What is your course of action, if you find out that your spouse is dying and didn't tell you upon finding out?

The spouse probably just wanted things to go on as normal as possible for as long as possible, without having to discuss with his/her spouse dying and having the spouse feel sad and sorry for them.What is your course of action, if you find out that your spouse is dying and didn't tell you upon finding out?
Be sympathetic and ask yourself what you would have done if the shoe was on the other foot. Maybe your spouse needed time to learn how to deal with the news themselves and wanted to be able to tell you without crying and scaring you to death. What could be more personal than finding out that you are dying. We all know that we will die someday, but we are so shocked when we find out it's NOW, and not later.


Maybe they were in denial. Some things just don't seem real until we say it out loud. Once, we've said the words out loud, there is no going back and pretending that everything is just fine.


Maybe they just wanted things to remain the same for a little while longer. After all, once this news is out, no day will ever go by without this news being the 800 pound gorilla in the room. Each time you do something together, the joy of the moment will be overshadowed by the knowledge that this could be the last time that you both will ever enjoy this moment together.


And you wonder why your spouse didn't tell you sooner?


Your next course of action will to support your spouse in every way, to let them know that you will be there with them no matter what. Ask them how they are feeling and let them talk. This is not about you. It's not your time to fall apart, you must stay strong for them, and make every day the best that you can. Savor and treasure every happy moment that you have left. Take lots of pictures, talk into the wee hours of the night, laugh and reminisce, and make the most of whatever good days that they have left with you.


When they are ready to talk about it, find out what their final wishes are and how they want things handled for their final resting place.


In the meantime, if they are still feeling good enough, take the trip of a lifetime, do something that they always dreamed of, make memories for you to hang on to, and know that they went Home as they lived on Earth- full of life, love, and joy. This part is about you, as well as it is for them.


Counseling could be helpful for both of you.


Be sure to forgive them for not telling you, you need this more than they do. May God bless you both.What is your course of action, if you find out that your spouse is dying and didn't tell you upon finding out?
That's a rather vague question. Perhaps they wanted to confirm the diagnosis, were in denial, or didn't want to put you through excessive worry. Imagine if it were you. I would want to talk with them to find out. Getting upset with them doesn't change the situation because they are all valid reasons. Focus on them and what they're going through instead of meeting your needs for closure.
Maybe your spouse wanted to protect you from the pain of knowing. Go on as normal because if this is true then you would have found out eventually anyway. A lot of people facing terminal illness do this as they are in fear of their partner leaving the rather than facing the future.
Live every moment like it's their last...


Think about it. If you knew, what would you do? Would you want everyone to feel sorry for you or to be real?


I feel for you. To soon lose your spouse. But, if you knew that you didn't have much time would you want there to be anything but genuine people around you? Including yourself?
wow this is kinda obvious be sad but not mad because obviously she/he is protecting you for as lonbg as s/he could.........also their the ones dying so they can wait as long as they want!
Drag out that insurance policy and see if you're the beneficiary!
My course of action would be to spend every moment of time I have left loving my spouse the best I can. Why waste time being upset?
Continue loving them until the end.
increase the insurance policy
Sorry I can't answer this question to close to home.