Why does every argument with my spouse seem to escalate so quickly?

Probably because he was a mummies boy before meeting you. She would have done everything for him and he is spoiled beyond reason.





Just be careful - You look really beautiful and deserve to be with someone who treats you right. Don't let him get physical with you and don't allow yourself to be treated wrong.Why does every argument with my spouse seem to escalate so quickly?
You didn't give a lot of information here. But I can probably guess why. Here are the following reasons why silly arguments can escalate between partners:





*Arguing on an empty stomach or right before bedtime. Whoever came up with ';don't go to bed angry'; needs to be slapped upside the head. If your blood sugar is low and you're feeling sleepy, it's easy to overreact to a minor disagreement. Other bad times to argue: first thing in the morning, right after your spouse returns from work, or after hearing particularly good or bad news.





*Being hotheads. If two fiery people hook up they will argue more than most couples.





*Disrespecting each other. If you two are in the habit of name-calling, hitting, making threats, or maliciously teasing each other during fights then a dispute will get ugly quickly.





*Poor communication skill. Do you two listen to each other? Try the following technique during the next argument. Listen to your partner without interruption the next time you have an argument, then say this: ';Let me make sure I understand what you said.'; Then paraphase what you think your spouse meant. If you get it wrong, no biggie. Just have the other person explain what they mean.Why does every argument with my spouse seem to escalate so quickly?
Julia,





Maybe because your frequent arguments have so tenderized one-another that every little barb digs deeper into your psyches. Now, perhaps you are protecting not a point-of-view, not a long-held-belief, but your real sense-of-self. The since-of-self is our most closely guarded center, we can never allow that to be risked, to risk since-of-self is to risk all. Insanity lies behind that door, and darkness.
Because neither one of you know how to diffuse an angry or upset person.





There are always better ways to respond to anyone in any situation.





Next time you feel like something is about to escalate... Think carefully about how you respond. Words, Tone and body language are all communicating. Be conscious of this.
Because you are not focusing on the real issues. I'll bet most ';arguments'; are not over significant issues but are really an excuse to vent disappointments with the marriage. Focus on what makes you happy in the marriage, your partner does the same, and talk about those things. Why did you get married in the first place? Change your focus to the positive instead of the negative.
I can't definitively answer this, but I know that my husband can make me angrier than anyone else because he knows exactly what buttons to push and vice versa. I think that it's human nature to try to best the other person when you're arguing and when you know someone as well as you probably know your husband, you're probably able to say just the right thing to get him furious.
ma be it's time for change.find out what really makes you so mad.


and work on it. and have him do the same. you both need to set down


and take a breath and talk about what the underlining problem is.


if you'll take time to listen to one another with out shouting you'll


find out things will be so much better.
Tell me about it my husbands in Iraq and I'm in texas what do you think goes on online not i Iove you's for sure but i know the reason why we fight money stress him being away, not being able to control whats going on. Etc... Somethings bothering both of you figure it out before your about to start fighting count to ten and see what set you off was it really him or was it really you or were you already in a bad mood to begin with vice versa. GOod luck.
Maybe both of you have hot tempers and aren't ready to comprimisse and find a middle. So you/he knows the only way to ';win' is to be lounder and say the most hurtful stuff.


Try consling.
Because tempers flare up and neither of you have learned how to control your tempers.
Because you both get both fired up.....over something trivial.
Join the club.