Should you or your spouse cut all ties with someone either of you had an affair with?

How can a marriage be worked on if the this person is still in the picture? Even if it is just good friends now...Should you or your spouse cut all ties with someone either of you had an affair with?
of course they should, that's rule # 1 if you decide to stay togetherShould you or your spouse cut all ties with someone either of you had an affair with?
This person should not be in the picture atall, the same will happen all over again x
All ties should be cut. Some therapists suggest even relocating to a different town for a fresh start. If they are still in touch, there are still feelings there. Period.
well if they have a child together the other person will always be in the picture
Yup, the spouse comes first. If you dont do this, you are showing your spouse that the other person comes first in your life.
Yes! The only way to have a successful marriage is too get rid of everything that will get you into the biggest hellhole ever with your man or woman. But my question to you is: Why would you go to risks of having an affair? When you get married you give your life to the your husband/wife. Not your ex-girlfriend or something. It is a very dumb questiion that you asked. And you will never be ';just friends'; there will always be a strong connection with the other person that just may lose control.
'; a marriage is between 2, to have 3 can be a bit over_crowded '; !!
ABSOLUTELY!
If it's been found out, then yes, ties should be cut.
They should cut it off totally. If your spouse has any respect for you it would have never started. The marriage will never work if this person is still in the picture. Get out now before it goes any farther.
Yes cut all ties with this person regardless of who they are or what they are. Even if it is family related.
Yes!!! I went through that situation and it is impossible to remain friends with someone you have been with if you decide to make things work with your spouse.
To your question, yes, all ties should be cut. If they are not cut then there will always be doubts and suspisions. It is hard enough for a couple to truely work things out and forgive each other by themselves, much less with that person still around. Now, just to put in my two cents....this advice should not be taken for more than what it is. In other words, if the couple is married and then has an affair then all ties should be cut. I do not believe, however, that when a couple gets married the spouse should tell the other spouse that they have to severe all ties with ex's. Sorry just wanted to add that in
Yes all ties should be cut off. They cannot be considered good friends because they crossed the boundary of that and it changes everything. If two people can get that comfortable that they can have sex together they can be just as comfortable to do it again.This person has to be removed for the sake of the marriage and for the comfort zone of the spouse affected by them cheating. There should be no reason for them to remain friends and for the spouse to accept them still being connected as friends. It is a dangerous relationship if you mean for your marriage to do well. For someone to remain in a marriage with me their so called friendship or whatever they want to call it would have to go!! If my spouse needed that friendship so much over what hurt it caused me I would have no reason to trust or go on with my marriage.
What the hell? What are they doing still living? Let alone still friends? I wouldn't have to worry about the B*tch, 'cause she would be either 6 feet under or too scared to come around again!!
YES!!!! It will only cause hurtful memories and a lot of animosity.
YES! it will not do anyone any good to keep any type of relationship going because the past will always be in your present. To let go of the past, you have to look forward to the future and start out with new adventures, new friends, etc. We've all made mistakes in the past, now its time to learn from them and go forward. Nothing healthy can come out of this type of friendship. There will always be a doubt, there will always be a question and there will always be the image that you cannot erase from you mind. Just try to make new memories now. Good Luck!
I think you already know the answer to this question. Who ever the person was that your spouse had an affair with shouldn't be in the picture period. Don't you think if this person was a good friend they wouldn't have slept with your spouse...if it's your spouse who thinks the person should still be in your lives...I'd have to say something still might be going on.
You both should absolutely cut all ties with the person involved in the affair. How can you begin to heal your marriage when there is a person around that is a constant reminder of infidelity in your relationship?
To put it bluntly the ones that should be cutting ties is the husband and wife. I mean come on people if you are in a happy loving relationship you are not going to go out and screw around. People that screw around are not in happy loving relationships so why stay in them? Oh I know we can work it out. Lets get real you had problems before the affair and you will have even more after the affair, Now you are not only in an unhappy loveless marriage you also don't have any trust.
The trust you have amongst eachother needs to be worked on.
Yes. All ties should be completely cut.


You will never heal if the ';other'; person is still in the picture.


What if's will be surrounding you.


Even the chance to try to regain trust would be absolutely impossible.


It's hard enough when the other person is NOT in the picture.
it want work the person needs to be totally cut off he or she will only be a reminder and that you will never to be able to forget what happened.
Absolutely!!!! How can you ever trust the person who had the affair if they are STILL talking to the person that they had the affair with??? If the person is not out of the picture, then there is no way that the marriage can be the priority in that person's life. It sounds very selfish for the one person not to cut the person that they had the affair with out of their life!!!
no you cant i personally would kill the other person friend or not lol
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!鈥?that clear enough
The person who almost destroyed the marriage is definately not allowed to stay on the scene or ever be mentioned ever again. If the decision to stay together is serious then i can't see any reason why this person needs to be anywhere near the relationship. I'm sure it states that in the rules of getting back togehter situatuions....lol
If it's getting in the way. Then first both of you agree to do this then talk to the 3rd party telling them that you are both taking a break from the 3 of you, %26amp; stay out of contact with them for a while. Until you 2 are back on track. Good friends or not, it's causing tension.
Of course the ties should be cut to at the very least to show that your relationship is more important. Keep the other person around is like having a back up in case the marriage craps out.
Hmmm....personally I couldn't work through that, secondly helll yeah that person needs to be cut offff...thats just a given.
no