How Do you treat your spouse worse than strangers?

Think about this. Do you treat strangers better than you do your spouse at times? ListHow Do you treat your spouse worse than strangers?
Yes. You can treat your spouse worse than strangers you don't know, actually, worse than your worse enemy.





I don't need to think about this to answer your question. Is pretty simple and can happen for many reasons, they all come to a botle neck that is called emotional/verbal or phisical abuse.





What you need to treat a spouse worse than you treat a stranger is first: an abuser, and also you need a victim. Combine these 2 and you will get the abuse happen, and you will see how one treats his/her spouse worse than stranger.





If the abuse keeps happening then that's the perfect relationship, because they have found each other, and none of the two is going to leave.





If what we named as the victim is not a victim, it doesn't matter what is going to happen, but the no-victim is going to leave and wont ever stay in that relationship.





The abuser once the victim leaves, will open her eyes a little bit and will promise changes. The victim will end up going back for a second or third round.





Then later if the victim has been proven to not to be a victim, wont ever be there again, not only that, will be able to spot abusers at the distance and next time is in a relationship, it will barely take a little sign of controlling / abuse, to have this person leave.





If the victim for other reason is left single and finds someone else, most likely will fall in love with another abuser (or haven't you heard: ';I don't know why my friend keeps finding that kind of boyfriends';?).





If you are being treated worse than strangers by your spouse, you are being abused. Ask yourself, are you or not a victim?, will you keep or not with that?. Stay or leave.





I would leave. go to www.drirene.com for more information about verbal/emotional abuse.How Do you treat your spouse worse than strangers?
I don't treat my spouse worse than strangers; but I have said the same thing to my girls.....would you treat a stranger like that, then don't treat your sister and I like that; we are the ones who love you no matter what....
my husband treats me worst than he treats strangers and I don't understand why
LOL sorry hon. Some spouses don't deserve the great spouse


there will be a day that comes they will regret.
My spouse treated me worse than he treated


strangers.





He was physically abusive and otherwise so


but he did not do that to other people because


he would not have gotten away with it with them.

Would you ever forgive your spouse for cheating on you?

Regardless of the reason; stress, attention, mid life crisis, drunk, raped (oh, yes, they even have come up with rape as an excuse)Would you ever forgive your spouse for cheating on you?
My babies dad cheated me! I COULDN'T forgive him. The reason being is he didnt just cheat me, he cheated his son. He would go out with the other b!+cH and then come and hold my son and kiss him and expect me to take care of him. I did forgive him 2 years later but I didn't get back with him. Until this day he asks for forgivness and wants to try again but I can forgive but I cant forget. He also got this other girl prego. (If i went into details about his cheating, you'd probably forgive but not forget) I didn't want my son to grow upo in that kind of enviornment, he could cheat himself and on the other girl, but he CANNOT and WILL NOT cheat us. He did it once he will continue again and again. (regardless the excuse!!!)





Hope I helped.





Good Luck %26amp; keep you head up high!!Would you ever forgive your spouse for cheating on you?
Woah, Mahmood, y'all get naked to hang people?





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You might forgive but will never forget and when they do it once they will do it again. Every time he/she is late home you will think they are cheating again? The choice is yours but when my marriage ended a long time ago I would have taken him back but that was not to be but thinking back it would have been a mistake.
I would forgive them but I would not stay with them. You never forget what they did and it drives you crazy every time they are late or the phone rings and someone hangs up or they go out with there friends. I could never go through that my whole life wondering if it would happen again.
No matter how much I tried I don't think I truly ever forgave. But I also know I wouldn't leave him either even though I always said I would. Too much is invested in a marriage and family to throw it away for a mistake. If he got caught again I would walk because I couldn't live with the pain I would feel. Too many women are very quick to say they would leave but most rarely do. It's a lot easier said than done and people should not be so quick to judge others. Each situation is unique.
Exactly what jess said. Of course I could forgive him. Eventually, over time. I'm not sure how much time it would take. Probably years.





But there is no way I could stay married to him. The emotional trauma of trying to make it work with a guy like that would probably give me heart problems. Plus, then you have to worry about STD's. That's too concrete a thing to ignore.
Before I got married, my answer was always no. But now that I'm married I really don't know what I would do. I guess it would depend on the situation...I don't believe that you can make someone cheat, but I do believe that marriage is alot of work and anything can happen during one. I pray that I never am truly faced with this type of issue.
No. Why did they put themselves in the situation for something like that to happen anyway. Rape of a man, unheard of. Rape of a woman, is a different subject altogether.
I LIKE THE ANSWER ABOUT IRAN ! THAT WAS FUNNY ! IT'S DOES'NT MATTER Y THE GUY CHEETS . THE THOUGHT WILL ALWAYS BE THERE THAT HE DID IT . BUT HONESTLY MOST GUYS CHEET . I'VE BEEN MARRIED 3 TIMES AN I'VE DATED ALOT AN EVERY ONE OF THEM CHEETED ON ME .
If rape wasn't an excuse but the truth -- yes I would





Anything else -- no I wouldn't. I don't have the forgiving capabilities and we both would be miserable. I would end it.
People are not perfect. We make mistakes every day. Some of them we regret for the rest of our lives.


You just have to be smart enough not to over react yet still filter out the BS.
if i was given the truth


';yes i acted in the heat of the moment';





mayyyybbbeee but they wouldn't get off easy.
Here in Iran, anyone convicted of cheating, we hang them while naked.
It depends.
Never in a million years.
no i would not forgive him

What is it about your spouse/SO that makes you love them so?

Mine...Well, he makes me laugh, smile and think about my future with him. The children we share on a daily basis are also happy and well adjusted to laugh because we get along so well.





I love him because he's COOL.





Sandy :O)What is it about your spouse/SO that makes you love them so?
he helped raise my daughter and now is a wonderful grampa ( pops to the boys , lol)


he has learned sign language to communicate with me and he is strong and gentle .


i really am blessed .





you sound like you are very happy too . i'm glad for you * smile *


take care .d.What is it about your spouse/SO that makes you love them so?
Him being himself and all that makes him who he is. He has a great sense of humor, is intelligent, honest, a hard worker, caring, understanding, supportive, creative, and the list goes on. The negative qualities that he possesses while I don't actually love them I do accept them and understand why they are a part of him. I would not change anything about him for it would change the person that he is overall. I am completely in love with him and that loves grows with each passing day even after 3 years and 8 1/2 months.
everything. there is no way to list the reasons i love him. i love him with my soul. if he were gone i think i would stop breathing.it is also the way he loves me the same. sometimes we think about there will be a day when one of us will die before the other and we both cry. we have decided that the first one to die will be cremated and the ashes will be buried with the last one to go so we can remain together for eternity.


i am happy for you and your husband. it is nice to know there are still couples out there like us who love each other and live a peaceful happy life.
No matter what... he's always been there for me and the kids. He can make me laugh at the little things, and at my own quirkiness. He works too damn hard for what he does. He'll give you the shirt off of his back if you needed it. Damn good man he is!
She is open and honest, makes me laugh. Our children are healthy and happy

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If you cheated on your spouse and never told them, do you feel guilty?

and after you told them, did the guilt go away?





My wife cheated and I wanted to know if she still feels guilty, or if the guilt mostly went away after she told me the truth.If you cheated on your spouse and never told them, do you feel guilty?
I kissed a man once... and felt tremendous guilt about it, and even morre guilt after I came clean, but at least I know I could never actually have an affair.If you cheated on your spouse and never told them, do you feel guilty?
Well I could never be not to tell them cause the guilt would eat me up. this is why I just won't cheat ever...it's really not worth all the pain that it causes. More than likely your wife still feels guilty. By telling you she was being honest and hoping this was something you could work through in which cause you could never forgive her and move on if she never told you. I think you should talk to her about but make sure it's in a calm matter. I would think that it's something that you would always feel guilty about even if the other person forgave me and we moved forward together I don't think that I could ever truly forgive myself.
I cheated many times and never felt guilty because I don't think cheating is wrong as long as it stays physical and not emotional. I think is a little naughty but doesn't harm anyone.





I think telling is the real problem, because that will really hurt the partner and its very selfish because people only tell for them to feel better and don't care about their partner feelings.
people with no heart think if admitting to their spouse makes it better like they replenished themselves but really i think it makes the situation worse for them...cause they know what they did was wrong and then for admitting to it they worry the other partner could do it at any time to get back..


so i'm sure you're wife in the back of her dirty mind is thinking about what if you did it or what if you are and then she begins to be insecure with herself therefore creating problems...
Only your wife would know that. If she cheated, she's probably not the type to hang on to guilt. Cheating involves a certain lack of morality and she could have just moved on knowing that she still has you. I seriously hope you guys get some counseling.


Don't let her rush you to ';get over'; it. It will take time, if ever, to get past this. Good luck.
That is a question that only your wife can answer. If you never mention her cheating, she may think you really forgave her and not have to keep it in her mind. If you bring it up every time your both in an argument than my guess is it is still on her mind. Do your self a favor and talk about it with her.
Instead of cheating, I told my husband how he made me want to do just that, and things got a lot better for a long time. Men and Women don't cheat. People who still have a lot of growing up to do and are too cowardly to face the truth/confrontation, do.
Guilt is different for each person. This is really a question only your wife can answer. Perhaps marriage counseling would be the only way for you to really understand what she is feeling and also give you a chance to express your concerns.
If you believe that she was truly sorry and felt bad and wanted to work things out with you then yeah, I'm sure she feels guilty for almost ruining her marriage.
she has probably lost most of the guilt now that you know,but if she has any respect for you she may have a little guilt about what she did ,



Go cheat on her and see if you feel guilty afterwards.
The guilt should never go away.
I think you would feel guilty regardless of sharing
I think you should ask your wife that!

What should i do with all the family problem and the ex-spouse problem?

my family is never here for me. always putting me down. my ex-spouse is a total loser. she left me and my 3 yr old son. cause she wants to sleep around with other *****. she don't want my son or me and same with my family. got into a fight with my dad. me and my son is homeless at the time. i don't know what to do anymore. need some help from everyone or anyone.What should i do with all the family problem and the ex-spouse problem?
First of all, Your X spouse has a responsibility to her son. If you are homeless and she does not care for you, She should at least take care of her own son. Somebody has to. You have issues yourself with your own family. Again, your son should be the most important person right now and if it means to apologize to your dad, you should do so to keep the peace. I know it is hard to get along sometimes, but you and your X need to get your priorities straightened out,What should i do with all the family problem and the ex-spouse problem?
wtf...thats messed up bro....firstly, i will pray for you and your son lots man....that just messed up.





umm, do you have any friends to crash with? do you have money/job? if you have those, then use them....your a father and everything is important for your son...you want him to live a great life, so your going to do EVERYTHING in your will and ability to support him... plus, your trying to survive too!


this is the time to get super involved in religion...go talk to your pastor, priest, monk, or who evers runs the religious place you go to, to worship your religion....it helps, ask for advice...





anyways, imma pray for you lots!





GOOD LUCK!!! tell your son, i said hi!

Have you clearly told your spouse what your issue is with them?

Have you made it very clear what you would like them to change... or what you don't like... or what you want...





Or do you stew. And hope. And drop hints. And wallow in fear, hoping that time will sweep in and do the hard work of granting your wish. ???Have you clearly told your spouse what your issue is with them?
Straight forward tell him what I want and then since he is a man, I remind him and reward him when he gets it right. Men are like dogs, they will do just about anything for the right reward and generally if you don't beat them they will be loyal, although there is always a tramp in the mix that screws a good btich over!Have you clearly told your spouse what your issue is with them?
My husband told me something that I think we all need to remember last week (and we by no means have a perfect marriage) he said, I sometimes dwell upon the things that irk me with you... I nit pick your faults and point them out to you constantly, but I have faults too, I'm not perfect, and you don't do that to me. I think to myself when I get really annoyed with your habits that irritate me that maybe I should go find someone better, but then I immediately realize that that person may never let laundry back up, hangs up their towel after showers, has a better memory, but is not such a great mom, isn't such a great listener, wont be there for me whenever i need them and will have their own set of problems that are surely far worse then yours.





In other words, instead of constantly complaining about our spouses as though they are supposed to be perfect or something, and instead of ';dropping hints'; to get them to change, respect them for who they are take them for who they are, realize you're sure as heck not perfect yourself and be happy with what you have because perfection in this world only lies in imperfection.
I tell him all the time. Unfortunately, he can't hear 'cause he's dead. It sucks too 'cause I'm really mad at him for it. Ten years later. Talk about a grudge, huh?





The relationship that I have had for the last 9 or so years is amazing though. And it really is because of him. He listens and he doesn't judge. I can absolutely tell him what I want and need from him in the context of our relationship. I don't expect him to solve my problems. I don't want to get married or live together. I can grant my own wishes, in time. Fear? Oh hell no. Life's way to short to waste on game players. Open, honest, straight up. The look in your eyes and know that everything's good. I'm addicted to it.





Go find yours. Why are you wasting time?
I'm straightforward when I'm not feeling something. I haven't mastered the art of silence. If there is something clearly that is his personality and something he can not (and I will not ask) to change then I sit back and see if it's something I can deal with. If it's something I can deal with then I say nothing and move on. If I can't deal with it then I'm out.
I would get all angry for Courtney's thumbs downs, but that person isn't going to edit their answer and debate what she said because she's right. Their ego got injured, so they thumbs down and crawl away quietly. So be it...





Sometimes the women don't communicate what they want, sometimes they just don't know what they want. Most times the guy just doesn't understand or care what they want.
Dude I love some of your responses and I am in the same boat but my wife will put out at times. Check out this site and purchase this e-book nymphowife.com. This book will give tips how you should act so that she will get the hint (i do not get any money from this book it has helped my).





Hope things change for you soon.






Communicate clearly to him.





Work together on what ever issue you might have. The line of communication should always remain clear. Don't go running around the topic because that will make BOTH of you irritated and frustrated.





Its a two way road. Work with each other :)
Yes and No. Yes i wish it would sort itself out and No i haven't told him because im not ready for him to take half my S**t in the divorce
If I have an issue, I come right out with it. I dont beat around the bush and I tell him what is bothering me.





And I know I can expect the same thing from him should something be bothering him.
I would answer your question, but I'm too busy laughing at Courtney's answer. Sorry.


I wish I could give her more thumbs up....LMAO





She's right...Ask any man





Edit. right on HeyBabe...see? he knows.
I don't want him to change... I made peace with his shortcomings before we tied the knot.
I concur with Maggie.


LOL CM!
YES i have...no sex is my issue
Yes..and he just blows me off.
I accept my guy the way he is......no issues....can't waste my time sweating the small stuff, y'know?

What would happen if your spouse came home and demanded dinner?

And expected you to bring them a beer as well?What would happen if your spouse came home and demanded dinner?
Demand dinner back, tell him to go cook for you.... and bring you the beer and rub your feet......what an a**hole!!!What would happen if your spouse came home and demanded dinner?
Depends on the way he asked. Ask nicely and sincerely, why not? and of course if there's still time to cook + if the beer is in the fridge. If he nagged about it, then just act dumb. heh heh. tell him that u only cook when u feel loved and appreciated.
Make pasta and sauce, Hot, I mean temp. and drop it on his/her freakin' head.
I don't drink beer, but if I came home and demanded dinner, my wife would tell me to make it myself.
I'd just laugh and say ';you want a beer? Me too...get me one while you're up';.
I'd tell him where McDonald's was. Then I'd tell him to stop by the Chevron on his way home.
I'd throw the a piece of frozen meat at him and tell him..here's your dinner..


Been there done that..right after we got married..He never done it again..
It would have already been ready, so I would dish it out and twist the cap off for him!
I better not have to demanded nothing..
I'd say ok what do you want? he doesn't like beer so I'd be surprised--I'd say go buy a beer if you want one but I'm not going to go. He doesn't demand anything but I almost always have dinner ready.
i would laugh in his face and ask him who he thinks he is. That if he wanted to eat and drink that bad that he know where the kitchen is at. My husband know not to talk to me like that cuz im the one in charge of when to cook or not.
Nothing. I do not respond to demands.
oh he would get it but not where he wanted it!
he wouldn't have to demand dinner and a beer, it would already be waiting on him.....
I would politely tell him where he can go and the shortest route there.
I'd knock him upside the head with a frying pan, grab a can of beer, shake the hell out of it and open it in his face then ask is there anything else he would like?
I would have to teach him the magic word.
I would bring it to him with a smile and a kiss. You didn't say if he continued to drink. One beer or a couple with dinner after a hard days work he's more than earned .....
They would get asked what was wrong with their arms and legs. They would either get it for themselves or go somewhere else for the service.Nobody demands anything in my house.
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...you should get him a beer...cook dinner...then ask him if he wants a bj.








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I'd point him to the kitchen, as I finish changing my one year old dipper, and say 'I'm hungry too. Thank dear.';
Tell him to get over it you are not his slave! you are his wife. Tell him you would gladly make him dinner as it is part of the wife duties. But youll get to it when your ready!
he would starve!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and go thirsty!!!!!!!!!!!!!and not get anyfor a long long long time !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you treat those you love with respect
I'd serve him or her naked lol
HA id like to see mai husband try that,


theres something called respect and men dont seem to understand the meaning.


i cook dinner for mai husband because its appreciated, the moment he begins to EXPECT it, no more. he learned im not his mom and i dont NEED to do anything for him,i do cuz i want to and he should be thankful.


im not his maid.


i married because i wanted to be in a stable relationship to have kids with someone i love, and for companionship, not to be ordered around. if i wanted someone telling me what to do or to be asking for permission to go out then i woulda stayed at home with mai parents for the rest of my life.





if he ever talls you that then just as rudely point out to him that he has hands, feet and he knows where the kitchen is.


if not im sure yu can point him towards the nearest mcdonalds...or better yet his mommas house.


DONT take crap from a man.
I would hand him the Visa and a take out menu.
if he only demand for food,i will serve him some chow but if he also wants some beer,i might just put him on HUNGER STRIKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! no guy dares drink beer in my home,if you encourage him to drink beer.The beer might soon be your rival and he might trade you for a BOTTLE OF BEER!!!!!!!!!!
2 scenarios: If I had already cooked dinner - i would laugh and tell him that he not only knows where the kitchen is, but can grab his beer when he's up.





2nd: If i didn't cook (which does happen often) - I would just laugh at him and leave the room.





My husband has respect and a sense of humor.
I would finish ironing his shirts and prepare him a nice dinner. Oh I forgot the beer, and there are no chilled glasses. I guess he'll have to kiss my ***.
Ask him if he were in the wrong house.
Absolutely nothing. I'd ignore him.