300 each plus $300 for your child, your half would be $450.Stimilas check and injured spouse?
You don't have to file another injured spouse form if you filed one with your 2007 return already, the one you filed earlier this year. With the i.s. form, you'll get half of the total rebate amount you'd be eligible for, and the rest will go toward what he owes. Your check will be delayed while this is done.glitter eyeshadow la mer
If you filed an injured spouse form, it is supposed to cover both the regular refund and the stimulus refund (which will be divided 50-50).
Eg, if you and your hubby qualify for $300 each plus $300 for your child, your half would be $450.Stimilas check and injured spouse?
You don't have to file another injured spouse form if you filed one with your 2007 return already, the one you filed earlier this year. With the i.s. form, you'll get half of the total rebate amount you'd be eligible for, and the rest will go toward what he owes. Your check will be delayed while this is done.
How is your ex-spouse like one of the candidates this year?
My ex-spouse is like McCain. Gung-ho war and military.How is your ex-spouse like one of the candidates this year?
The better question is ';how is one of the candidates this year like his ex-spouse?'; :-)How is your ex-spouse like one of the candidates this year?
we're still married ,but if she starts acting like Hilliary she'll become my ex, is that a good answer?
The better question is ';how is one of the candidates this year like his ex-spouse?'; :-)How is your ex-spouse like one of the candidates this year?
we're still married ,but if she starts acting like Hilliary she'll become my ex, is that a good answer?
If filing married and jointly, do you have to count your spouse's income if under 5,000?
My husband just started a new job and will not make more than $4500 or so before the end of the year. Do we have to count his income when we file our taxes together? I used a tax calculator and it looks like we would get a bigger refund if we didn't count his income.If filing married and jointly, do you have to count your spouse's income if under 5,000?
Of course you must count it. And of course you would get a bigger refund without it. Don't commit tax fraud. And if he is issued a W-2 or a 1099, the IRS knows about his income anyway, you can't hide it.If filing married and jointly, do you have to count your spouse's income if under 5,000?
Of course you have to report the income he makes, you will report the combine income. If you don't report the all the income IRS will then send you an underreported (CP2000) notice. and then you will owe IRS plus interest and penalties.
if he makes $1.79, you have to include it - all income is includeable. Of course you would get a bigger refund, because you are ignoring the taxes on his income and you can't IGNORE his income!
Yes, you have to include it.
Technically, if your income puts you over the filing requirement and he only earned $1.00, you would have to include that $1.00 on the return.
Well, yes of course you have to count his income. And of course you'd get more if you didn't have to - you wouldn't be paying tax on what he makes. But you DO have to report it.
If you file joint return, you must also report income of your spouse even if it is a small amount.
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You have to report all income you both have unless you choose to file separate returns, which is usually not advantageous.
i'm disabled and make 745 dollars a month and i have to report mine.
Of course you must count it. And of course you would get a bigger refund without it. Don't commit tax fraud. And if he is issued a W-2 or a 1099, the IRS knows about his income anyway, you can't hide it.If filing married and jointly, do you have to count your spouse's income if under 5,000?
Of course you have to report the income he makes, you will report the combine income. If you don't report the all the income IRS will then send you an underreported (CP2000) notice. and then you will owe IRS plus interest and penalties.
if he makes $1.79, you have to include it - all income is includeable. Of course you would get a bigger refund, because you are ignoring the taxes on his income and you can't IGNORE his income!
Yes, you have to include it.
Technically, if your income puts you over the filing requirement and he only earned $1.00, you would have to include that $1.00 on the return.
Well, yes of course you have to count his income. And of course you'd get more if you didn't have to - you wouldn't be paying tax on what he makes. But you DO have to report it.
If you file joint return, you must also report income of your spouse even if it is a small amount.
Read http://taxipay.blogspot.com/2008/02/fili鈥?/a>
You have to report all income you both have unless you choose to file separate returns, which is usually not advantageous.
i'm disabled and make 745 dollars a month and i have to report mine.
By Law if my spouse passes away am I responsible for his credit card debt if im not on the account?
It depends on the area, but normally yes.By Law if my spouse passes away am I responsible for his credit card debt if im not on the account?
No.
They will ask for the money from you-- and they can even make it SOUND like you're responsible for it (especially if you were a supplementary card holder). But legally, if you're not on the account, you are not responsible. He signed the liability, not you.By Law if my spouse passes away am I responsible for his credit card debt if im not on the account?
That's incorrect. You're not responsible if you're not on the account. If they try to pursue you, hire a lawyer. Individual accounts are just that, you're individually responsible for.
However, if you're a co-signer on the account. The situation would be different.
No.
They will ask for the money from you-- and they can even make it SOUND like you're responsible for it (especially if you were a supplementary card holder). But legally, if you're not on the account, you are not responsible. He signed the liability, not you.By Law if my spouse passes away am I responsible for his credit card debt if im not on the account?
That's incorrect. You're not responsible if you're not on the account. If they try to pursue you, hire a lawyer. Individual accounts are just that, you're individually responsible for.
However, if you're a co-signer on the account. The situation would be different.
Is it normal to feel like you don't love your spouse anymore but the next day you're inlove again?
what do you do when you get this fall out of love feeling?Is it normal to feel like you don't love your spouse anymore but the next day you're inlove again?
perfectly normal.
for a crazy-as-a-rat-in-a-tin-shithouse psycho.
love = commitment, NOT emotion.Is it normal to feel like you don't love your spouse anymore but the next day you're inlove again?
If you really love someone, you don't fall out of love with them. I am divorced from a man that was abusive, but I still love him, but don't want to be around this man and be treated the way he treated me. What you are feeling is disappointment that things are not going your way and the next day things are going better and you are getting the attention you need. I guess now is the time to find out what love is really about, and to learn to work through all the problems that arise in a mature manner, but don't blame any of it on love. Marriage is hard and if you love someone enough all of it becomes easy.
It's called the facts of life, Every one has days like that. When I have days like that I get out cards he sent or the romantic things he did and remember the reasons I married him
All relationships go on a roller coaster like path. There will be days or periods where it's hard enough just to like each other, depending on what's going on, if there are problems or stress, and then you'll go through a period of time where it feels like you're on top of the world and can't get enough of each other and you feel like you're falling all over again. And up and down it goes.
First figure out why you have that feeling - are you bored?? Have things been stressful and you haven't been spending quality time together, etc, etc. And then fix it. If you're bored because you don't do things anymore - start making plans. If you're stressed - start doing cheap, easy things to help both of you. If you're not spending much time together - make the time you do have, really count.
Also need to figure out if you really aren't feeling in love anymore - or if it's just the passion/excitement gone. On those days could you care less if he walked out the door? Want him to leave? Find him unattractive??
Find out what exactly you're feeling - and then figure out why, and work on it.
perfectly normal.
for a crazy-as-a-rat-in-a-tin-shithouse psycho.
love = commitment, NOT emotion.Is it normal to feel like you don't love your spouse anymore but the next day you're inlove again?
If you really love someone, you don't fall out of love with them. I am divorced from a man that was abusive, but I still love him, but don't want to be around this man and be treated the way he treated me. What you are feeling is disappointment that things are not going your way and the next day things are going better and you are getting the attention you need. I guess now is the time to find out what love is really about, and to learn to work through all the problems that arise in a mature manner, but don't blame any of it on love. Marriage is hard and if you love someone enough all of it becomes easy.
It's called the facts of life, Every one has days like that. When I have days like that I get out cards he sent or the romantic things he did and remember the reasons I married him
All relationships go on a roller coaster like path. There will be days or periods where it's hard enough just to like each other, depending on what's going on, if there are problems or stress, and then you'll go through a period of time where it feels like you're on top of the world and can't get enough of each other and you feel like you're falling all over again. And up and down it goes.
First figure out why you have that feeling - are you bored?? Have things been stressful and you haven't been spending quality time together, etc, etc. And then fix it. If you're bored because you don't do things anymore - start making plans. If you're stressed - start doing cheap, easy things to help both of you. If you're not spending much time together - make the time you do have, really count.
Also need to figure out if you really aren't feeling in love anymore - or if it's just the passion/excitement gone. On those days could you care less if he walked out the door? Want him to leave? Find him unattractive??
Find out what exactly you're feeling - and then figure out why, and work on it.
For people who were in extramarital affairs: During your affair, did you give MORE/LESS sex to your spouse?
It's said one of the sure-fire signs of a cheating spouse is that they are available for sex less often with the non-cheating spouse; they have headaches, etc.
But one would think the reverse could be true. The cheating spouse could give the other spouse MORE action, based on guilt, or the sexy feelings the affair brings out in him/her or just for tactical reasons (to keep the unsuspecting spouse off the trail).
I'm not interested in moralistic answers here. My question is academic in nature. Thank you.For people who were in extramarital affairs: During your affair, did you give MORE/LESS sex to your spouse?
The reverse for sure. I always had more sex with my husband (then boyfriend) after I cheated... It was like it evened things out...lolFor people who were in extramarital affairs: During your affair, did you give MORE/LESS sex to your spouse?
Even though I was never in an extramarital affair, I think it makes more sense that the cheating spouse would give less sex to their spouse. They'd be too physically and mentally drained, sexually and emotionally spent, to want to have more sex with their spouse. Plus, I think the guilt would make it harder for them to perform with the spouse they were cheating on. I guess the exception would be if they were like a robot and were programmed on sex.
It sounds like a rough way to live one's life, unless you were a machine.
if you are having sex out side your marriage you wont have to worry about how much sex you will give or get because that is a sin against god! your mate and your self! not to speak on your children if any! have some self respect if you have to go screw around let the other person go why mess up his/her life because you are a screw up and cant be trusted! and there is no way to keep anyone of the trail there is a god in heaven! you will never get away with it!
What do you think?
Of course less and way less
after she let the other guy bang her like 3 or 4 times a day
Do you think she has the lust for the poor husband at home?
New lust arises and erases the old habits at home...
The poor husband probably wants her more than ever
But, she is out having her new hotdog and *** shooting on her face and more action abroad...By the time she's home
Her vag is all dried up with no passionate feelings for the guy at home.
If you are her husband. Do you want to bang a dead fish?
I hope not.
I look back on my life and see that my first wife was always more romantic and sexual when she was in the middle of one of her many affairs. Then when I fell into the cheating phase with my second wife, I too also provided extra to her. So in my past lives, I would have to say Yes.
will you people quit generalizing people?
everyone is unique and everyone behaves differently given a same situation.
academic that.
Less sex because you're not as available emotionally to that person, so you desire them less even if you still love them.
More sex with the partner for all of the reasons you state.
I don't believe in infidelity so its a no brainer :)
i was on the being cheated on end and it was less sex but more intimacy if that makes sense.
MORE
the lust is satiated, ITS ALL ABOUT MORALS!!!!!!!!!!
you peeps are PATHETIC!
try no sex at all.
Way less... Usually like none at all.
i've told every husband I've had: If I cut you off, know that i am having an affair.
Know why I am not giving you anything.
Learn from it or leave!
Thanks for the info...i have never been in an extramarital affair ...so i really dont know.....but if i do fall in love with someone, i dont think i can ever let my spouse touch me.
I think less sex makes more senses.
1) There is no point of having sex since the cheating spouse is getting satisfied elsewhere.
2) Sexy feeling is now with another individual, so the cheating spouse probably will not be sexually attracted to his/her own spouse for the moment.
3) Sex is not the top priority in a marriage (but cannot be without), especially when you have some children. So, it's very normal to go without sex for extended period of time.
So, that's why whenever your spouse turned down sex repeatedly, then this is sign of cheating.glitter eyeshadow la mer
But one would think the reverse could be true. The cheating spouse could give the other spouse MORE action, based on guilt, or the sexy feelings the affair brings out in him/her or just for tactical reasons (to keep the unsuspecting spouse off the trail).
I'm not interested in moralistic answers here. My question is academic in nature. Thank you.For people who were in extramarital affairs: During your affair, did you give MORE/LESS sex to your spouse?
The reverse for sure. I always had more sex with my husband (then boyfriend) after I cheated... It was like it evened things out...lolFor people who were in extramarital affairs: During your affair, did you give MORE/LESS sex to your spouse?
Even though I was never in an extramarital affair, I think it makes more sense that the cheating spouse would give less sex to their spouse. They'd be too physically and mentally drained, sexually and emotionally spent, to want to have more sex with their spouse. Plus, I think the guilt would make it harder for them to perform with the spouse they were cheating on. I guess the exception would be if they were like a robot and were programmed on sex.
It sounds like a rough way to live one's life, unless you were a machine.
if you are having sex out side your marriage you wont have to worry about how much sex you will give or get because that is a sin against god! your mate and your self! not to speak on your children if any! have some self respect if you have to go screw around let the other person go why mess up his/her life because you are a screw up and cant be trusted! and there is no way to keep anyone of the trail there is a god in heaven! you will never get away with it!
What do you think?
Of course less and way less
after she let the other guy bang her like 3 or 4 times a day
Do you think she has the lust for the poor husband at home?
New lust arises and erases the old habits at home...
The poor husband probably wants her more than ever
But, she is out having her new hotdog and *** shooting on her face and more action abroad...By the time she's home
Her vag is all dried up with no passionate feelings for the guy at home.
If you are her husband. Do you want to bang a dead fish?
I hope not.
I look back on my life and see that my first wife was always more romantic and sexual when she was in the middle of one of her many affairs. Then when I fell into the cheating phase with my second wife, I too also provided extra to her. So in my past lives, I would have to say Yes.
will you people quit generalizing people?
everyone is unique and everyone behaves differently given a same situation.
academic that.
Less sex because you're not as available emotionally to that person, so you desire them less even if you still love them.
More sex with the partner for all of the reasons you state.
I don't believe in infidelity so its a no brainer :)
i was on the being cheated on end and it was less sex but more intimacy if that makes sense.
MORE
the lust is satiated, ITS ALL ABOUT MORALS!!!!!!!!!!
you peeps are PATHETIC!
try no sex at all.
Way less... Usually like none at all.
i've told every husband I've had: If I cut you off, know that i am having an affair.
Know why I am not giving you anything.
Learn from it or leave!
Thanks for the info...i have never been in an extramarital affair ...so i really dont know.....but if i do fall in love with someone, i dont think i can ever let my spouse touch me.
I think less sex makes more senses.
1) There is no point of having sex since the cheating spouse is getting satisfied elsewhere.
2) Sexy feeling is now with another individual, so the cheating spouse probably will not be sexually attracted to his/her own spouse for the moment.
3) Sex is not the top priority in a marriage (but cannot be without), especially when you have some children. So, it's very normal to go without sex for extended period of time.
So, that's why whenever your spouse turned down sex repeatedly, then this is sign of cheating.
Does anyone have advise on how to be supportive of a spouse with Bi-Polar.?
I love my wife dearly, but ever since she had a breakdown and Bi-Polar diagnosis it has changed her personality. Some days I can deal, and some days it's hard. How can I be supportive and keep my own sanity?Does anyone have advise on how to be supportive of a spouse with Bi-Polar.?
I am so sorry to hear of your frustration. You are supportive just by standing by her and her mental illness. So many people have it and have yet to be diagnosed. There are so many support groups for the patient and spouse. Research by calling local hospitals and/or newspapers. This unfortunately is your disease as well. Encourage her to keep taking her medications and maybe you both can attend therapy as this is a process that takes both time, patience and lots of love. Good Luck to you!Does anyone have advise on how to be supportive of a spouse with Bi-Polar.?
She needs your Love Man, Love her at all times. Understand she needs your supoort. Love her with your heart and Soul, dont ever make her feel like she is a liability. Its a great opportunity to pratice Love. If you need more help then email me and i will send you links to Meditation which will soothe both of you down. All the Bless. Positive thoughts and feelings!
Remember that you are seeing the manifestations of an illness. Your wife is still there, intact.
Be patient, loving, communicative, and sensitive. We are in it ';for better or worse, in sickness and in health';.
Attend therapy with her, when it's practical, and get some face time with the therapist on your own for advice, if at all possible.
I'm sure you can sense when you are really connected. Help maintain her med schedule, go for walks together, and listen.
Sometimes she just needs to be heard, and not advised. You ';both'; can heal....
BPD2
Make sure she takes her meds and sees her doctor regularly. This really help me along with excersise and getting enough sleep.
Just remember
its not her fault that shes bi-polar she cant help it
everytime you get annoyed just take a deep breath and remember that shes your wife, and that you love her.
MY dads BI-POLAR ........ its very frustrating.... mainly because he normaly is not in a ';good mood';.....im sorry you have to go through that..... i usualy just avoid my dad at wierd times and not call....but it must be hard with your wife
My brother's wife and 3 children are bipolar. It is a matter of getting the right combination of meds and the patient being compliant in taking them. That is sometimes difficult because the side effects can be unpleasant. But, know that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Unfortunately I'm utterly unfit to answer your question, one of my
contacts however should however be able to answer your question from personal experience.
I do know it is a very difficult and painful situation, and very hard on you and I wish you the best.
So I'll star your question and hope my friend spots it and answers.
That's the best I can do, I'm so sorry.
There are tons of support groups for friends and loved ones of mental illness. Nami.org can get you started in a local chapter or check out your local news paper.
Living with some one that has a mental illness can be tiring and doesn't just affect the one with the disease.You need as much support as she does
I am so sorry to hear of your frustration. You are supportive just by standing by her and her mental illness. So many people have it and have yet to be diagnosed. There are so many support groups for the patient and spouse. Research by calling local hospitals and/or newspapers. This unfortunately is your disease as well. Encourage her to keep taking her medications and maybe you both can attend therapy as this is a process that takes both time, patience and lots of love. Good Luck to you!Does anyone have advise on how to be supportive of a spouse with Bi-Polar.?
She needs your Love Man, Love her at all times. Understand she needs your supoort. Love her with your heart and Soul, dont ever make her feel like she is a liability. Its a great opportunity to pratice Love. If you need more help then email me and i will send you links to Meditation which will soothe both of you down. All the Bless. Positive thoughts and feelings!
Remember that you are seeing the manifestations of an illness. Your wife is still there, intact.
Be patient, loving, communicative, and sensitive. We are in it ';for better or worse, in sickness and in health';.
Attend therapy with her, when it's practical, and get some face time with the therapist on your own for advice, if at all possible.
I'm sure you can sense when you are really connected. Help maintain her med schedule, go for walks together, and listen.
Sometimes she just needs to be heard, and not advised. You ';both'; can heal....
BPD2
Make sure she takes her meds and sees her doctor regularly. This really help me along with excersise and getting enough sleep.
Just remember
its not her fault that shes bi-polar she cant help it
everytime you get annoyed just take a deep breath and remember that shes your wife, and that you love her.
MY dads BI-POLAR ........ its very frustrating.... mainly because he normaly is not in a ';good mood';.....im sorry you have to go through that..... i usualy just avoid my dad at wierd times and not call....but it must be hard with your wife
My brother's wife and 3 children are bipolar. It is a matter of getting the right combination of meds and the patient being compliant in taking them. That is sometimes difficult because the side effects can be unpleasant. But, know that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Unfortunately I'm utterly unfit to answer your question, one of my
contacts however should however be able to answer your question from personal experience.
I do know it is a very difficult and painful situation, and very hard on you and I wish you the best.
So I'll star your question and hope my friend spots it and answers.
That's the best I can do, I'm so sorry.
There are tons of support groups for friends and loved ones of mental illness. Nami.org can get you started in a local chapter or check out your local news paper.
Living with some one that has a mental illness can be tiring and doesn't just affect the one with the disease.You need as much support as she does
How comes first your mother, sister, brother or your spouse? Your family or Your Spouse?
Family First.How comes first your mother, sister, brother or your spouse? Your family or Your Spouse?
Family now.
But when I'm married, I expect to make a commitment to putting my spouse first. They say that's the key to a healthy and happy marriage.
Then when you have kids with your spouse, you should STILL try and put your spouse first, even before the kids.
Many many couples don't do this, and become distanced, and lose the love.How comes first your mother, sister, brother or your spouse? Your family or Your Spouse?
Definitely your spouse should come first! Marriage vows usually contain the phrase ';forsaking all others'; or some version of it which means your spouse should be the most important person in your life. Your family will always be your family and they are important but bottom line is your spouse should come first regardless.
My Spouse comes first...when I said my vows I said,';Forsaking all others...'; and I mean that.
Then my son, my father, my mother, and my sisters.
If I had to choose between my husband and my family , my husband would every time without fail or question.
Husband or wife first......a man leaves his parents and a woman hers.....they become one...THAT means they are 1/2 of a unit...and should stand together supporting each other and no one is supposed to come between them. Not even their respective families...
...lol but it doesn't mean their spouse can give 'em a piece of their mind when they are alone......good luck.
This depends on your personal preference. If this is coming from a spiritual perspective, God says him first, your spouse, second, your children third, and everyone else thereafter.
When you marry you leave your parent's and cleave to your spouse.
My kids, then my spouse, then my parents, then my siblings.
Edit: I had my children before I had a spouse. Put the cart before the horse so to speak...
You leave the natural family and become one with your spouse. The spouse always comes first in a successful marriage. Especially if the wife is a DDD
I would have to agree with 8 ball.
I moved out when I was 20. If my parents, sister, and brothers came 1st, I would still be living at home.
I have my own family now, and they are more important.
Your spouse. Once that is firmly established, there shouldn't ever be any question regarding that. - from anyone.
God gives scripture after scripture about spouse and marraige --spouse should always come first.
Your spouse is supposed to come first...He's your first family now..they are secondary.
Well my wife of course, that is why I married her. If I loved my mother more I would have never gotten married. Maybe I don't understand your question............
My husband is my family and I treat them all equally.
family first always.
Depends on the situation..
What are you talking about? Could you be more specific?
Spouse is first and I could never put my mother or father or brothers first. Drug users can rot for all I care.
Your spouse is your family, and they are shud
My spouse is my family. I chose to be with him and he comes first.
Family now.
But when I'm married, I expect to make a commitment to putting my spouse first. They say that's the key to a healthy and happy marriage.
Then when you have kids with your spouse, you should STILL try and put your spouse first, even before the kids.
Many many couples don't do this, and become distanced, and lose the love.How comes first your mother, sister, brother or your spouse? Your family or Your Spouse?
Definitely your spouse should come first! Marriage vows usually contain the phrase ';forsaking all others'; or some version of it which means your spouse should be the most important person in your life. Your family will always be your family and they are important but bottom line is your spouse should come first regardless.
My Spouse comes first...when I said my vows I said,';Forsaking all others...'; and I mean that.
Then my son, my father, my mother, and my sisters.
If I had to choose between my husband and my family , my husband would every time without fail or question.
Husband or wife first......a man leaves his parents and a woman hers.....they become one...THAT means they are 1/2 of a unit...and should stand together supporting each other and no one is supposed to come between them. Not even their respective families...
...lol but it doesn't mean their spouse can give 'em a piece of their mind when they are alone......good luck.
This depends on your personal preference. If this is coming from a spiritual perspective, God says him first, your spouse, second, your children third, and everyone else thereafter.
When you marry you leave your parent's and cleave to your spouse.
My kids, then my spouse, then my parents, then my siblings.
Edit: I had my children before I had a spouse. Put the cart before the horse so to speak...
You leave the natural family and become one with your spouse. The spouse always comes first in a successful marriage. Especially if the wife is a DDD
I would have to agree with 8 ball.
I moved out when I was 20. If my parents, sister, and brothers came 1st, I would still be living at home.
I have my own family now, and they are more important.
Your spouse. Once that is firmly established, there shouldn't ever be any question regarding that. - from anyone.
God gives scripture after scripture about spouse and marraige --spouse should always come first.
Your spouse is supposed to come first...He's your first family now..they are secondary.
Well my wife of course, that is why I married her. If I loved my mother more I would have never gotten married. Maybe I don't understand your question............
My husband is my family and I treat them all equally.
family first always.
Depends on the situation..
What are you talking about? Could you be more specific?
Spouse is first and I could never put my mother or father or brothers first. Drug users can rot for all I care.
Your spouse is your family, and they are shud
My spouse is my family. I chose to be with him and he comes first.
If someone is on Chexsystem, can they be added to their spouse's bank account?
the negative balance was paid off, but i believe they remained on the chexsystem records. they recently got married and were wondering if they could be added to their wives account.If someone is on Chexsystem, can they be added to their spouse's bank account?
ASK YOUR BANK. Checksystems NEVER decides what you can or can't do at ANY bank. They just report what is in their files and the BANK decides what to do about it.If someone is on Chexsystem, can they be added to their spouse's bank account?
I work for wells fargo abd your spouse can be added to your acct if he is on chexsystems. I usually recommend that if you know this ahead of time, for him to open his own acct since their is usually a service fee w our oppurtunity checking and savings.
Probably not as an owner, but maybe as a signer ... it depends upon the bank. If the negative balance was, in fact, paid off, then your friend should take the initiative to have his name removed from Chex Systems. The bank that gave him this information (that he has a Chex Systems record) should have an 800 number for Chex Systems ... he could also visit the bank (with receipt in hand) that reported him to request that his information be updated. If he doesn't do so, his name will stay on it for a good while ... ten years, I believe. It could also affect his credit rating.
I would also advise that the wife be wary of adding his name to her bank account. If he should overdraft her account, even as a signer only, it will affect her records. If I were the wife, I'd think twice about this. People who have had problems with checking accounts usually continue to have problems with managing new checking accounts ... that's why Chex Systems was created. If he's needing a bank account for payroll purposes, maybe a savings account would be better for him ... employers can deposit payroll funds in savings accounts just as they do checking accounts.
It really depends on the bank. There are some banks that will allow a secondary to be added to an account even if they are on chexsystems since the primary account holder is responsible regardless. But generally they will not, they will run you the same as they would if you were opening the account yourself and deny you to be added. for more info on chexsystems related issues and a FREE list of banks and credit unions go to
http://www.chexvictims.net
ASK YOUR BANK. Checksystems NEVER decides what you can or can't do at ANY bank. They just report what is in their files and the BANK decides what to do about it.If someone is on Chexsystem, can they be added to their spouse's bank account?
I work for wells fargo abd your spouse can be added to your acct if he is on chexsystems. I usually recommend that if you know this ahead of time, for him to open his own acct since their is usually a service fee w our oppurtunity checking and savings.
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Probably not as an owner, but maybe as a signer ... it depends upon the bank. If the negative balance was, in fact, paid off, then your friend should take the initiative to have his name removed from Chex Systems. The bank that gave him this information (that he has a Chex Systems record) should have an 800 number for Chex Systems ... he could also visit the bank (with receipt in hand) that reported him to request that his information be updated. If he doesn't do so, his name will stay on it for a good while ... ten years, I believe. It could also affect his credit rating.
I would also advise that the wife be wary of adding his name to her bank account. If he should overdraft her account, even as a signer only, it will affect her records. If I were the wife, I'd think twice about this. People who have had problems with checking accounts usually continue to have problems with managing new checking accounts ... that's why Chex Systems was created. If he's needing a bank account for payroll purposes, maybe a savings account would be better for him ... employers can deposit payroll funds in savings accounts just as they do checking accounts.
It really depends on the bank. There are some banks that will allow a secondary to be added to an account even if they are on chexsystems since the primary account holder is responsible regardless. But generally they will not, they will run you the same as they would if you were opening the account yourself and deny you to be added. for more info on chexsystems related issues and a FREE list of banks and credit unions go to
http://www.chexvictims.net
Why do the cheating spouse always try to reverse like you the other person made them cheat?
Why do they still deny it when they are caught?
* Nice GUY*Why do the cheating spouse always try to reverse like you the other person made them cheat?
they feel the need to justify it, to fault find so they can justify in their mind that it wasn't their fault but the fault of the one they cheated on, this is to rid themselves of any guilt attached to trashing someones heart.its their defense that they use. they may deny it when caught to save the feelings of the person they betrayed, or maybe they are not wanting to burn all of their bridges either.if they admitted to it, or acknowledged it they would have their spouse insisting on therapy, maybe they really don't want to work it out. they are cowards and don't want the confrontation, don't want the hassle that's involved in having to come clean.Why do the cheating spouse always try to reverse like you the other person made them cheat?
Because it's easier to blame you then themselves. They feel guilty for their actions so to make you feel bad and take them back they make you feel like it's your fault. A person that truly loves somebody will want to make their partner happy and unfortunately cheaters know this so if they know if you blame yourself you will inturn actually treat them better then before. Just know it's never the person who got cheated on's fault even if the other person was unhappy they should have just left. Why do they deny it cause they don't want to admit it to themselves. A person who cheat and truly feels bad wouldn't act like that.
It is an integrity and character issue. They lack both which is why they cheat in the first place. They won't take responsibility for their own choice to cheat and they blame their significant other for their lack of self control when they are caught because they are usually egocentric and selfish and just want to make themselves look and feel better regardless of how the injured party feels. Cheaters will look you in the eyes and deny they cheated as long as they think they will get away with it or maybe place doubt in your mind...again because they lack the integrity and character and are too selfish to just admit the truth.
I think they could just be denying it because they know that they hurt you. The cheating is also partly your fault even if the cheater made the stupid choice to cheat. Perhaps, the cheater felt lack of attention from the spouse so instead of doing the adult thing and working it out they decide to be a scum bag and cheat.
Because deep down inside they know what they did was wrong. They know that Society frowns on this sort of thing. They feel that if they can justify what they have done by making the other party be the bad person that ';forced them to it'; then they will look better in the eyes of there family and friends...
Simply out they are the SCUM of the earth and should be removed from the Gene pool...
ACTUALLY there is a reason why that person cheats so some reason they are not happy in their current relationship. Now, whether that be an issue w/ themselves or they may see it as your fault if you are not making them happy. So in their eyes, they may REALLY think it is your fault. However, what they really mean is something was missing in the relationship for them, period.
Its reflex. It is the first thing all of them do...DENY! Then they try to make the betrayed spouse feel inadequate!!
There is no excuse to cheat. IF a married person feels that they want out of a marriage they owe it to their spouse to talk to them and let them know BEFORE embarking on any cheating!!!
Most Wayward spouses conveniently compartmentalise so that they do not have to face their conscience!!
Karma catches up though....in the end it always does!!
Because you've backed them into a corner and its a 'fight or flight' type reaction.
They know they've done wrong and a guilty person tries to soften their participation in a illegal or in this case, immoral event by shifting the lion's share of the blame onto you.
Typical really.....very commonplace. But.....it sure as hell doesn't hold water, does it?
They try to make them self's feel better for what they have done. My hubby's friend after almost 10 years still say's he didn't cheat. We all know he did. He is married to the gal he cheated with now and she even says he did.
Because they are immature and can't face the fact that they screwed up.
It's easier to place the blame than to accept it. Anyone who would cheat is a piece of shlt!
Well because after that happens, they feel insecure so they blame someone else for their actions and put the other person down just so they can feel better about them selves.
Because they don't want to accept the blame of being a scumbag! The other thing you might hear is ';...but this was the first time I did this...';, like that makes a difference!
Justification. And they deny in hopes it will go away.
They want to justify their rediculous behavior.
I don't think they want to take responsibility for their own actions. My ex cheated and denies it. Even if that was true she cheated emotionally as well. She was supposed to be a SAHM but didn't do all the things that needed done around the house and would go out drinking with male ';friends'; instead.
B/C the real truth hurts.
its their way of making it like it never happened or trying to justify it. Some classic statements some make are that you were too clingy or always nagging. and they felt trapped
GUILT!!!!
I'll let you know when I find it out.
* Nice GUY*Why do the cheating spouse always try to reverse like you the other person made them cheat?
they feel the need to justify it, to fault find so they can justify in their mind that it wasn't their fault but the fault of the one they cheated on, this is to rid themselves of any guilt attached to trashing someones heart.its their defense that they use. they may deny it when caught to save the feelings of the person they betrayed, or maybe they are not wanting to burn all of their bridges either.if they admitted to it, or acknowledged it they would have their spouse insisting on therapy, maybe they really don't want to work it out. they are cowards and don't want the confrontation, don't want the hassle that's involved in having to come clean.Why do the cheating spouse always try to reverse like you the other person made them cheat?
Because it's easier to blame you then themselves. They feel guilty for their actions so to make you feel bad and take them back they make you feel like it's your fault. A person that truly loves somebody will want to make their partner happy and unfortunately cheaters know this so if they know if you blame yourself you will inturn actually treat them better then before. Just know it's never the person who got cheated on's fault even if the other person was unhappy they should have just left. Why do they deny it cause they don't want to admit it to themselves. A person who cheat and truly feels bad wouldn't act like that.
It is an integrity and character issue. They lack both which is why they cheat in the first place. They won't take responsibility for their own choice to cheat and they blame their significant other for their lack of self control when they are caught because they are usually egocentric and selfish and just want to make themselves look and feel better regardless of how the injured party feels. Cheaters will look you in the eyes and deny they cheated as long as they think they will get away with it or maybe place doubt in your mind...again because they lack the integrity and character and are too selfish to just admit the truth.
I think they could just be denying it because they know that they hurt you. The cheating is also partly your fault even if the cheater made the stupid choice to cheat. Perhaps, the cheater felt lack of attention from the spouse so instead of doing the adult thing and working it out they decide to be a scum bag and cheat.
Because deep down inside they know what they did was wrong. They know that Society frowns on this sort of thing. They feel that if they can justify what they have done by making the other party be the bad person that ';forced them to it'; then they will look better in the eyes of there family and friends...
Simply out they are the SCUM of the earth and should be removed from the Gene pool...
ACTUALLY there is a reason why that person cheats so some reason they are not happy in their current relationship. Now, whether that be an issue w/ themselves or they may see it as your fault if you are not making them happy. So in their eyes, they may REALLY think it is your fault. However, what they really mean is something was missing in the relationship for them, period.
Its reflex. It is the first thing all of them do...DENY! Then they try to make the betrayed spouse feel inadequate!!
There is no excuse to cheat. IF a married person feels that they want out of a marriage they owe it to their spouse to talk to them and let them know BEFORE embarking on any cheating!!!
Most Wayward spouses conveniently compartmentalise so that they do not have to face their conscience!!
Karma catches up though....in the end it always does!!
Because you've backed them into a corner and its a 'fight or flight' type reaction.
They know they've done wrong and a guilty person tries to soften their participation in a illegal or in this case, immoral event by shifting the lion's share of the blame onto you.
Typical really.....very commonplace. But.....it sure as hell doesn't hold water, does it?
They try to make them self's feel better for what they have done. My hubby's friend after almost 10 years still say's he didn't cheat. We all know he did. He is married to the gal he cheated with now and she even says he did.
Because they are immature and can't face the fact that they screwed up.
It's easier to place the blame than to accept it. Anyone who would cheat is a piece of shlt!
Well because after that happens, they feel insecure so they blame someone else for their actions and put the other person down just so they can feel better about them selves.
Because they don't want to accept the blame of being a scumbag! The other thing you might hear is ';...but this was the first time I did this...';, like that makes a difference!
Justification. And they deny in hopes it will go away.
They want to justify their rediculous behavior.
I don't think they want to take responsibility for their own actions. My ex cheated and denies it. Even if that was true she cheated emotionally as well. She was supposed to be a SAHM but didn't do all the things that needed done around the house and would go out drinking with male ';friends'; instead.
B/C the real truth hurts.
its their way of making it like it never happened or trying to justify it. Some classic statements some make are that you were too clingy or always nagging. and they felt trapped
GUILT!!!!
I'll let you know when I find it out.
Why would someone's spouse be short and hateful while on the phone with them from work, but not while at home?
maybe be stressed or busy. my husband is really short and quick to get off the phone with me when he's at work, and he works with all men that know me so i know he's not trying to hide anything. he's just busy and doesnt want to be talking on the phone while he's getting paid. its no big dealWhy would someone's spouse be short and hateful while on the phone with them from work, but not while at home?
Maybe they sound hateful, but in fact they aren't. Come on, they're busy with their work! That's why they want to keep phone conversations as short and brief as possible. They're also probably having an important professional conversation at work. That is why one should only call their spouse at work if it's something important or urgent, and not frequently. I mean, they will return home at the end of the day, and things will be back to normal as they'll be in a relaxed mood, and you can talk all you want!
Some people are trying to provoke you by suggesting that your spouse is probably trying to impress someone at work, or have a secret gf/bf. No, that is not always the case! Don't consider that possibility at first, unless you have concrete proof.Why would someone's spouse be short and hateful while on the phone with them from work, but not while at home?
You are reading the 'hateful' into it possibly. Your spouse is AT WORK and may be unable to talk to you. My husband has his 'work voice' and often seems 'short' on the phone. He has told me he is either trying to keep the conversation private or in the middle of something and distracted. sometimes he says - 'gotta go' or 'let me call you later' and I know something has come up and he can't talk. I have learned only to call when I need something concrete, not just to chat. Remember, your spouse is at work.
Maybe they are trying to impress someone at work, bad way to do it but you never know. Or the boss could be right there. You shouldn't really be calling your spouse at work anyway, that in itself is disrespectful unless its an emergency
Some people really hate talking on the phone. I wouldn't describe her as hateful, but curt is more appropriate. My mother is one of them. She is much friendlier in person than she is on the phone.
Maybe the spouse is stressed out and tired of you constantly calling. They will be home later, leave them alone.
Passive-aggressive.
his interesting woman co worker is near him
Maybe they are busy and maybe you are bugging them
there work wife or work husband was close by
I don't know
stress at work
the boss is listening.
cause the boss is looking over their shoulder...............
they are trying to impress someone at work.. dirty trick.
**a love interest at work**
Maybe they sound hateful, but in fact they aren't. Come on, they're busy with their work! That's why they want to keep phone conversations as short and brief as possible. They're also probably having an important professional conversation at work. That is why one should only call their spouse at work if it's something important or urgent, and not frequently. I mean, they will return home at the end of the day, and things will be back to normal as they'll be in a relaxed mood, and you can talk all you want!
Some people are trying to provoke you by suggesting that your spouse is probably trying to impress someone at work, or have a secret gf/bf. No, that is not always the case! Don't consider that possibility at first, unless you have concrete proof.Why would someone's spouse be short and hateful while on the phone with them from work, but not while at home?
You are reading the 'hateful' into it possibly. Your spouse is AT WORK and may be unable to talk to you. My husband has his 'work voice' and often seems 'short' on the phone. He has told me he is either trying to keep the conversation private or in the middle of something and distracted. sometimes he says - 'gotta go' or 'let me call you later' and I know something has come up and he can't talk. I have learned only to call when I need something concrete, not just to chat. Remember, your spouse is at work.
Maybe they are trying to impress someone at work, bad way to do it but you never know. Or the boss could be right there. You shouldn't really be calling your spouse at work anyway, that in itself is disrespectful unless its an emergency
Some people really hate talking on the phone. I wouldn't describe her as hateful, but curt is more appropriate. My mother is one of them. She is much friendlier in person than she is on the phone.
Maybe the spouse is stressed out and tired of you constantly calling. They will be home later, leave them alone.
Passive-aggressive.
his interesting woman co worker is near him
Maybe they are busy and maybe you are bugging them
there work wife or work husband was close by
I don't know
stress at work
the boss is listening.
cause the boss is looking over their shoulder...............
they are trying to impress someone at work.. dirty trick.
**a love interest at work**
How did you meet the love of your life (and future spouse)?
at what point in your life were you? happy? lonely? looking? not looking?
did you experience spiritual growth before? share?How did you meet the love of your life (and future spouse)?
I was at a club to which I belong for a Friday night meal. I looked up and saw this woman walking across the dance floor. I stopped eating and watched her walk all the way to her table. I told the people at my table that she was the most stunning woman I had ever seen.
A couple of weeks later, at our regular meeting, they asked for someone to take over our scholarship committee. I volunteered and was told that someone else had already volunteered. They introduced me to her and it was the woman I had seen walking across the dance floor. We talked for a few moments and she suggested we co-chair the committee. That was 22 years ago and we were together until her death last year.
I became a better person because of her. I was happier and, some people say, more out-going.How did you meet the love of your life (and future spouse)?
When I peeked into her bedroom room window one day last summer. Now if only I can get her to realize it's me she wants....damn this restraining order!!!!
I wasn't looking for anyone, but I found him at church. That was 3 years ago. We are now sealed in the temple and have a 7 month little girl and a boy on the way (4 months along now).
She was rooming with several friends, and I was invited over by one of them. She got home and I was sitting there playing her piano. She was intrigued, and the rest is history.
This was immediately after I had come to the conclusion that love was going to escape me forever and I might as well just give up because it was never going to happen. Guess God had different plans.
c|:)
At church! What better place.
I was beginning my career. God's timing for us was right.glitter eyeshadow la mer
did you experience spiritual growth before? share?How did you meet the love of your life (and future spouse)?
I was at a club to which I belong for a Friday night meal. I looked up and saw this woman walking across the dance floor. I stopped eating and watched her walk all the way to her table. I told the people at my table that she was the most stunning woman I had ever seen.
A couple of weeks later, at our regular meeting, they asked for someone to take over our scholarship committee. I volunteered and was told that someone else had already volunteered. They introduced me to her and it was the woman I had seen walking across the dance floor. We talked for a few moments and she suggested we co-chair the committee. That was 22 years ago and we were together until her death last year.
I became a better person because of her. I was happier and, some people say, more out-going.How did you meet the love of your life (and future spouse)?
When I peeked into her bedroom room window one day last summer. Now if only I can get her to realize it's me she wants....damn this restraining order!!!!
I wasn't looking for anyone, but I found him at church. That was 3 years ago. We are now sealed in the temple and have a 7 month little girl and a boy on the way (4 months along now).
She was rooming with several friends, and I was invited over by one of them. She got home and I was sitting there playing her piano. She was intrigued, and the rest is history.
This was immediately after I had come to the conclusion that love was going to escape me forever and I might as well just give up because it was never going to happen. Guess God had different plans.
c|:)
At church! What better place.
I was beginning my career. God's timing for us was right.
If you came home from work one day and saw your spouse/girlfriend ***-licking the mailman, what would you do?
I would divorce my spouse were I married and I would break up with my girlfriend. I wouldn't say anything to either than good bye, and I would not go back to either of them were I asked to. I would not put up with that type of behavior because it would break the trust, and I will not be able to forgive the other person.If you came home from work one day and saw your spouse/girlfriend ***-licking the mailman, what would you do?
Dr.,
I pray God nothing like this happens. My woman is safe from me. (period) I'm less certain about the mailman, however, because I'd be mighty tempted to do him bad, real bad. SIX6UN put a fella in the hospital once for a two-week stay. He was an ex-boyfriend who just couldn't stay away, until I convinced him with a number 12 to the head. When he got out of the county hospital he was mentally confused; his memory was too fuzzy to even file a complaint. But, the woman was safe. In fact we married.If you came home from work one day and saw your spouse/girlfriend ***-licking the mailman, what would you do?
R U serious? I hope you are not but if you are, let me say that you are better off finding out now than wasting another day with this person. Have some dignity and go on with your life. You are worth it.
Send her a letter telling her she behaves like a whore.
Nothing; it is probably a special delivery.
if this happened to you i'm extrememly sorry. poor thing, lol.
I think i'd get very nauseas!
don't know, the price of stamps do seem to keep going up.
leave and never go back! GROSS !
Dr.,
I pray God nothing like this happens. My woman is safe from me. (period) I'm less certain about the mailman, however, because I'd be mighty tempted to do him bad, real bad. SIX6UN put a fella in the hospital once for a two-week stay. He was an ex-boyfriend who just couldn't stay away, until I convinced him with a number 12 to the head. When he got out of the county hospital he was mentally confused; his memory was too fuzzy to even file a complaint. But, the woman was safe. In fact we married.If you came home from work one day and saw your spouse/girlfriend ***-licking the mailman, what would you do?
R U serious? I hope you are not but if you are, let me say that you are better off finding out now than wasting another day with this person. Have some dignity and go on with your life. You are worth it.
Send her a letter telling her she behaves like a whore.
Nothing; it is probably a special delivery.
if this happened to you i'm extrememly sorry. poor thing, lol.
I think i'd get very nauseas!
don't know, the price of stamps do seem to keep going up.
leave and never go back! GROSS !
How often does your spouse hang out with their friends?
my house if full of his friends right now....and most weekends. either they are here or we are at one of their houses. of course...even though they were his friends first they quickly became mine.How often does your spouse hang out with their friends?
He has friends at work so they go to lunch during the week. As for off of work it's probably around 5-6 times a month but, less since we've been working on the house.
Good luck!How often does your spouse hang out with their friends?
Not very often usually we are together when we are with friends but he could if he wanted to. He is a busy person lol.
About once a month. All of his guys are married too, so it's hard for them to get together. Maybe more if they can fit it in.
every friday
He has friends at work so they go to lunch during the week. As for off of work it's probably around 5-6 times a month but, less since we've been working on the house.
Good luck!How often does your spouse hang out with their friends?
Not very often usually we are together when we are with friends but he could if he wanted to. He is a busy person lol.
About once a month. All of his guys are married too, so it's hard for them to get together. Maybe more if they can fit it in.
every friday
Should you or your spouse cut all ties with someone either of you had an affair with?
How can a marriage be worked on if the this person is still in the picture? Even if it is just good friends now...Should you or your spouse cut all ties with someone either of you had an affair with?
of course they should, that's rule # 1 if you decide to stay togetherShould you or your spouse cut all ties with someone either of you had an affair with?
This person should not be in the picture atall, the same will happen all over again x
All ties should be cut. Some therapists suggest even relocating to a different town for a fresh start. If they are still in touch, there are still feelings there. Period.
well if they have a child together the other person will always be in the picture
Yup, the spouse comes first. If you dont do this, you are showing your spouse that the other person comes first in your life.
Yes! The only way to have a successful marriage is too get rid of everything that will get you into the biggest hellhole ever with your man or woman. But my question to you is: Why would you go to risks of having an affair? When you get married you give your life to the your husband/wife. Not your ex-girlfriend or something. It is a very dumb questiion that you asked. And you will never be ';just friends'; there will always be a strong connection with the other person that just may lose control.
'; a marriage is between 2, to have 3 can be a bit over_crowded '; !!
ABSOLUTELY!
If it's been found out, then yes, ties should be cut.
They should cut it off totally. If your spouse has any respect for you it would have never started. The marriage will never work if this person is still in the picture. Get out now before it goes any farther.
Yes cut all ties with this person regardless of who they are or what they are. Even if it is family related.
Yes!!! I went through that situation and it is impossible to remain friends with someone you have been with if you decide to make things work with your spouse.
To your question, yes, all ties should be cut. If they are not cut then there will always be doubts and suspisions. It is hard enough for a couple to truely work things out and forgive each other by themselves, much less with that person still around. Now, just to put in my two cents....this advice should not be taken for more than what it is. In other words, if the couple is married and then has an affair then all ties should be cut. I do not believe, however, that when a couple gets married the spouse should tell the other spouse that they have to severe all ties with ex's. Sorry just wanted to add that in
Yes all ties should be cut off. They cannot be considered good friends because they crossed the boundary of that and it changes everything. If two people can get that comfortable that they can have sex together they can be just as comfortable to do it again.This person has to be removed for the sake of the marriage and for the comfort zone of the spouse affected by them cheating. There should be no reason for them to remain friends and for the spouse to accept them still being connected as friends. It is a dangerous relationship if you mean for your marriage to do well. For someone to remain in a marriage with me their so called friendship or whatever they want to call it would have to go!! If my spouse needed that friendship so much over what hurt it caused me I would have no reason to trust or go on with my marriage.
What the hell? What are they doing still living? Let alone still friends? I wouldn't have to worry about the B*tch, 'cause she would be either 6 feet under or too scared to come around again!!
YES!!!! It will only cause hurtful memories and a lot of animosity.
YES! it will not do anyone any good to keep any type of relationship going because the past will always be in your present. To let go of the past, you have to look forward to the future and start out with new adventures, new friends, etc. We've all made mistakes in the past, now its time to learn from them and go forward. Nothing healthy can come out of this type of friendship. There will always be a doubt, there will always be a question and there will always be the image that you cannot erase from you mind. Just try to make new memories now. Good Luck!
I think you already know the answer to this question. Who ever the person was that your spouse had an affair with shouldn't be in the picture period. Don't you think if this person was a good friend they wouldn't have slept with your spouse...if it's your spouse who thinks the person should still be in your lives...I'd have to say something still might be going on.
You both should absolutely cut all ties with the person involved in the affair. How can you begin to heal your marriage when there is a person around that is a constant reminder of infidelity in your relationship?
To put it bluntly the ones that should be cutting ties is the husband and wife. I mean come on people if you are in a happy loving relationship you are not going to go out and screw around. People that screw around are not in happy loving relationships so why stay in them? Oh I know we can work it out. Lets get real you had problems before the affair and you will have even more after the affair, Now you are not only in an unhappy loveless marriage you also don't have any trust.
The trust you have amongst eachother needs to be worked on.
Yes. All ties should be completely cut.
You will never heal if the ';other'; person is still in the picture.
What if's will be surrounding you.
Even the chance to try to regain trust would be absolutely impossible.
It's hard enough when the other person is NOT in the picture.
it want work the person needs to be totally cut off he or she will only be a reminder and that you will never to be able to forget what happened.
Absolutely!!!! How can you ever trust the person who had the affair if they are STILL talking to the person that they had the affair with??? If the person is not out of the picture, then there is no way that the marriage can be the priority in that person's life. It sounds very selfish for the one person not to cut the person that they had the affair with out of their life!!!
no you cant i personally would kill the other person friend or not lol
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!鈥?that clear enough
The person who almost destroyed the marriage is definately not allowed to stay on the scene or ever be mentioned ever again. If the decision to stay together is serious then i can't see any reason why this person needs to be anywhere near the relationship. I'm sure it states that in the rules of getting back togehter situatuions....lol
If it's getting in the way. Then first both of you agree to do this then talk to the 3rd party telling them that you are both taking a break from the 3 of you, %26amp; stay out of contact with them for a while. Until you 2 are back on track. Good friends or not, it's causing tension.
Of course the ties should be cut to at the very least to show that your relationship is more important. Keep the other person around is like having a back up in case the marriage craps out.
Hmmm....personally I couldn't work through that, secondly helll yeah that person needs to be cut offff...thats just a given.
no
of course they should, that's rule # 1 if you decide to stay togetherShould you or your spouse cut all ties with someone either of you had an affair with?
This person should not be in the picture atall, the same will happen all over again x
All ties should be cut. Some therapists suggest even relocating to a different town for a fresh start. If they are still in touch, there are still feelings there. Period.
well if they have a child together the other person will always be in the picture
Yup, the spouse comes first. If you dont do this, you are showing your spouse that the other person comes first in your life.
Yes! The only way to have a successful marriage is too get rid of everything that will get you into the biggest hellhole ever with your man or woman. But my question to you is: Why would you go to risks of having an affair? When you get married you give your life to the your husband/wife. Not your ex-girlfriend or something. It is a very dumb questiion that you asked. And you will never be ';just friends'; there will always be a strong connection with the other person that just may lose control.
'; a marriage is between 2, to have 3 can be a bit over_crowded '; !!
ABSOLUTELY!
If it's been found out, then yes, ties should be cut.
They should cut it off totally. If your spouse has any respect for you it would have never started. The marriage will never work if this person is still in the picture. Get out now before it goes any farther.
Yes cut all ties with this person regardless of who they are or what they are. Even if it is family related.
Yes!!! I went through that situation and it is impossible to remain friends with someone you have been with if you decide to make things work with your spouse.
To your question, yes, all ties should be cut. If they are not cut then there will always be doubts and suspisions. It is hard enough for a couple to truely work things out and forgive each other by themselves, much less with that person still around. Now, just to put in my two cents....this advice should not be taken for more than what it is. In other words, if the couple is married and then has an affair then all ties should be cut. I do not believe, however, that when a couple gets married the spouse should tell the other spouse that they have to severe all ties with ex's. Sorry just wanted to add that in
Yes all ties should be cut off. They cannot be considered good friends because they crossed the boundary of that and it changes everything. If two people can get that comfortable that they can have sex together they can be just as comfortable to do it again.This person has to be removed for the sake of the marriage and for the comfort zone of the spouse affected by them cheating. There should be no reason for them to remain friends and for the spouse to accept them still being connected as friends. It is a dangerous relationship if you mean for your marriage to do well. For someone to remain in a marriage with me their so called friendship or whatever they want to call it would have to go!! If my spouse needed that friendship so much over what hurt it caused me I would have no reason to trust or go on with my marriage.
What the hell? What are they doing still living? Let alone still friends? I wouldn't have to worry about the B*tch, 'cause she would be either 6 feet under or too scared to come around again!!
YES!!!! It will only cause hurtful memories and a lot of animosity.
YES! it will not do anyone any good to keep any type of relationship going because the past will always be in your present. To let go of the past, you have to look forward to the future and start out with new adventures, new friends, etc. We've all made mistakes in the past, now its time to learn from them and go forward. Nothing healthy can come out of this type of friendship. There will always be a doubt, there will always be a question and there will always be the image that you cannot erase from you mind. Just try to make new memories now. Good Luck!
I think you already know the answer to this question. Who ever the person was that your spouse had an affair with shouldn't be in the picture period. Don't you think if this person was a good friend they wouldn't have slept with your spouse...if it's your spouse who thinks the person should still be in your lives...I'd have to say something still might be going on.
You both should absolutely cut all ties with the person involved in the affair. How can you begin to heal your marriage when there is a person around that is a constant reminder of infidelity in your relationship?
To put it bluntly the ones that should be cutting ties is the husband and wife. I mean come on people if you are in a happy loving relationship you are not going to go out and screw around. People that screw around are not in happy loving relationships so why stay in them? Oh I know we can work it out. Lets get real you had problems before the affair and you will have even more after the affair, Now you are not only in an unhappy loveless marriage you also don't have any trust.
The trust you have amongst eachother needs to be worked on.
Yes. All ties should be completely cut.
You will never heal if the ';other'; person is still in the picture.
What if's will be surrounding you.
Even the chance to try to regain trust would be absolutely impossible.
It's hard enough when the other person is NOT in the picture.
it want work the person needs to be totally cut off he or she will only be a reminder and that you will never to be able to forget what happened.
Absolutely!!!! How can you ever trust the person who had the affair if they are STILL talking to the person that they had the affair with??? If the person is not out of the picture, then there is no way that the marriage can be the priority in that person's life. It sounds very selfish for the one person not to cut the person that they had the affair with out of their life!!!
no you cant i personally would kill the other person friend or not lol
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!鈥?that clear enough
The person who almost destroyed the marriage is definately not allowed to stay on the scene or ever be mentioned ever again. If the decision to stay together is serious then i can't see any reason why this person needs to be anywhere near the relationship. I'm sure it states that in the rules of getting back togehter situatuions....lol
If it's getting in the way. Then first both of you agree to do this then talk to the 3rd party telling them that you are both taking a break from the 3 of you, %26amp; stay out of contact with them for a while. Until you 2 are back on track. Good friends or not, it's causing tension.
Of course the ties should be cut to at the very least to show that your relationship is more important. Keep the other person around is like having a back up in case the marriage craps out.
Hmmm....personally I couldn't work through that, secondly helll yeah that person needs to be cut offff...thats just a given.
no
No one brings their spouse with them when they go to their job. Why do politicians do it?
To appear like family-friendly people?
No one brings their spouse with them when they go to their job. Why do politicians do it?
For the appearance sake. ';Look at me, I'm a wholesome family man, just like you, I'm one of you, I understand your problems';. No one brings their spouse with them when they go to their job. Why do politicians do it?
Because in a regular job the spouse has nothing to do with it. In politics the spouse often has jobs to perform, as the First Lady, Governor's wife, etc.
Yes, to appear that they are just like the rest of us. I wonder why Barney Frank never brings his significant other to work..
Tradition.
No one brings their spouse with them when they go to their job. Why do politicians do it?
For the appearance sake. ';Look at me, I'm a wholesome family man, just like you, I'm one of you, I understand your problems';. No one brings their spouse with them when they go to their job. Why do politicians do it?
Because in a regular job the spouse has nothing to do with it. In politics the spouse often has jobs to perform, as the First Lady, Governor's wife, etc.
Yes, to appear that they are just like the rest of us. I wonder why Barney Frank never brings his significant other to work..
Tradition.
Married men & women, do you keep some things private from your spouse?
Many of us have separate bank accounts but besides that do you keep other things private?
My husband does keep things private from me but that's how I met him and I don't expect him to change that. However I don't think I keep anything from him. It doesn't really bother me but I'm just wondering if it's common amongst other married couples.Married men %26amp; women, do you keep some things private from your spouse?
Yes. I think it is normal for someone not to share EVERYTHING with their spouse. You wouldn't be your own person if you did.
I have been married for 9 years and I love my husband very much, but there are a few things that I consider private and I wouldn't show it to him.
I like to write stories and write in my journal as an example. I wouldn't be too happy if I found out that he read them. They are my own private feelings and I feel like everyone is entitled to some secrets, as long as they wouldn't be devastating to the marriage or family.
Harmless secrets are fine and normal. If you are hiding an affair, drug problem, etc. then that is not okay in my opinion.
Good question by the way!
Edited to add: I read everyone else's replies and I just wanted to clarify my own reply.
I don't think it is okay to be secretive when it involves interactions with other people (phone calls, e-mails, etc.). My husband can always read my letters, e-mails, or listen in on my phone calls. Neither of us have anything to hide there.
But I think everyone is entitled to have secretive feelings. When my husband and I have an argument then quite often I retreat with my journal and write down my feelings and get it all out. I vent my frustrations and then when I am calm I am able to speak to him and work things out. It is very therepeutic and I reccomend it.
But my journal is not something that he needs to read. They are MY feelings. If I want to share them with him then I will tell him.
Other than those harmless ';secrets';, I don't think hiding something from your spouse is a good idea.Married men %26amp; women, do you keep some things private from your spouse?
Not married, but been with the same guy for six and a half years, so I'll answer anyway. I am very much open like you. My boyfriend knows my passwords to almost everything and I am very open and honest about a lot of things. My boyfriend is very private and has never shared as much as I have. It has bothered me because he's lied to me about some really not ok things, but we've worked through it. If I don't trust him, then we don't have a relationship, so I let him do this private thing and let things be.
Im married and me and my husband try to be as open and honest only to the extent where it is helpful and productive to our marriage or vital. Basically if something happens that we know the other would want to know we tell if not we don't. I prefer to know more than my husband does so he tells me small usually unimportant things. My husband prefers not to know most things so I keep them to myself. We have found that the don't ask don't tell policy works best though. Somethings are left better unspoken.
we have separate bank accounts b/c he would take money out and not tell me. i keep things to myself because he is an insecure jerk who thinks i screw every man in town because i have ';guy friends';(his words not mine) most of which are co workers or people who help me on the job. so it's just easier to not talk about work. he keeps things from me like what he paid for things (actual amount) and then i find receipts just laying around. so i just try to forget
Yes he does keep things privet. The main reason is he doesn't feel i need to concern myself with the mundane in and out of a lot of things he has to deal with . It is more protection than anything else. He simply wants me to feel loved and taken car of, which i am. So no it truly does not bother me.
We keep some stuff private from each other, but nothing particularly important. Sometimes privacy is just a feature of personality and there's nothing sinister about it.
My husband and I share everything and make family decisions together, Marriage is not a place for secrets. I learned that in my first marriage.
Shouldn't be any secrets. Bank accounts, email.. if you've got nothing to hide, you don't have to worry about privacy.
I have only kept one thing private from my husband. If I told him what it was then he may not trust me again. What I did happened when I was married to my first husband.
I have no secrets. I don't think he has any either. We even share our bank accounts so as far as I know, we are both open books.
He kept a secret bank account from me, i guess it was to support him and his girlfriend!
I don't keep secrets. I have kept some thoughts to myself but I would reather be honest about things.
No I don't and I don't think my husband does. If he does, I am sure it's nothing major. I trust him.
Got to. Wouldnt be married to long if I relenquish all that I have going on on the low
I don't and my wife does not ether.
We both prefer to answer calls of Nature alone and in privacy behind closed bathroom doors...somehow having a conversation while someone is either urinating or pooping doesn't seem right, lol.
As far as anything else, nope.No secrets.glitter eyeshadow eye color
My husband does keep things private from me but that's how I met him and I don't expect him to change that. However I don't think I keep anything from him. It doesn't really bother me but I'm just wondering if it's common amongst other married couples.Married men %26amp; women, do you keep some things private from your spouse?
Yes. I think it is normal for someone not to share EVERYTHING with their spouse. You wouldn't be your own person if you did.
I have been married for 9 years and I love my husband very much, but there are a few things that I consider private and I wouldn't show it to him.
I like to write stories and write in my journal as an example. I wouldn't be too happy if I found out that he read them. They are my own private feelings and I feel like everyone is entitled to some secrets, as long as they wouldn't be devastating to the marriage or family.
Harmless secrets are fine and normal. If you are hiding an affair, drug problem, etc. then that is not okay in my opinion.
Good question by the way!
Edited to add: I read everyone else's replies and I just wanted to clarify my own reply.
I don't think it is okay to be secretive when it involves interactions with other people (phone calls, e-mails, etc.). My husband can always read my letters, e-mails, or listen in on my phone calls. Neither of us have anything to hide there.
But I think everyone is entitled to have secretive feelings. When my husband and I have an argument then quite often I retreat with my journal and write down my feelings and get it all out. I vent my frustrations and then when I am calm I am able to speak to him and work things out. It is very therepeutic and I reccomend it.
But my journal is not something that he needs to read. They are MY feelings. If I want to share them with him then I will tell him.
Other than those harmless ';secrets';, I don't think hiding something from your spouse is a good idea.Married men %26amp; women, do you keep some things private from your spouse?
Not married, but been with the same guy for six and a half years, so I'll answer anyway. I am very much open like you. My boyfriend knows my passwords to almost everything and I am very open and honest about a lot of things. My boyfriend is very private and has never shared as much as I have. It has bothered me because he's lied to me about some really not ok things, but we've worked through it. If I don't trust him, then we don't have a relationship, so I let him do this private thing and let things be.
Im married and me and my husband try to be as open and honest only to the extent where it is helpful and productive to our marriage or vital. Basically if something happens that we know the other would want to know we tell if not we don't. I prefer to know more than my husband does so he tells me small usually unimportant things. My husband prefers not to know most things so I keep them to myself. We have found that the don't ask don't tell policy works best though. Somethings are left better unspoken.
we have separate bank accounts b/c he would take money out and not tell me. i keep things to myself because he is an insecure jerk who thinks i screw every man in town because i have ';guy friends';(his words not mine) most of which are co workers or people who help me on the job. so it's just easier to not talk about work. he keeps things from me like what he paid for things (actual amount) and then i find receipts just laying around. so i just try to forget
Yes he does keep things privet. The main reason is he doesn't feel i need to concern myself with the mundane in and out of a lot of things he has to deal with . It is more protection than anything else. He simply wants me to feel loved and taken car of, which i am. So no it truly does not bother me.
We keep some stuff private from each other, but nothing particularly important. Sometimes privacy is just a feature of personality and there's nothing sinister about it.
My husband and I share everything and make family decisions together, Marriage is not a place for secrets. I learned that in my first marriage.
Shouldn't be any secrets. Bank accounts, email.. if you've got nothing to hide, you don't have to worry about privacy.
I have only kept one thing private from my husband. If I told him what it was then he may not trust me again. What I did happened when I was married to my first husband.
I have no secrets. I don't think he has any either. We even share our bank accounts so as far as I know, we are both open books.
He kept a secret bank account from me, i guess it was to support him and his girlfriend!
I don't keep secrets. I have kept some thoughts to myself but I would reather be honest about things.
No I don't and I don't think my husband does. If he does, I am sure it's nothing major. I trust him.
Got to. Wouldnt be married to long if I relenquish all that I have going on on the low
I don't and my wife does not ether.
We both prefer to answer calls of Nature alone and in privacy behind closed bathroom doors...somehow having a conversation while someone is either urinating or pooping doesn't seem right, lol.
As far as anything else, nope.No secrets.
Did you tell your spouse or significant other that they couldn't spend PART of Christmas?
with their mother and father. If so, why?Did you tell your spouse or significant other that they couldn't spend PART of Christmas?
I would never do that. I don't own my spouse/significant other. They are not an object which I own or control. They are not a pet that I have trained. They are not a prisoner which I cage. But instead a human being with feelings and a mind of their own. Free to make these decisions on their own.Did you tell your spouse or significant other that they couldn't spend PART of Christmas?
Of course not. I am not my husband's mommy, I am his wife. If he wants to spend all the holidays with his family, that's his choice.
NOTE: Ladies, if you (figuratively) cut off his penis and put it in a jar under the sink, he will be unhappy. Men: Do not allow her to cut it off.
of course not. things work out great for us to begin with b/c his family does christmas eve and mine christmas day. but if there ever came a time when he needed to go on christmas day i wouldn't say anything . that's his family for pete's sake.
nope, family is important, if he wants to spend it with his parents i spend time with mine, nothing wrong with that
NO WAY!!! There is a control issue here.
No, neither of us do that.
I never did and never will. He can do as he pleases with OUR money.
No.
I don't own my partner.
I would never do that. I don't own my spouse/significant other. They are not an object which I own or control. They are not a pet that I have trained. They are not a prisoner which I cage. But instead a human being with feelings and a mind of their own. Free to make these decisions on their own.Did you tell your spouse or significant other that they couldn't spend PART of Christmas?
Of course not. I am not my husband's mommy, I am his wife. If he wants to spend all the holidays with his family, that's his choice.
NOTE: Ladies, if you (figuratively) cut off his penis and put it in a jar under the sink, he will be unhappy. Men: Do not allow her to cut it off.
of course not. things work out great for us to begin with b/c his family does christmas eve and mine christmas day. but if there ever came a time when he needed to go on christmas day i wouldn't say anything . that's his family for pete's sake.
nope, family is important, if he wants to spend it with his parents i spend time with mine, nothing wrong with that
NO WAY!!! There is a control issue here.
No, neither of us do that.
I never did and never will. He can do as he pleases with OUR money.
No.
I don't own my partner.
Should online flirting be a cause to break up with your spouse?
As long as it's only flirting and you know that the flirting won't lead to anything it shouldn't be a problem. However if the flirting leads to things such as you-know-what, then it should stop immediatly.
if the flirting makes anyone unconfortable, it should stop ASAP, no questions asked, JUST STOP. If you and your spouse had made a commitment to each other to ne with each other because of your love, it should be tested by online fliritng like that.Should online flirting be a cause to break up with your spouse?
I would break up with someone if they were flirting with someone else.
It really does depend on what your definition of flirting is.
If you're like ';What you wearing?'; and the other person is like ';nothing ;)'; and you say ';hot ;) lol';
that's just silly flirting, everyone does that. But if there's serious flirting, with role playing or actually organising to get together...
i would kick my partner to the curb so fast.Should online flirting be a cause to break up with your spouse?
it depends
if the spouse is meeting up with that person, sending nasty pictures, saying nasty things, or saying i love you can be bad
but before any breaking up happens
there needs to be communication
because maybe a lack of it casued this
well i get why your spouse would get angry. but i dont think it would be something worth breaking up over
so...if its ONLY flirting... no
that happened to my uncle...
depends.. are you and this online 'friend.' getting personal?
if the flirting makes anyone unconfortable, it should stop ASAP, no questions asked, JUST STOP. If you and your spouse had made a commitment to each other to ne with each other because of your love, it should be tested by online fliritng like that.Should online flirting be a cause to break up with your spouse?
I would break up with someone if they were flirting with someone else.
It really does depend on what your definition of flirting is.
If you're like ';What you wearing?'; and the other person is like ';nothing ;)'; and you say ';hot ;) lol';
that's just silly flirting, everyone does that. But if there's serious flirting, with role playing or actually organising to get together...
i would kick my partner to the curb so fast.Should online flirting be a cause to break up with your spouse?
it depends
if the spouse is meeting up with that person, sending nasty pictures, saying nasty things, or saying i love you can be bad
but before any breaking up happens
there needs to be communication
because maybe a lack of it casued this
well i get why your spouse would get angry. but i dont think it would be something worth breaking up over
so...if its ONLY flirting... no
that happened to my uncle...
depends.. are you and this online 'friend.' getting personal?
What would you do if you suggested role-playing and your spouse asked you to dress up like Santa Claus?
Too weird?What would you do if you suggested role-playing and your spouse asked you to dress up like Santa Claus?
If *my* spouse asked *me* to dress up like Santa Claus?!
Bwahahahaha!!!! ::lmao::
You always give me the most bizarre things to think about. (o_O)
Hmm well I suppose if that is why my partner truly desired, hey, I'll try anything once. Or twice.
But *me*...
as Santa Claus....??
::rofl::What would you do if you suggested role-playing and your spouse asked you to dress up like Santa Claus?
Assuming she was serious (you should find a Very gentle way to ask her this)....DO IT.
If you're the one who suggested role-playing and that's what she wants, who're you to decide if it's ';weird';. If you want it, she told you how to get it. Better than her telling you she wants you to be a baby %26amp; wear a diaper or a dog collar. There are much worse things than Santa. And I agree with one of the comments above, especially this time of year, there are a ton of sexy Halloween costumes. I'm sure an elf could be found.
Hey! My hubby is a ringer for Santa Claus......twinkly eyes, dimpled cheeks (both sets, lol) chubby with a tummy and a beautiful full silvery beard %26amp; moustasche.......
So he's already there..dressed by Nature! lol..and he sure does jingle my bells.......
Hahaha, Santa doesn't personally do it for me, but, watch the movie Bad Santa, it'll give you an idea of how much she is not alone :) Have fun and roll with it!
HA HA....
Are you sure she wasn't joking? LOL
If not, go for it.... do it for her this one time and she'll see that you are serious about it and maybe it will make her more willing to do some things for you. (Kinky things, not weird things!)
Good luck!
That's better than the chicken suit. All those yellow feathers get everywhere. And in the most uncomfortable places. Not that I would know. I don't know anything about chicken suits.
Nope I would open my pants fly and give her a present. LMAO there is a kid in all of us at time,,,,,have fun,,,,,,or may be is all about the beard.LMAO
Not good enough. Santa only comes once a year and even then its down the chimney.
I have a deluxe vader costume I would love to have a go around with myself
nah but I would prefer Mrs claus.
haha she could be your little elf helper!! LOL!!
It would just confirm my suspicions of him
I'd be like ';HO HO HO!!';
I'd treat her like a HOE, HOE, HOE!!!!
If *my* spouse asked *me* to dress up like Santa Claus?!
Bwahahahaha!!!! ::lmao::
You always give me the most bizarre things to think about. (o_O)
Hmm well I suppose if that is why my partner truly desired, hey, I'll try anything once. Or twice.
But *me*...
as Santa Claus....??
::rofl::What would you do if you suggested role-playing and your spouse asked you to dress up like Santa Claus?
Assuming she was serious (you should find a Very gentle way to ask her this)....DO IT.
If you're the one who suggested role-playing and that's what she wants, who're you to decide if it's ';weird';. If you want it, she told you how to get it. Better than her telling you she wants you to be a baby %26amp; wear a diaper or a dog collar. There are much worse things than Santa. And I agree with one of the comments above, especially this time of year, there are a ton of sexy Halloween costumes. I'm sure an elf could be found.
Hey! My hubby is a ringer for Santa Claus......twinkly eyes, dimpled cheeks (both sets, lol) chubby with a tummy and a beautiful full silvery beard %26amp; moustasche.......
So he's already there..dressed by Nature! lol..and he sure does jingle my bells.......
Hahaha, Santa doesn't personally do it for me, but, watch the movie Bad Santa, it'll give you an idea of how much she is not alone :) Have fun and roll with it!
HA HA....
Are you sure she wasn't joking? LOL
If not, go for it.... do it for her this one time and she'll see that you are serious about it and maybe it will make her more willing to do some things for you. (Kinky things, not weird things!)
Good luck!
That's better than the chicken suit. All those yellow feathers get everywhere. And in the most uncomfortable places. Not that I would know. I don't know anything about chicken suits.
Nope I would open my pants fly and give her a present. LMAO there is a kid in all of us at time,,,,,have fun,,,,,,or may be is all about the beard.LMAO
Not good enough. Santa only comes once a year and even then its down the chimney.
I have a deluxe vader costume I would love to have a go around with myself
nah but I would prefer Mrs claus.
haha she could be your little elf helper!! LOL!!
It would just confirm my suspicions of him
I'd be like ';HO HO HO!!';
I'd treat her like a HOE, HOE, HOE!!!!
Should online flirting be a cause to break up with your spouse?
No but it should stop immediately because flirting with another man/woman is disrespectful to a spouse and marriage.Should online flirting be a cause to break up with your spouse?
Personally I would have to answer NO. Not knowing the whole situation though does make it hard to give a general answer. I feel that we use flirting to feel good about ourselves. Also I feel that flirting is innocent most of the time and usually leads to nothing.
MILDRED SENT ME HERE TO HELP YOU**
pitstop83 in Central IllinoisShould online flirting be a cause to break up with your spouse?
It all depends on the circumstances.........was it the final straw???
Or is the first offence ...lol....
Need more information...
no it is only flirting!!!!!!!
Yes, because the attention my spouse were giving to the computer to flirt online should be attention he could be giving me or his children.
No, divorce is a bitter pill for everyone to swallow. It needs to be stopped now before it moves on to something else. Get your honey's attention on you and not the internet. Hide the laptop for a month to break the habit. Let him know that you know and that he must not violate the marriage vows. Describe to each other how awful and lonely it would be to each other to look back at this as the cause of your divorce. Good luck!
i think there is a limit to what u do online when u are married or with someone.. if u have a spouse why would u flirt online with someone.. people are people and they have feelings too.. what would u do if it was the other way around..would u think its ok if he flirted with someone and say oh its ok its only an online thingie.. well i dont think its right and depending on what kind of flirting it is.. but i would sure make it clear that i am there and i demand respect.. good luck
Save the break up's for a true dilemma. Knock him on his *** and tell him to cut the crap or he can continue his flirting online in a different home.
I don't know. That answer can only be answered by the injured spouse.
I would be devastated if this happened to me. I would hope that it could be worked out, but I don't know.
Time heals, but counseling to answer why the spouse felt the need to this might be in order.
If you are immature and insecure, do you really need a reason to leave your spouse? You already have all the reasons you need!
In summary, no, it's not reason enough. It sounds like you're looking for an excuse to leave, and if this is all you have, that's pathetic.
its up to your spouse, not us.
If your spouse is deeply hurt by this and feels things won't get better, then yes... definitely grounds to divorce actually... spouses don't ';break up';
I wouldn't think so, unless your spouse is unwilling to cease these actions. Eventually, it will lead to more than just flirting if it doesn't stop now. If they are unwilling to stop doing it, then yes, it could cause a divorce.
If he will not stop doing it and he know it bothers you then yes. He should not feel the need to flirt with anyone else and if he is doing it then he does not care about for feelings. When someone does something like this it always makes the other person wonder what else will they do. It is stupid to hurt someones feelings that you are suppose to love by doing something like this. He needs to grow up.
Yes because at the end of the day he was still thinking of another person other then you in a sexual/romantic way,
and if he was chatting up another person in front of you in a bar or something you wouldn't stand for it, so why should you put up with it in your own house, I certainly wouldn't.
Personally I would have to answer NO. Not knowing the whole situation though does make it hard to give a general answer. I feel that we use flirting to feel good about ourselves. Also I feel that flirting is innocent most of the time and usually leads to nothing.
MILDRED SENT ME HERE TO HELP YOU**
pitstop83 in Central IllinoisShould online flirting be a cause to break up with your spouse?
It all depends on the circumstances.........was it the final straw???
Or is the first offence ...lol....
Need more information...
no it is only flirting!!!!!!!
Yes, because the attention my spouse were giving to the computer to flirt online should be attention he could be giving me or his children.
No, divorce is a bitter pill for everyone to swallow. It needs to be stopped now before it moves on to something else. Get your honey's attention on you and not the internet. Hide the laptop for a month to break the habit. Let him know that you know and that he must not violate the marriage vows. Describe to each other how awful and lonely it would be to each other to look back at this as the cause of your divorce. Good luck!
i think there is a limit to what u do online when u are married or with someone.. if u have a spouse why would u flirt online with someone.. people are people and they have feelings too.. what would u do if it was the other way around..would u think its ok if he flirted with someone and say oh its ok its only an online thingie.. well i dont think its right and depending on what kind of flirting it is.. but i would sure make it clear that i am there and i demand respect.. good luck
Save the break up's for a true dilemma. Knock him on his *** and tell him to cut the crap or he can continue his flirting online in a different home.
I don't know. That answer can only be answered by the injured spouse.
I would be devastated if this happened to me. I would hope that it could be worked out, but I don't know.
Time heals, but counseling to answer why the spouse felt the need to this might be in order.
If you are immature and insecure, do you really need a reason to leave your spouse? You already have all the reasons you need!
In summary, no, it's not reason enough. It sounds like you're looking for an excuse to leave, and if this is all you have, that's pathetic.
its up to your spouse, not us.
If your spouse is deeply hurt by this and feels things won't get better, then yes... definitely grounds to divorce actually... spouses don't ';break up';
I wouldn't think so, unless your spouse is unwilling to cease these actions. Eventually, it will lead to more than just flirting if it doesn't stop now. If they are unwilling to stop doing it, then yes, it could cause a divorce.
If he will not stop doing it and he know it bothers you then yes. He should not feel the need to flirt with anyone else and if he is doing it then he does not care about for feelings. When someone does something like this it always makes the other person wonder what else will they do. It is stupid to hurt someones feelings that you are suppose to love by doing something like this. He needs to grow up.
Yes because at the end of the day he was still thinking of another person other then you in a sexual/romantic way,
and if he was chatting up another person in front of you in a bar or something you wouldn't stand for it, so why should you put up with it in your own house, I certainly wouldn't.
Why would someone hide their Yahoo Answers online activities from their spouse?
Hmmm, good question. Maybe he has some thoughts that he feels you are better off not reading. Ask him.Why would someone hide their Yahoo Answers online activities from their spouse?
I had a different account over a year ago that I hid from my boyfriend at the time because he would have been furious to see some of the questions I asked ( about how to deal with him) and the kinds of answers I gave ( he would NOT have approved!)
I'm engaged to a completely different guy now and he can look if he wants, he just doesn't.Why would someone hide their Yahoo Answers online activities from their spouse?
They are embarrassed of personal questions they were asking, maybe about the marriage, or are afraid that their spouse will find out the advice they've been giving people. The advice might not ';match up'; with what the spouse thinks you would/should do in a situation, and it might cause some problems.
Because they are saying rotten things about the spouse or are asking questions about something the spouse would disapprove of.
Because they have something to hide. Or embarrassed about some of the things they answered or asked.
maybe b/c they are actually hiding something, i am open with my hubby, and we both come on here and answer Q's together, its so much fun when we do it together!
well if they are on the same computer you can view it anyway no need to hide what can be seen.
Surely people don't have to share everything with their partners.
Sense of guilt, and they keep alot from their partner.
because their spouse is a nosy so and so.
maybe they are trying to cheat and are hiding it..
it was me--i confess!!
idk .. why would they.
I had a different account over a year ago that I hid from my boyfriend at the time because he would have been furious to see some of the questions I asked ( about how to deal with him) and the kinds of answers I gave ( he would NOT have approved!)
I'm engaged to a completely different guy now and he can look if he wants, he just doesn't.Why would someone hide their Yahoo Answers online activities from their spouse?
They are embarrassed of personal questions they were asking, maybe about the marriage, or are afraid that their spouse will find out the advice they've been giving people. The advice might not ';match up'; with what the spouse thinks you would/should do in a situation, and it might cause some problems.
Because they are saying rotten things about the spouse or are asking questions about something the spouse would disapprove of.
Because they have something to hide. Or embarrassed about some of the things they answered or asked.
maybe b/c they are actually hiding something, i am open with my hubby, and we both come on here and answer Q's together, its so much fun when we do it together!
well if they are on the same computer you can view it anyway no need to hide what can be seen.
Surely people don't have to share everything with their partners.
Sense of guilt, and they keep alot from their partner.
because their spouse is a nosy so and so.
maybe they are trying to cheat and are hiding it..
it was me--i confess!!
idk .. why would they.
When you got married, did you tell the church and your spouse that you would love them ';Till Death Do Us Part';?
How''s that going so far?When you got married, did you tell the church and your spouse that you would love them ';Till Death Do Us Part';?
Still love her.
Not dead yet.
The Fat Man said:
Love is God's greatest gift.
The love he so generously shares with us is the same love we have for
Him and the same love we have for one another.
I see the hand of God in many of the things we touch together
I see God's fingerprints all over our relationship.
In the presence of these friends and family members,
In the presence of our Lord and Savior,
I hereby promise to share with you the love God shares with me.
The never ending, unfathomable, unconditional love,
I promise to share with you as we embark upon a most wonderful journey.
To serve God together, where ever He takes us,
For as long as we both shall liveWhen you got married, did you tell the church and your spouse that you would love them ';Till Death Do Us Part';?
With my first marriage, yes I did, but nowhere in the vows did it also say he could push me down and kick me until I begged him to stop. I think in the vows there was also something about respect? So who broke them?
With my second marriage, I also promised this, and right now, no-one has broken any vows, and we just had our 5th anniversary and still plan on keeping those vows with all our heart.
I gave that vow twice in my life. My first husband cheated and left me for another woman after 27 yrs of marriage. He died 2 1/2 years later. I never considered marriage with anyone until after that time. I did find a good man and married again and so far we are both alive and in love.
Red
It shouldn't be a problem if you're in deep, abiding love, now should it?
It's only a problem for the person who doesn't put their faith and trust in their love for another 100% to start off...
Change it if you will, write your own vows - but remember, the idea is to keep them.
Sincerely,
Grace
Well, my religion tell us we're together after death. :) Everything is going great. We had a little argument this morning, but it worked out. :)
ghosh u lot r lucky. i am unfortunate my husband cheated on me and abandoned me in 6months of marriage. i like a fool still believe in the vows and i know he is cheated me for good but somewhere deep down in my heart i still love him. i know it is crazy
Not to preach a sermon but with taking that vow serious and not just saying to say it, it is going absolutely wonderful. 10 yrs married so far.
Not good why, and those vows are left to interpretation, so what they mean is not the same for everyone.
Absolutely I said that I would love my husband until death us do part. It's going great.
well marriage is supposed to last, so why not. I'm glad I found my soul-mate, but I feel sorry for all the women who get fooled by jerks.
Of course........and i meant every word of it. I will love my hub until the day that I die.......whether he is still living or not.
A church wasn't involved in our marriage. It's going great!
not, actually I said... ';till death part do us';.
its going well... just ask your father and he'll update you on our marital situation.
We're both still alive, and we're both still in love.
Doing great. Thanks for asking.
Yes and I meant it!!!! We are very happy!
We did. Finished twenty years next month.
it will be much better once I meet my makerglitter eyeshadow eye color
Still love her.
Not dead yet.
The Fat Man said:
Love is God's greatest gift.
The love he so generously shares with us is the same love we have for
Him and the same love we have for one another.
I see the hand of God in many of the things we touch together
I see God's fingerprints all over our relationship.
In the presence of these friends and family members,
In the presence of our Lord and Savior,
I hereby promise to share with you the love God shares with me.
The never ending, unfathomable, unconditional love,
I promise to share with you as we embark upon a most wonderful journey.
To serve God together, where ever He takes us,
For as long as we both shall liveWhen you got married, did you tell the church and your spouse that you would love them ';Till Death Do Us Part';?
With my first marriage, yes I did, but nowhere in the vows did it also say he could push me down and kick me until I begged him to stop. I think in the vows there was also something about respect? So who broke them?
With my second marriage, I also promised this, and right now, no-one has broken any vows, and we just had our 5th anniversary and still plan on keeping those vows with all our heart.
I gave that vow twice in my life. My first husband cheated and left me for another woman after 27 yrs of marriage. He died 2 1/2 years later. I never considered marriage with anyone until after that time. I did find a good man and married again and so far we are both alive and in love.
Red
It shouldn't be a problem if you're in deep, abiding love, now should it?
It's only a problem for the person who doesn't put their faith and trust in their love for another 100% to start off...
Change it if you will, write your own vows - but remember, the idea is to keep them.
Sincerely,
Grace
Well, my religion tell us we're together after death. :) Everything is going great. We had a little argument this morning, but it worked out. :)
ghosh u lot r lucky. i am unfortunate my husband cheated on me and abandoned me in 6months of marriage. i like a fool still believe in the vows and i know he is cheated me for good but somewhere deep down in my heart i still love him. i know it is crazy
Not to preach a sermon but with taking that vow serious and not just saying to say it, it is going absolutely wonderful. 10 yrs married so far.
Not good why, and those vows are left to interpretation, so what they mean is not the same for everyone.
Absolutely I said that I would love my husband until death us do part. It's going great.
well marriage is supposed to last, so why not. I'm glad I found my soul-mate, but I feel sorry for all the women who get fooled by jerks.
Of course........and i meant every word of it. I will love my hub until the day that I die.......whether he is still living or not.
A church wasn't involved in our marriage. It's going great!
not, actually I said... ';till death part do us';.
its going well... just ask your father and he'll update you on our marital situation.
We're both still alive, and we're both still in love.
Doing great. Thanks for asking.
Yes and I meant it!!!! We are very happy!
We did. Finished twenty years next month.
it will be much better once I meet my maker
Do You and your spouse like amusement parks?
Do you go together- even if you don't have kids?Do You and your spouse like amusement parks?
Well, we do have kids, but we love going, and riding rides together. We live less than an hour from one of the best in the US: Six Flags over GA. They recently installed a coaster called Goliath which is enormous, fast, and smooth, the best I've ever ridden.Do You and your spouse like amusement parks?
Of course! Living in Florida, we make it a point to go to Universal Studios and Islands of Adventure, Disney, Sea World, Busch Gardens, Wet %26amp; Wild and all the other fun places to go! We love to go by ourselves but usually go with a group of 6 other friends and roll through the parks like we own it, lol!
Me and my husband have been there 3x...and we have kids. When they get older we'll take them so we can go on the rides and stuff together. We take them to local festivals and parks and stuff, but we want to go to the amusement park for all the roller coasters, not the kiddie stuff. Does that make me a bad mom?
We love amusement parks and have season passes to Disneyland. Sometimes we take our daughter but we also like to go alone for date night!
We love Disneyland! We have 2 kids and we try to go at least once a month since we have annual passes. I think even without kids we would still enjoy it because we are still young at heart. :D
yes we always have a seasons pass to canadas wonderland. no kids. i love the water park!!! woo!!!
well,the divorce is quite amusing ........
Well, we do have kids, but we love going, and riding rides together. We live less than an hour from one of the best in the US: Six Flags over GA. They recently installed a coaster called Goliath which is enormous, fast, and smooth, the best I've ever ridden.Do You and your spouse like amusement parks?
Of course! Living in Florida, we make it a point to go to Universal Studios and Islands of Adventure, Disney, Sea World, Busch Gardens, Wet %26amp; Wild and all the other fun places to go! We love to go by ourselves but usually go with a group of 6 other friends and roll through the parks like we own it, lol!
Me and my husband have been there 3x...and we have kids. When they get older we'll take them so we can go on the rides and stuff together. We take them to local festivals and parks and stuff, but we want to go to the amusement park for all the roller coasters, not the kiddie stuff. Does that make me a bad mom?
We love amusement parks and have season passes to Disneyland. Sometimes we take our daughter but we also like to go alone for date night!
We love Disneyland! We have 2 kids and we try to go at least once a month since we have annual passes. I think even without kids we would still enjoy it because we are still young at heart. :D
yes we always have a seasons pass to canadas wonderland. no kids. i love the water park!!! woo!!!
well,the divorce is quite amusing ........
Dear HR: Is my spouse's graduate program creating employment discrimination for me?
I am a contract employee and have been talking with my employer (not agency) since my start date about being hired on full-time with the company. They love my performance and think the world of me.
When getting to know them, they asked certain questions about my personal life (spouse, children, etc.) and I confided in them that my husband is attending graduate school and we are originally from another town.
Then, things changed. I was talking with my employer who then asked about my anticipated length of service. I told them at least 2 years, due to my current situation. They told me they don't know if they want to take that risk with me (hire me on as a regular employee). They want a firm commitment for longer than that amount of time from me.
The agency wants me to stay on a permanent temp to get more money. Is this discrimination? What are my rights?Dear HR: Is my spouse's graduate program creating employment discrimination for me?
There are two forms of discrimination, legal and illegal,
If they discriminate against you because of race, sex, race, maybe even sexual orientation, you have a legal right.
but if they discriminate because they don't beleive you willl stay there, or because you have red hair, or because you are too tall, they can do that, since there is no law against it.
Why not just tell them you have talked it over and would plan on staying 5 years. So you leave after 2 it is called lying at the interview, most people always do that when asked how long will you stay. Since you will stay till you get a better job offer or move or somethingDear HR: Is my spouse's graduate program creating employment discrimination for me?
Regularization does not require commitment for longer period of time in the company. If you want to leave the company, you can do so because it is allowed under the law.
and go to confession after lying too right. lol talk to an employment lawyer if economically possible. here in my city in florida they give free consultation for the first visit.
This is not discrimination as they are saying that some of the criteria are:
1. Commitment
2. Qualifications (Which you state you have)
Obviously they need to consider the fact that you may not be able to stay that long and will end up having to get another employee after you leave.
When getting to know them, they asked certain questions about my personal life (spouse, children, etc.) and I confided in them that my husband is attending graduate school and we are originally from another town.
Then, things changed. I was talking with my employer who then asked about my anticipated length of service. I told them at least 2 years, due to my current situation. They told me they don't know if they want to take that risk with me (hire me on as a regular employee). They want a firm commitment for longer than that amount of time from me.
The agency wants me to stay on a permanent temp to get more money. Is this discrimination? What are my rights?Dear HR: Is my spouse's graduate program creating employment discrimination for me?
There are two forms of discrimination, legal and illegal,
If they discriminate against you because of race, sex, race, maybe even sexual orientation, you have a legal right.
but if they discriminate because they don't beleive you willl stay there, or because you have red hair, or because you are too tall, they can do that, since there is no law against it.
Why not just tell them you have talked it over and would plan on staying 5 years. So you leave after 2 it is called lying at the interview, most people always do that when asked how long will you stay. Since you will stay till you get a better job offer or move or somethingDear HR: Is my spouse's graduate program creating employment discrimination for me?
Regularization does not require commitment for longer period of time in the company. If you want to leave the company, you can do so because it is allowed under the law.
and go to confession after lying too right. lol talk to an employment lawyer if economically possible. here in my city in florida they give free consultation for the first visit.
This is not discrimination as they are saying that some of the criteria are:
1. Commitment
2. Qualifications (Which you state you have)
Obviously they need to consider the fact that you may not be able to stay that long and will end up having to get another employee after you leave.
How often does your spouse tell you that he/she loves you?
my husband tells me that he loves and adores me all the time. How often does your spouse tell you that he/she loves you?
Constantly. We tell each other all the time, just out of the blue. Some of our friends and family are amazed by it. I wouldnt have it any other way. How often does your spouse tell you that he/she loves you?
My boyfriend tells me all the time. Multiple times when we talk on the phone, randomly throughout the day he texts me ';i love you'; and he does it when Im feeling really sad and he doesn't know what else to say. The important thing though that I feel is better then saying ';i love you'; is showing a person you love them. It really shows they mean it. He does this through being there for me through thick and thin, respecting me and doing things for me because he wants to not because I ask him to.
I never hear my mom and dad say it, but they kiss whenever the other comes home from work and they always go out together (movies, dinner) and every now and then I hear them getting it on, which is gross beyond reason but in a twisted way, it makes me happy that they're a healthy couple. They show it so much, I guess they don't have to say it.
thats his way of showing that he really care for you and he'll do anything to keep you two together always and forever and to show you that he put alot of faith in you and love you for who you are. i have a girlfriend and she tells me she loves me too and i reply back to that also.
My partner of one year hasn't said it yet. He shows it all the time though, and I can see and feel it.
I used to be with this guy for 5 years that would tell me ALL the time, over the top and to me they just became words he said - his actions told me otherwise.
I prefer things the way they are now!
I freaking ADORE my soon to be hubby. ADORE ADORE ADORE... we sing to each other. We hardly even have to think abou tit and when one leaves the room or goes somewhere we always say ';I love you,'; but it isnt routine or mechanical. sometimes its like ';HEY YOU...(pause) love you mostest!'; He even does that around his friends... ';Hey baby? I love ya!';
my boyfriend goes through bursts of 'love'.
he'll say it every 2 seconds sometimes.
and then won't say it again for awhile.
he does say it alot everyday though. :)
you're lucky you have such a loving hubby!
My husband tells me several times a day that he loves me. He also tells my son that. And we tell him the same. It really makes a difference, i think.
he shows it every day..he says it when he HAS to lol..my boy isnt one for alot of words and mushiness, but I know when he brings home a cupcake, or a book Ive wanted, hes been thinking about me :)
About 2-3 times a day when he goes to work. when we not together he calls me and before we hang up he tells me he loves me and when we go to sleep. We tell eachother we love eachother alot!
Every day. :) Along with hugs and kisses, that I consider to be very important, as you never know when it will be your last.
not very frequently right now. she is prego and goes through massive mood swings. one day she is all over me, the next she is not in the mood for lovings
At some point everyday he says ';Have I told you I love you today Ms. Anna';? I say NO %26amp; pout a little %26amp; then he smothers me to make up for it LOL!
All the time moro mou,just like I do you.
Quite often but it took some time. haha
That is great your husband is expressing his love to you!
My husband tells me I love you morning, noon and nite.... We must say we love each other at least 20 times a day!!!
Every night ~__~
My fiance tells me how pretty I am and how much he loves me about, oh, 20 times a day? He's a sweety.
Especially at night. Giggity Giggity Goo!
He does say it but only if i say to him 1st.
Multiple times a day.
be happy with him. r not u? why do u want to know the truth??????????
my wife never loves me ..........................
every morning, afternoon, %26amp; night.
i love him just as much :).
Couple times a day
all day!
yep..
for us everyday is a valentine day... we say Love u :)
buy gifts!! go to movies, have food out..love each other..
Constantly. We tell each other all the time, just out of the blue. Some of our friends and family are amazed by it. I wouldnt have it any other way. How often does your spouse tell you that he/she loves you?
My boyfriend tells me all the time. Multiple times when we talk on the phone, randomly throughout the day he texts me ';i love you'; and he does it when Im feeling really sad and he doesn't know what else to say. The important thing though that I feel is better then saying ';i love you'; is showing a person you love them. It really shows they mean it. He does this through being there for me through thick and thin, respecting me and doing things for me because he wants to not because I ask him to.
I never hear my mom and dad say it, but they kiss whenever the other comes home from work and they always go out together (movies, dinner) and every now and then I hear them getting it on, which is gross beyond reason but in a twisted way, it makes me happy that they're a healthy couple. They show it so much, I guess they don't have to say it.
thats his way of showing that he really care for you and he'll do anything to keep you two together always and forever and to show you that he put alot of faith in you and love you for who you are. i have a girlfriend and she tells me she loves me too and i reply back to that also.
My partner of one year hasn't said it yet. He shows it all the time though, and I can see and feel it.
I used to be with this guy for 5 years that would tell me ALL the time, over the top and to me they just became words he said - his actions told me otherwise.
I prefer things the way they are now!
I freaking ADORE my soon to be hubby. ADORE ADORE ADORE... we sing to each other. We hardly even have to think abou tit and when one leaves the room or goes somewhere we always say ';I love you,'; but it isnt routine or mechanical. sometimes its like ';HEY YOU...(pause) love you mostest!'; He even does that around his friends... ';Hey baby? I love ya!';
my boyfriend goes through bursts of 'love'.
he'll say it every 2 seconds sometimes.
and then won't say it again for awhile.
he does say it alot everyday though. :)
you're lucky you have such a loving hubby!
My husband tells me several times a day that he loves me. He also tells my son that. And we tell him the same. It really makes a difference, i think.
he shows it every day..he says it when he HAS to lol..my boy isnt one for alot of words and mushiness, but I know when he brings home a cupcake, or a book Ive wanted, hes been thinking about me :)
About 2-3 times a day when he goes to work. when we not together he calls me and before we hang up he tells me he loves me and when we go to sleep. We tell eachother we love eachother alot!
Every day. :) Along with hugs and kisses, that I consider to be very important, as you never know when it will be your last.
not very frequently right now. she is prego and goes through massive mood swings. one day she is all over me, the next she is not in the mood for lovings
At some point everyday he says ';Have I told you I love you today Ms. Anna';? I say NO %26amp; pout a little %26amp; then he smothers me to make up for it LOL!
All the time moro mou,just like I do you.
Quite often but it took some time. haha
That is great your husband is expressing his love to you!
My husband tells me I love you morning, noon and nite.... We must say we love each other at least 20 times a day!!!
Every night ~__~
My fiance tells me how pretty I am and how much he loves me about, oh, 20 times a day? He's a sweety.
Especially at night. Giggity Giggity Goo!
He does say it but only if i say to him 1st.
Multiple times a day.
be happy with him. r not u? why do u want to know the truth??????????
my wife never loves me ..........................
every morning, afternoon, %26amp; night.
i love him just as much :).
Couple times a day
all day!
yep..
for us everyday is a valentine day... we say Love u :)
buy gifts!! go to movies, have food out..love each other..
Have you lost a spouse and then remarried?
you really can't compare the two marriages or spouses but is it what you thought it would be?Have you lost a spouse and then remarried?
I was widowed at the age of 27 and remarried at the age of 37. I try to never compare the marriages or spouses. If my new husband asks a specific question about how something was done in my first marriage, I tell him. In my case, getting remarried is more than I thought it could be. I have matured and mellowed in the past 10 years. I have learned to let little things go that I allowed to bother me in my first marriage. I don't think my current happiness reflects poorly on my deceased husband or our marriage.Have you lost a spouse and then remarried?
I was married for 27 years and my husband left me for another woman. That was 9 years ago and yes I have remarried. Sorry to say but yes I sometimes compare and sometimes I miss the ex and that life very much. I think it's natural though. Anyway, I hope so. I know I love my husband but I must admit I miss the life that was simple and not being a separated family. Especially on holidays.
Red
I THINK! if you got divorce one time you can married with them Again , it is normal //if it is tow different parson ,in the some realign you should get divorce before you get married Again .if it is with seam parson, after divorce when you find out you did mastic you have to wait until she or he find out too ,you can get bake to gather .if you want that,and she want that too!
but some people think after you get divorce ,it is good to married with some one als to changed your life in that case you will find out /what was wrong with your FIRST marriage and why it didn't work ,if you find out it was your fault and you Stile love him .it is ok to leave the man you or he is not Happy with , and go-bake to your X that you love .you can married with your x at any time if he or she want that too ,forgiveness is good alwas if they promising don't do it Again! good luke
I was widowed after less than two years into my first marriage. I remarried. I don't compare the two. My second marriage ended in divorce. Was it what I thought it would be? No. But not because I'd lost my first husband, but because my second husband and I couldn't work out our issues.
yes. you can compare... like comparing a 1974 ford pinto to a 2008 Bentley.
I was widowed at the age of 27 and remarried at the age of 37. I try to never compare the marriages or spouses. If my new husband asks a specific question about how something was done in my first marriage, I tell him. In my case, getting remarried is more than I thought it could be. I have matured and mellowed in the past 10 years. I have learned to let little things go that I allowed to bother me in my first marriage. I don't think my current happiness reflects poorly on my deceased husband or our marriage.Have you lost a spouse and then remarried?
I was married for 27 years and my husband left me for another woman. That was 9 years ago and yes I have remarried. Sorry to say but yes I sometimes compare and sometimes I miss the ex and that life very much. I think it's natural though. Anyway, I hope so. I know I love my husband but I must admit I miss the life that was simple and not being a separated family. Especially on holidays.
Red
I THINK! if you got divorce one time you can married with them Again , it is normal //if it is tow different parson ,in the some realign you should get divorce before you get married Again .if it is with seam parson, after divorce when you find out you did mastic you have to wait until she or he find out too ,you can get bake to gather .if you want that,and she want that too!
but some people think after you get divorce ,it is good to married with some one als to changed your life in that case you will find out /what was wrong with your FIRST marriage and why it didn't work ,if you find out it was your fault and you Stile love him .it is ok to leave the man you or he is not Happy with , and go-bake to your X that you love .you can married with your x at any time if he or she want that too ,forgiveness is good alwas if they promising don't do it Again! good luke
I was widowed after less than two years into my first marriage. I remarried. I don't compare the two. My second marriage ended in divorce. Was it what I thought it would be? No. But not because I'd lost my first husband, but because my second husband and I couldn't work out our issues.
yes. you can compare... like comparing a 1974 ford pinto to a 2008 Bentley.
Can a spouse file for disability on behalf of a spouse?
who has not worked in 10 years has fibromyalgia also has
multyple joint pain recent surgery for incisional hernia repair
has no income or work credits husband has worked to support
family for 24 years they have 2 minor children and one adult 19
who lives @ home but is in college informative answers greatly neededCan a spouse file for disability on behalf of a spouse?
i am guesing you are in the US
Form what I remember she is not eleigobel for SSDI since she hasn't worked in 10 yeras
SHe may be eligible for SSI if your family income is low enough
but--the only way the husband could apply for her is if he was her guardian because she was incompetant--which doens't sound like teh case..
Hecannot file under his name because he is not the one who is disabled
She must file under her own nameCan a spouse file for disability on behalf of a spouse?
only if they are unable to do it themselves
multyple joint pain recent surgery for incisional hernia repair
has no income or work credits husband has worked to support
family for 24 years they have 2 minor children and one adult 19
who lives @ home but is in college informative answers greatly neededCan a spouse file for disability on behalf of a spouse?
i am guesing you are in the US
Form what I remember she is not eleigobel for SSDI since she hasn't worked in 10 yeras
SHe may be eligible for SSI if your family income is low enough
but--the only way the husband could apply for her is if he was her guardian because she was incompetant--which doens't sound like teh case..
Hecannot file under his name because he is not the one who is disabled
She must file under her own nameCan a spouse file for disability on behalf of a spouse?
only if they are unable to do it themselves
When you got married, did you tell the church and your spouse that you would love them ';Till Death Do Us Part';?
How''s that going so far?When you got married, did you tell the church and your spouse that you would love them ';Till Death Do Us Part';?
Still love her.
Not dead yet.
The Fat Man said:
Love is God's greatest gift.
The love he so generously shares with us is the same love we have for
Him and the same love we have for one another.
I see the hand of God in many of the things we touch together
I see God's fingerprints all over our relationship.
In the presence of these friends and family members,
In the presence of our Lord and Savior,
I hereby promise to share with you the love God shares with me.
The never ending, unfathomable, unconditional love,
I promise to share with you as we embark upon a most wonderful journey.
To serve God together, where ever He takes us,
For as long as we both shall liveWhen you got married, did you tell the church and your spouse that you would love them ';Till Death Do Us Part';?
With my first marriage, yes I did, but nowhere in the vows did it also say he could push me down and kick me until I begged him to stop. I think in the vows there was also something about respect? So who broke them?
With my second marriage, I also promised this, and right now, no-one has broken any vows, and we just had our 5th anniversary and still plan on keeping those vows with all our heart.
I gave that vow twice in my life. My first husband cheated and left me for another woman after 27 yrs of marriage. He died 2 1/2 years later. I never considered marriage with anyone until after that time. I did find a good man and married again and so far we are both alive and in love.
Red
It shouldn't be a problem if you're in deep, abiding love, now should it?
It's only a problem for the person who doesn't put their faith and trust in their love for another 100% to start off...
Change it if you will, write your own vows - but remember, the idea is to keep them.
Sincerely,
Grace
Well, my religion tell us we're together after death. :) Everything is going great. We had a little argument this morning, but it worked out. :)
ghosh u lot r lucky. i am unfortunate my husband cheated on me and abandoned me in 6months of marriage. i like a fool still believe in the vows and i know he is cheated me for good but somewhere deep down in my heart i still love him. i know it is crazy
Not to preach a sermon but with taking that vow serious and not just saying to say it, it is going absolutely wonderful. 10 yrs married so far.
Not good why, and those vows are left to interpretation, so what they mean is not the same for everyone.
Absolutely I said that I would love my husband until death us do part. It's going great.
well marriage is supposed to last, so why not. I'm glad I found my soul-mate, but I feel sorry for all the women who get fooled by jerks.
Of course........and i meant every word of it. I will love my hub until the day that I die.......whether he is still living or not.
A church wasn't involved in our marriage. It's going great!
not, actually I said... ';till death part do us';.
its going well... just ask your father and he'll update you on our marital situation.
We're both still alive, and we're both still in love.
Doing great. Thanks for asking.
Yes and I meant it!!!! We are very happy!
We did. Finished twenty years next month.
it will be much better once I meet my makerglitter eyeshadow eye color
Still love her.
Not dead yet.
The Fat Man said:
Love is God's greatest gift.
The love he so generously shares with us is the same love we have for
Him and the same love we have for one another.
I see the hand of God in many of the things we touch together
I see God's fingerprints all over our relationship.
In the presence of these friends and family members,
In the presence of our Lord and Savior,
I hereby promise to share with you the love God shares with me.
The never ending, unfathomable, unconditional love,
I promise to share with you as we embark upon a most wonderful journey.
To serve God together, where ever He takes us,
For as long as we both shall liveWhen you got married, did you tell the church and your spouse that you would love them ';Till Death Do Us Part';?
With my first marriage, yes I did, but nowhere in the vows did it also say he could push me down and kick me until I begged him to stop. I think in the vows there was also something about respect? So who broke them?
With my second marriage, I also promised this, and right now, no-one has broken any vows, and we just had our 5th anniversary and still plan on keeping those vows with all our heart.
I gave that vow twice in my life. My first husband cheated and left me for another woman after 27 yrs of marriage. He died 2 1/2 years later. I never considered marriage with anyone until after that time. I did find a good man and married again and so far we are both alive and in love.
Red
It shouldn't be a problem if you're in deep, abiding love, now should it?
It's only a problem for the person who doesn't put their faith and trust in their love for another 100% to start off...
Change it if you will, write your own vows - but remember, the idea is to keep them.
Sincerely,
Grace
Well, my religion tell us we're together after death. :) Everything is going great. We had a little argument this morning, but it worked out. :)
ghosh u lot r lucky. i am unfortunate my husband cheated on me and abandoned me in 6months of marriage. i like a fool still believe in the vows and i know he is cheated me for good but somewhere deep down in my heart i still love him. i know it is crazy
Not to preach a sermon but with taking that vow serious and not just saying to say it, it is going absolutely wonderful. 10 yrs married so far.
Not good why, and those vows are left to interpretation, so what they mean is not the same for everyone.
Absolutely I said that I would love my husband until death us do part. It's going great.
well marriage is supposed to last, so why not. I'm glad I found my soul-mate, but I feel sorry for all the women who get fooled by jerks.
Of course........and i meant every word of it. I will love my hub until the day that I die.......whether he is still living or not.
A church wasn't involved in our marriage. It's going great!
not, actually I said... ';till death part do us';.
its going well... just ask your father and he'll update you on our marital situation.
We're both still alive, and we're both still in love.
Doing great. Thanks for asking.
Yes and I meant it!!!! We are very happy!
We did. Finished twenty years next month.
it will be much better once I meet my maker
Dear HR: Is my spouse's graduate program creating employment discrimination for me?
I am a contract employee and have been talking with my employer (not agency) since my start date about being hired on full-time with the company. They love my performance and think the world of me.
When getting to know them, they asked certain questions about my personal life (spouse, children, etc.) and I confided in them that my husband is attending graduate school and we are originally from another town.
Then, things changed. I was talking with my employer who then asked about my anticipated length of service. I told them at least 2 years, due to my current situation. They told me they don't know if they want to take that risk with me (hire me on as a regular employee). They want a firm commitment for longer than that amount of time from me.
The agency wants me to stay on a permanent temp to get more money. Is this discrimination? What are my rights?Dear HR: Is my spouse's graduate program creating employment discrimination for me?
There are two forms of discrimination, legal and illegal,
If they discriminate against you because of race, sex, race, maybe even sexual orientation, you have a legal right.
but if they discriminate because they don't beleive you willl stay there, or because you have red hair, or because you are too tall, they can do that, since there is no law against it.
Why not just tell them you have talked it over and would plan on staying 5 years. So you leave after 2 it is called lying at the interview, most people always do that when asked how long will you stay. Since you will stay till you get a better job offer or move or somethingDear HR: Is my spouse's graduate program creating employment discrimination for me?
Regularization does not require commitment for longer period of time in the company. If you want to leave the company, you can do so because it is allowed under the law.
and go to confession after lying too right. lol talk to an employment lawyer if economically possible. here in my city in florida they give free consultation for the first visit.
This is not discrimination as they are saying that some of the criteria are:
1. Commitment
2. Qualifications (Which you state you have)
Obviously they need to consider the fact that you may not be able to stay that long and will end up having to get another employee after you leave.
When getting to know them, they asked certain questions about my personal life (spouse, children, etc.) and I confided in them that my husband is attending graduate school and we are originally from another town.
Then, things changed. I was talking with my employer who then asked about my anticipated length of service. I told them at least 2 years, due to my current situation. They told me they don't know if they want to take that risk with me (hire me on as a regular employee). They want a firm commitment for longer than that amount of time from me.
The agency wants me to stay on a permanent temp to get more money. Is this discrimination? What are my rights?Dear HR: Is my spouse's graduate program creating employment discrimination for me?
There are two forms of discrimination, legal and illegal,
If they discriminate against you because of race, sex, race, maybe even sexual orientation, you have a legal right.
but if they discriminate because they don't beleive you willl stay there, or because you have red hair, or because you are too tall, they can do that, since there is no law against it.
Why not just tell them you have talked it over and would plan on staying 5 years. So you leave after 2 it is called lying at the interview, most people always do that when asked how long will you stay. Since you will stay till you get a better job offer or move or somethingDear HR: Is my spouse's graduate program creating employment discrimination for me?
Regularization does not require commitment for longer period of time in the company. If you want to leave the company, you can do so because it is allowed under the law.
and go to confession after lying too right. lol talk to an employment lawyer if economically possible. here in my city in florida they give free consultation for the first visit.
This is not discrimination as they are saying that some of the criteria are:
1. Commitment
2. Qualifications (Which you state you have)
Obviously they need to consider the fact that you may not be able to stay that long and will end up having to get another employee after you leave.
Have you lost a spouse and then remarried?
you really can't compare the two marriages or spouses but is it what you thought it would be?Have you lost a spouse and then remarried?
I was widowed at the age of 27 and remarried at the age of 37. I try to never compare the marriages or spouses. If my new husband asks a specific question about how something was done in my first marriage, I tell him. In my case, getting remarried is more than I thought it could be. I have matured and mellowed in the past 10 years. I have learned to let little things go that I allowed to bother me in my first marriage. I don't think my current happiness reflects poorly on my deceased husband or our marriage.Have you lost a spouse and then remarried?
I was married for 27 years and my husband left me for another woman. That was 9 years ago and yes I have remarried. Sorry to say but yes I sometimes compare and sometimes I miss the ex and that life very much. I think it's natural though. Anyway, I hope so. I know I love my husband but I must admit I miss the life that was simple and not being a separated family. Especially on holidays.
Red
I THINK! if you got divorce one time you can married with them Again , it is normal //if it is tow different parson ,in the some realign you should get divorce before you get married Again .if it is with seam parson, after divorce when you find out you did mastic you have to wait until she or he find out too ,you can get bake to gather .if you want that,and she want that too!
but some people think after you get divorce ,it is good to married with some one als to changed your life in that case you will find out /what was wrong with your FIRST marriage and why it didn't work ,if you find out it was your fault and you Stile love him .it is ok to leave the man you or he is not Happy with , and go-bake to your X that you love .you can married with your x at any time if he or she want that too ,forgiveness is good alwas if they promising don't do it Again! good luke
I was widowed after less than two years into my first marriage. I remarried. I don't compare the two. My second marriage ended in divorce. Was it what I thought it would be? No. But not because I'd lost my first husband, but because my second husband and I couldn't work out our issues.
yes. you can compare... like comparing a 1974 ford pinto to a 2008 Bentley.
I was widowed at the age of 27 and remarried at the age of 37. I try to never compare the marriages or spouses. If my new husband asks a specific question about how something was done in my first marriage, I tell him. In my case, getting remarried is more than I thought it could be. I have matured and mellowed in the past 10 years. I have learned to let little things go that I allowed to bother me in my first marriage. I don't think my current happiness reflects poorly on my deceased husband or our marriage.Have you lost a spouse and then remarried?
I was married for 27 years and my husband left me for another woman. That was 9 years ago and yes I have remarried. Sorry to say but yes I sometimes compare and sometimes I miss the ex and that life very much. I think it's natural though. Anyway, I hope so. I know I love my husband but I must admit I miss the life that was simple and not being a separated family. Especially on holidays.
Red
I THINK! if you got divorce one time you can married with them Again , it is normal //if it is tow different parson ,in the some realign you should get divorce before you get married Again .if it is with seam parson, after divorce when you find out you did mastic you have to wait until she or he find out too ,you can get bake to gather .if you want that,and she want that too!
but some people think after you get divorce ,it is good to married with some one als to changed your life in that case you will find out /what was wrong with your FIRST marriage and why it didn't work ,if you find out it was your fault and you Stile love him .it is ok to leave the man you or he is not Happy with , and go-bake to your X that you love .you can married with your x at any time if he or she want that too ,forgiveness is good alwas if they promising don't do it Again! good luke
I was widowed after less than two years into my first marriage. I remarried. I don't compare the two. My second marriage ended in divorce. Was it what I thought it would be? No. But not because I'd lost my first husband, but because my second husband and I couldn't work out our issues.
yes. you can compare... like comparing a 1974 ford pinto to a 2008 Bentley.
Do You and your spouse like amusement parks?
Do you go together- even if you don't have kids?Do You and your spouse like amusement parks?
Well, we do have kids, but we love going, and riding rides together. We live less than an hour from one of the best in the US: Six Flags over GA. They recently installed a coaster called Goliath which is enormous, fast, and smooth, the best I've ever ridden.Do You and your spouse like amusement parks?
Of course! Living in Florida, we make it a point to go to Universal Studios and Islands of Adventure, Disney, Sea World, Busch Gardens, Wet %26amp; Wild and all the other fun places to go! We love to go by ourselves but usually go with a group of 6 other friends and roll through the parks like we own it, lol!
Me and my husband have been there 3x...and we have kids. When they get older we'll take them so we can go on the rides and stuff together. We take them to local festivals and parks and stuff, but we want to go to the amusement park for all the roller coasters, not the kiddie stuff. Does that make me a bad mom?
We love amusement parks and have season passes to Disneyland. Sometimes we take our daughter but we also like to go alone for date night!
We love Disneyland! We have 2 kids and we try to go at least once a month since we have annual passes. I think even without kids we would still enjoy it because we are still young at heart. :D
yes we always have a seasons pass to canadas wonderland. no kids. i love the water park!!! woo!!!
well,the divorce is quite amusing ........
Well, we do have kids, but we love going, and riding rides together. We live less than an hour from one of the best in the US: Six Flags over GA. They recently installed a coaster called Goliath which is enormous, fast, and smooth, the best I've ever ridden.Do You and your spouse like amusement parks?
Of course! Living in Florida, we make it a point to go to Universal Studios and Islands of Adventure, Disney, Sea World, Busch Gardens, Wet %26amp; Wild and all the other fun places to go! We love to go by ourselves but usually go with a group of 6 other friends and roll through the parks like we own it, lol!
Me and my husband have been there 3x...and we have kids. When they get older we'll take them so we can go on the rides and stuff together. We take them to local festivals and parks and stuff, but we want to go to the amusement park for all the roller coasters, not the kiddie stuff. Does that make me a bad mom?
We love amusement parks and have season passes to Disneyland. Sometimes we take our daughter but we also like to go alone for date night!
We love Disneyland! We have 2 kids and we try to go at least once a month since we have annual passes. I think even without kids we would still enjoy it because we are still young at heart. :D
yes we always have a seasons pass to canadas wonderland. no kids. i love the water park!!! woo!!!
well,the divorce is quite amusing ........
How often does your spouse tell you that he/she loves you?
my husband tells me that he loves and adores me all the time. How often does your spouse tell you that he/she loves you?
Constantly. We tell each other all the time, just out of the blue. Some of our friends and family are amazed by it. I wouldnt have it any other way. How often does your spouse tell you that he/she loves you?
My boyfriend tells me all the time. Multiple times when we talk on the phone, randomly throughout the day he texts me ';i love you'; and he does it when Im feeling really sad and he doesn't know what else to say. The important thing though that I feel is better then saying ';i love you'; is showing a person you love them. It really shows they mean it. He does this through being there for me through thick and thin, respecting me and doing things for me because he wants to not because I ask him to.
I never hear my mom and dad say it, but they kiss whenever the other comes home from work and they always go out together (movies, dinner) and every now and then I hear them getting it on, which is gross beyond reason but in a twisted way, it makes me happy that they're a healthy couple. They show it so much, I guess they don't have to say it.
thats his way of showing that he really care for you and he'll do anything to keep you two together always and forever and to show you that he put alot of faith in you and love you for who you are. i have a girlfriend and she tells me she loves me too and i reply back to that also.
My partner of one year hasn't said it yet. He shows it all the time though, and I can see and feel it.
I used to be with this guy for 5 years that would tell me ALL the time, over the top and to me they just became words he said - his actions told me otherwise.
I prefer things the way they are now!
I freaking ADORE my soon to be hubby. ADORE ADORE ADORE... we sing to each other. We hardly even have to think abou tit and when one leaves the room or goes somewhere we always say ';I love you,'; but it isnt routine or mechanical. sometimes its like ';HEY YOU...(pause) love you mostest!'; He even does that around his friends... ';Hey baby? I love ya!';
my boyfriend goes through bursts of 'love'.
he'll say it every 2 seconds sometimes.
and then won't say it again for awhile.
he does say it alot everyday though. :)
you're lucky you have such a loving hubby!
My husband tells me several times a day that he loves me. He also tells my son that. And we tell him the same. It really makes a difference, i think.
he shows it every day..he says it when he HAS to lol..my boy isnt one for alot of words and mushiness, but I know when he brings home a cupcake, or a book Ive wanted, hes been thinking about me :)
About 2-3 times a day when he goes to work. when we not together he calls me and before we hang up he tells me he loves me and when we go to sleep. We tell eachother we love eachother alot!
Every day. :) Along with hugs and kisses, that I consider to be very important, as you never know when it will be your last.
not very frequently right now. she is prego and goes through massive mood swings. one day she is all over me, the next she is not in the mood for lovings
At some point everyday he says ';Have I told you I love you today Ms. Anna';? I say NO %26amp; pout a little %26amp; then he smothers me to make up for it LOL!
All the time moro mou,just like I do you.
Quite often but it took some time. haha
That is great your husband is expressing his love to you!
My husband tells me I love you morning, noon and nite.... We must say we love each other at least 20 times a day!!!
Every night ~__~
My fiance tells me how pretty I am and how much he loves me about, oh, 20 times a day? He's a sweety.
Especially at night. Giggity Giggity Goo!
He does say it but only if i say to him 1st.
Multiple times a day.
be happy with him. r not u? why do u want to know the truth??????????
my wife never loves me ..........................
every morning, afternoon, %26amp; night.
i love him just as much :).
Couple times a day
all day!
yep..
for us everyday is a valentine day... we say Love u :)
buy gifts!! go to movies, have food out..love each other..
Constantly. We tell each other all the time, just out of the blue. Some of our friends and family are amazed by it. I wouldnt have it any other way. How often does your spouse tell you that he/she loves you?
My boyfriend tells me all the time. Multiple times when we talk on the phone, randomly throughout the day he texts me ';i love you'; and he does it when Im feeling really sad and he doesn't know what else to say. The important thing though that I feel is better then saying ';i love you'; is showing a person you love them. It really shows they mean it. He does this through being there for me through thick and thin, respecting me and doing things for me because he wants to not because I ask him to.
I never hear my mom and dad say it, but they kiss whenever the other comes home from work and they always go out together (movies, dinner) and every now and then I hear them getting it on, which is gross beyond reason but in a twisted way, it makes me happy that they're a healthy couple. They show it so much, I guess they don't have to say it.
thats his way of showing that he really care for you and he'll do anything to keep you two together always and forever and to show you that he put alot of faith in you and love you for who you are. i have a girlfriend and she tells me she loves me too and i reply back to that also.
My partner of one year hasn't said it yet. He shows it all the time though, and I can see and feel it.
I used to be with this guy for 5 years that would tell me ALL the time, over the top and to me they just became words he said - his actions told me otherwise.
I prefer things the way they are now!
I freaking ADORE my soon to be hubby. ADORE ADORE ADORE... we sing to each other. We hardly even have to think abou tit and when one leaves the room or goes somewhere we always say ';I love you,'; but it isnt routine or mechanical. sometimes its like ';HEY YOU...(pause) love you mostest!'; He even does that around his friends... ';Hey baby? I love ya!';
my boyfriend goes through bursts of 'love'.
he'll say it every 2 seconds sometimes.
and then won't say it again for awhile.
he does say it alot everyday though. :)
you're lucky you have such a loving hubby!
My husband tells me several times a day that he loves me. He also tells my son that. And we tell him the same. It really makes a difference, i think.
he shows it every day..he says it when he HAS to lol..my boy isnt one for alot of words and mushiness, but I know when he brings home a cupcake, or a book Ive wanted, hes been thinking about me :)
About 2-3 times a day when he goes to work. when we not together he calls me and before we hang up he tells me he loves me and when we go to sleep. We tell eachother we love eachother alot!
Every day. :) Along with hugs and kisses, that I consider to be very important, as you never know when it will be your last.
not very frequently right now. she is prego and goes through massive mood swings. one day she is all over me, the next she is not in the mood for lovings
At some point everyday he says ';Have I told you I love you today Ms. Anna';? I say NO %26amp; pout a little %26amp; then he smothers me to make up for it LOL!
All the time moro mou,just like I do you.
Quite often but it took some time. haha
That is great your husband is expressing his love to you!
My husband tells me I love you morning, noon and nite.... We must say we love each other at least 20 times a day!!!
Every night ~__~
My fiance tells me how pretty I am and how much he loves me about, oh, 20 times a day? He's a sweety.
Especially at night. Giggity Giggity Goo!
He does say it but only if i say to him 1st.
Multiple times a day.
be happy with him. r not u? why do u want to know the truth??????????
my wife never loves me ..........................
every morning, afternoon, %26amp; night.
i love him just as much :).
Couple times a day
all day!
yep..
for us everyday is a valentine day... we say Love u :)
buy gifts!! go to movies, have food out..love each other..
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