Why do the cheating spouse always try to reverse like you the other person made them cheat?

Why do they still deny it when they are caught?








* Nice GUY*Why do the cheating spouse always try to reverse like you the other person made them cheat?
they feel the need to justify it, to fault find so they can justify in their mind that it wasn't their fault but the fault of the one they cheated on, this is to rid themselves of any guilt attached to trashing someones heart.its their defense that they use. they may deny it when caught to save the feelings of the person they betrayed, or maybe they are not wanting to burn all of their bridges either.if they admitted to it, or acknowledged it they would have their spouse insisting on therapy, maybe they really don't want to work it out. they are cowards and don't want the confrontation, don't want the hassle that's involved in having to come clean.Why do the cheating spouse always try to reverse like you the other person made them cheat?
Because it's easier to blame you then themselves. They feel guilty for their actions so to make you feel bad and take them back they make you feel like it's your fault. A person that truly loves somebody will want to make their partner happy and unfortunately cheaters know this so if they know if you blame yourself you will inturn actually treat them better then before. Just know it's never the person who got cheated on's fault even if the other person was unhappy they should have just left. Why do they deny it cause they don't want to admit it to themselves. A person who cheat and truly feels bad wouldn't act like that.
It is an integrity and character issue. They lack both which is why they cheat in the first place. They won't take responsibility for their own choice to cheat and they blame their significant other for their lack of self control when they are caught because they are usually egocentric and selfish and just want to make themselves look and feel better regardless of how the injured party feels. Cheaters will look you in the eyes and deny they cheated as long as they think they will get away with it or maybe place doubt in your mind...again because they lack the integrity and character and are too selfish to just admit the truth.
I think they could just be denying it because they know that they hurt you. The cheating is also partly your fault even if the cheater made the stupid choice to cheat. Perhaps, the cheater felt lack of attention from the spouse so instead of doing the adult thing and working it out they decide to be a scum bag and cheat.
Because deep down inside they know what they did was wrong. They know that Society frowns on this sort of thing. They feel that if they can justify what they have done by making the other party be the bad person that ';forced them to it'; then they will look better in the eyes of there family and friends...








Simply out they are the SCUM of the earth and should be removed from the Gene pool...
ACTUALLY there is a reason why that person cheats so some reason they are not happy in their current relationship. Now, whether that be an issue w/ themselves or they may see it as your fault if you are not making them happy. So in their eyes, they may REALLY think it is your fault. However, what they really mean is something was missing in the relationship for them, period.
Its reflex. It is the first thing all of them do...DENY! Then they try to make the betrayed spouse feel inadequate!!


There is no excuse to cheat. IF a married person feels that they want out of a marriage they owe it to their spouse to talk to them and let them know BEFORE embarking on any cheating!!!


Most Wayward spouses conveniently compartmentalise so that they do not have to face their conscience!!





Karma catches up though....in the end it always does!!
Because you've backed them into a corner and its a 'fight or flight' type reaction.








They know they've done wrong and a guilty person tries to soften their participation in a illegal or in this case, immoral event by shifting the lion's share of the blame onto you.





Typical really.....very commonplace. But.....it sure as hell doesn't hold water, does it?
They try to make them self's feel better for what they have done. My hubby's friend after almost 10 years still say's he didn't cheat. We all know he did. He is married to the gal he cheated with now and she even says he did.
Because they are immature and can't face the fact that they screwed up.


It's easier to place the blame than to accept it. Anyone who would cheat is a piece of shlt!
Well because after that happens, they feel insecure so they blame someone else for their actions and put the other person down just so they can feel better about them selves.
Because they don't want to accept the blame of being a scumbag! The other thing you might hear is ';...but this was the first time I did this...';, like that makes a difference!
Justification. And they deny in hopes it will go away.
They want to justify their rediculous behavior.
I don't think they want to take responsibility for their own actions. My ex cheated and denies it. Even if that was true she cheated emotionally as well. She was supposed to be a SAHM but didn't do all the things that needed done around the house and would go out drinking with male ';friends'; instead.
B/C the real truth hurts.
its their way of making it like it never happened or trying to justify it. Some classic statements some make are that you were too clingy or always nagging. and they felt trapped
GUILT!!!!
I'll let you know when I find it out.