We have 21 goats, NO my husband has 21 goats, and he can't explain what he's going to do with them. If your spouse has a plan for the cow, maybe it's a good idea!How do you talk your spouse out of bying a cow? We have 3 monitors and 3 dogs... When is enough, enough???
You could try to get someone to offer him a magic bean instead.......How do you talk your spouse out of bying a cow? We have 3 monitors and 3 dogs... When is enough, enough???
When you run out of space and time to care for them
maybe 3 cows? seems she likes 3's so i'd be expecting 2 more. lol
Just say no
LOL... I really have no idea.
We have dozens of snakes, 6 crested geckos(and more coming tomorrow) , 13 dogs, 2 cats, 20 bearded dragons and we are getting some chameleons, too so I know how you feel.
Try talking to him about the cow. Tell him how uninterested you are and what your concerns are. Hopefully, your husband will respect your input.
Good Luck!
Well I tried, but first he wanted 5 as a hobby, then another 20 turned up, then another 75 arrived! We now have 85 cows, 20 yearlings and 60 odd calves this year, and another 20 odd due during the next month or two.
What I should of done was ask do you want your cows, or your love life to continue.
i can tell u one thing 4 sure.U CAN NEVER HAV ENOUGH PETS.i have 2 birds on e dog a horse 4 fish a duck a cow and a turtle and im only 13.so just say that u need a cow.because u want one.thats wat i said.
apparently according to family members when i was three i wanted a cow for my b-day. i never got one. now i am bitter and resentful don't let my fate befall your wife
HAVE A COW, MAN
I'm trying to talk mine out of buying a llama. Good luck!
do you live in a town that will let you keep a cow ??? (if not, theres your answer..)
Do you have the money to feed a cow...clean up after a cow (they poop a lot and it SMELLS)???
Whos going to milk the cow ??? (or are you keeping it as a pet ?)
Do you have enough room for a cow ???
Whos going to groom the cow ???
hit your husband with all these questions...I bet he gives up, just to get some peace...good luck !!!
Why does he want a cow? If he does get one, make HIM milk it.
depends... how big is your apartment?
Seriously though, milk is a good reason. We moved to the country when I was a child and eventually stopped buying milk from the local farmer and bought a goat instead. If you have good fences, a goat is a good alternative to a cow - takes up less space, interacts with you more, and gives just the right amount of milk for a family of four. did you also know that you have to breed the animal every year to maintain the milk supply - so if you have to track down bulls and dispose of calves that becomes a bit of a hassle ...
Oh, and enough is enough if you can't afford to feed them, house them, care for them or have them properly treated by the vet.
Wow! The man of my dreams! I keep getting pets of many species too,but no snakes!
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
How did you and your spouse meet? How did you break the ice the first time you met?
We met through a dating service.
Thing were pretty awkward until I bit down on a tomato and sprayed juice in a nice, wide arc, across the table and into his eye.
All the best.How did you and your spouse meet? How did you break the ice the first time you met?
I met my husband through my neighbours - whenever they had a function on he was there - I was divorced from my 1st husband and always had my 4 kids with me so it took a while for anything to happen but he always played with my kids and made a huge effort to help - he would even pop in and change my light globes, fix my heater etc.
After about 6 months we officially got together and married 18 months later.How did you and your spouse meet? How did you break the ice the first time you met?
I first met my husband when I turned up for an audition for the band we were both in. The band went overseas and we all lived together for about 6 months overseas, I had a major crush on him the whole time but I was too embarrassed to say anything %26amp; I never thought he would be interested in me. Plus we were kind of told by our manager at the time that there was to be no hanky panky between band members so I never did anything about my feelings. Eventually my feelings turned into love for him and It was killing me inside and it all became too much for me, I decided I was going to leave the band and go home and the night I was going to tell him he told me that he had feelings for me. We have never been apart since that night and 5 years later now married with a little one on the way.
We met at the dental office I worked at. He was a patient and I called him and asked if he wanted to go out sometime on a dare from the other girls at the office and he called back and asked me out. We have been married for five years now and have two beautiful daughters.
i had a few of those dating sites and was about to give up on guys for a while. i decided to check my messages one last time. i saw that i had a message from a cute guy named wasupguy. we had emailed each other a few times but it had been a few days so i figured he had given up so i had too. when i looked at the message he said he was sorry that it had been a few days and he left his number for me. i called him and we decided to meet in person that day at sonic. he was and still is at this point in time a marine so i figured it would be ok to meet at sonic. i had my daughter with me since we were going to get our pics done for. when i saw him step out of the car i thought he was kind of nerdy but then i decided after watching him interact with my daughter who was 2.5 that i wanted to be with him forever. that was february 5, 2008. we got engaged march 27, 2008 and have yet to set a date. hes getting out of the military and is going to be a state trooper in south carolina.
we plan to have 2 boys and a big dog on the future to go along with our 3 year old. he claims her as his since they have bonded. i get kicked out of the living room during their movie time all the time.
i love him and he loves me.....i never actually thought i would find someone as great as he is. although he does irritate the **** out of me.
Met in church when we were like 14. We did not get along at that time. We did not run in the same circles at all. We ended up going to the same high school and never talked there either. He was much more popular than I was.
Then I saw him when I came home for the holidays over Christmas at church. I said ';hi';and remarkably he said ';hi'; back. I ask him if wanted to sit down. He sat with me and we became friends. A few weeks later we started to date. That was over 15 years ago and we have been together ever since.
My husband %26amp; I met when he was at the mall with friends and I worked in the wig store helping cancer patients. Though he had no business needing a wig he came in %26amp; tried on a bright yellow one to make me laugh. We started dating %26amp; were married 6 months later. We have a 4.9 year old, 22 month old %26amp; I am in my first trimester with #3!
In a bar. A guy I once dated walked in; to avoid him I walked up to this nice looking guy. I asked if he was there with anyone. Then said that I was avoiding ';that guy'; and asked if he act like he knew me. I never gave my name or any other information; trying to be careful.
Two weeks later he needed a date to a frat party. A frat brother, that I knew (from high school) and saw us that night asked why not ask me. So bang; he had a name, number, and address. The next weekend I go home - guess who shows up?
We met through a mutual friend at a party. I got drunk and started making out with him. From there it was history....
how is someone gonna give me a thumbs down on how i met my husband. we are happily married with 3 children-you people need to grow up
We met in a club. I went there with some girls after a softball game and they all kind of split and left me standing there. I was not used to being in clubs. He asked me if I wanted to dance and I said I would rather sit down and talk. We have been married for 26 years.
We met at work. I just told my grandparents (who I lived with) that I met someone great and I was bringing him home for them to meet. We've now been married 8 years, have a 7 year old son, 4 year old daughter and I am 22 weeks with our third and final baby girl.
I was wearing a gorilla suit and was passing out bananas (long story why). He wanted to find out who was wearing the stupid suit on the hottest day of the year. We became friends and eventually started dating. Married about two years later. Been married 20 years next week!
I met him at a bar in downtown Nashville. His friend bet him that he couldn't take me home, and his friend lost. Ever since then, we've been together. I guess the ice was just broken from too much to drink.
in college. been married for 10 years next week.
Thing were pretty awkward until I bit down on a tomato and sprayed juice in a nice, wide arc, across the table and into his eye.
All the best.How did you and your spouse meet? How did you break the ice the first time you met?
I met my husband through my neighbours - whenever they had a function on he was there - I was divorced from my 1st husband and always had my 4 kids with me so it took a while for anything to happen but he always played with my kids and made a huge effort to help - he would even pop in and change my light globes, fix my heater etc.
After about 6 months we officially got together and married 18 months later.How did you and your spouse meet? How did you break the ice the first time you met?
I first met my husband when I turned up for an audition for the band we were both in. The band went overseas and we all lived together for about 6 months overseas, I had a major crush on him the whole time but I was too embarrassed to say anything %26amp; I never thought he would be interested in me. Plus we were kind of told by our manager at the time that there was to be no hanky panky between band members so I never did anything about my feelings. Eventually my feelings turned into love for him and It was killing me inside and it all became too much for me, I decided I was going to leave the band and go home and the night I was going to tell him he told me that he had feelings for me. We have never been apart since that night and 5 years later now married with a little one on the way.
We met at the dental office I worked at. He was a patient and I called him and asked if he wanted to go out sometime on a dare from the other girls at the office and he called back and asked me out. We have been married for five years now and have two beautiful daughters.
i had a few of those dating sites and was about to give up on guys for a while. i decided to check my messages one last time. i saw that i had a message from a cute guy named wasupguy. we had emailed each other a few times but it had been a few days so i figured he had given up so i had too. when i looked at the message he said he was sorry that it had been a few days and he left his number for me. i called him and we decided to meet in person that day at sonic. he was and still is at this point in time a marine so i figured it would be ok to meet at sonic. i had my daughter with me since we were going to get our pics done for. when i saw him step out of the car i thought he was kind of nerdy but then i decided after watching him interact with my daughter who was 2.5 that i wanted to be with him forever. that was february 5, 2008. we got engaged march 27, 2008 and have yet to set a date. hes getting out of the military and is going to be a state trooper in south carolina.
we plan to have 2 boys and a big dog on the future to go along with our 3 year old. he claims her as his since they have bonded. i get kicked out of the living room during their movie time all the time.
i love him and he loves me.....i never actually thought i would find someone as great as he is. although he does irritate the **** out of me.
Met in church when we were like 14. We did not get along at that time. We did not run in the same circles at all. We ended up going to the same high school and never talked there either. He was much more popular than I was.
Then I saw him when I came home for the holidays over Christmas at church. I said ';hi';and remarkably he said ';hi'; back. I ask him if wanted to sit down. He sat with me and we became friends. A few weeks later we started to date. That was over 15 years ago and we have been together ever since.
My husband %26amp; I met when he was at the mall with friends and I worked in the wig store helping cancer patients. Though he had no business needing a wig he came in %26amp; tried on a bright yellow one to make me laugh. We started dating %26amp; were married 6 months later. We have a 4.9 year old, 22 month old %26amp; I am in my first trimester with #3!
In a bar. A guy I once dated walked in; to avoid him I walked up to this nice looking guy. I asked if he was there with anyone. Then said that I was avoiding ';that guy'; and asked if he act like he knew me. I never gave my name or any other information; trying to be careful.
Two weeks later he needed a date to a frat party. A frat brother, that I knew (from high school) and saw us that night asked why not ask me. So bang; he had a name, number, and address. The next weekend I go home - guess who shows up?
We met through a mutual friend at a party. I got drunk and started making out with him. From there it was history....
how is someone gonna give me a thumbs down on how i met my husband. we are happily married with 3 children-you people need to grow up
We met in a club. I went there with some girls after a softball game and they all kind of split and left me standing there. I was not used to being in clubs. He asked me if I wanted to dance and I said I would rather sit down and talk. We have been married for 26 years.
We met at work. I just told my grandparents (who I lived with) that I met someone great and I was bringing him home for them to meet. We've now been married 8 years, have a 7 year old son, 4 year old daughter and I am 22 weeks with our third and final baby girl.
I was wearing a gorilla suit and was passing out bananas (long story why). He wanted to find out who was wearing the stupid suit on the hottest day of the year. We became friends and eventually started dating. Married about two years later. Been married 20 years next week!
I met him at a bar in downtown Nashville. His friend bet him that he couldn't take me home, and his friend lost. Ever since then, we've been together. I guess the ice was just broken from too much to drink.
in college. been married for 10 years next week.
Would you drink a warm glass of liquid diahrrea to save your spouse's life?
my gf said shes not sure and now im thinking of calling off the engagement.
ladies woukld you drink a poopshake for your man???Would you drink a warm glass of liquid diahrrea to save your spouse's life?
hell to the no thats freaking gross...Would you drink a warm glass of liquid diahrrea to save your spouse's life?
The ? is would you?
wtf o.0
Eww, no. Why would you ever need to. Really?
You should be ashamed of yourself for even considering breaking up with her because of that. I'm sure, if put in that situation, she would do it. But if you two are sitting on the couch, and you randomly say ';Would you drink a poop shake for me?'; of course she'll say no. Find a real reason to leave her.
lmfao!!!
this makes me shed tears of laughter
1 Girl One Cup
Ewwwww
Yeah i love him to death but the muthafcuker better do the same if he was in that situation
:D
No.
Poopshake. LMFAO.
No, I would not.
THAT WOULD BE DUMB IF YOU DID!!!
no, i'll find a new spouse, a spouse that doesn't get into situations that require me to drink diarrhea
not as a joke
but i would to save his life.
I don't have a spouse. :D Or a man right now. LOL
OMFG, when I saw this question I bursted out laughing
Uhh would you?
Now that IS the question.
I'm a guy, but no
how is it gonna help your gf in the first place?
no
why would u ask her that....i dont think you would either.
No. I wouldnt do that to save my own life!
lol poopshake.
hell naw. I wouldn't even drink warm soda for that.
jk
can i rip my taste buds off first?
ladies woukld you drink a poopshake for your man???Would you drink a warm glass of liquid diahrrea to save your spouse's life?
hell to the no thats freaking gross...Would you drink a warm glass of liquid diahrrea to save your spouse's life?
The ? is would you?
wtf o.0
Eww, no. Why would you ever need to. Really?
You should be ashamed of yourself for even considering breaking up with her because of that. I'm sure, if put in that situation, she would do it. But if you two are sitting on the couch, and you randomly say ';Would you drink a poop shake for me?'; of course she'll say no. Find a real reason to leave her.
lmfao!!!
this makes me shed tears of laughter
1 Girl One Cup
Ewwwww
Yeah i love him to death but the muthafcuker better do the same if he was in that situation
:D
No.
Poopshake. LMFAO.
No, I would not.
THAT WOULD BE DUMB IF YOU DID!!!
no, i'll find a new spouse, a spouse that doesn't get into situations that require me to drink diarrhea
not as a joke
but i would to save his life.
I don't have a spouse. :D Or a man right now. LOL
OMFG, when I saw this question I bursted out laughing
Uhh would you?
Now that IS the question.
I'm a guy, but no
how is it gonna help your gf in the first place?
no
why would u ask her that....i dont think you would either.
No. I wouldnt do that to save my own life!
lol poopshake.
hell naw. I wouldn't even drink warm soda for that.
jk
can i rip my taste buds off first?
How can I prepare my spouse for labor?
My spouse is in Iraq and wont be home until 1 week before I'm due. Are there any websites for men to learn about labor %26amp; how they can help?
What would you do?How can I prepare my spouse for labor?
My hubby was in AIT when I was pregnnat and got home 2 weeks before birth. I sent him a book called Preparing for Fatherhood. I saw it the other day in the bookstore. The front is black and white striped man's shirt.
It talks about the need to knows like contractions, what to look for, and the other stuff like mood swings how to help out with the new baby, ways to give mom a break.
Is he gonna be back just for r%26amp;r? Or fo rgood? If for r%26amp;r I would suggest having lots of help with cooking from others and housework. That way you 3 will have th emost time together. Cos those first couple weeks are a blur anyways and hyou wanna enjoy them before he heads back.
Best of luck. You can email me if you ever wanna chat cos I know exactly how hard it was. My husband got deployed when our sonw as 9 days old.How can I prepare my spouse for labor?
There's books at walmart for dads to be that they can see what you are going through each week and it will help them inderstand labor and all there is to come.
What to expect can be helpful they have tips for Dad too.
The bradley method can also help him help you lol
really the only thing i can suggest is explain everything to him.
go to youtube.com and type in child birth class. hope this helpsnew lipstick the bees
What would you do?How can I prepare my spouse for labor?
My hubby was in AIT when I was pregnnat and got home 2 weeks before birth. I sent him a book called Preparing for Fatherhood. I saw it the other day in the bookstore. The front is black and white striped man's shirt.
It talks about the need to knows like contractions, what to look for, and the other stuff like mood swings how to help out with the new baby, ways to give mom a break.
Is he gonna be back just for r%26amp;r? Or fo rgood? If for r%26amp;r I would suggest having lots of help with cooking from others and housework. That way you 3 will have th emost time together. Cos those first couple weeks are a blur anyways and hyou wanna enjoy them before he heads back.
Best of luck. You can email me if you ever wanna chat cos I know exactly how hard it was. My husband got deployed when our sonw as 9 days old.How can I prepare my spouse for labor?
There's books at walmart for dads to be that they can see what you are going through each week and it will help them inderstand labor and all there is to come.
What to expect can be helpful they have tips for Dad too.
The bradley method can also help him help you lol
really the only thing i can suggest is explain everything to him.
go to youtube.com and type in child birth class. hope this helps
Can I get a job in Dubai if I am under a spouse residence visa?
Hi, I would like to know if i would be under the sponsor of my husband can I still get a job in Dubai under his sponsorship? will I get an approval from MOL to obtain a work permit???please advice Can I get a job in Dubai if I am under a spouse residence visa?
Yes you can apply for the job in Dubai under sponsorship of your husband but your company (that will offer job) needed to apply for the labour permit for you.
Yes you can apply for the job in Dubai under sponsorship of your husband but your company (that will offer job) needed to apply for the labour permit for you.
What is the strangest place you've ever had sex with your spouse or anyone for that matter?
Behind a huge rock on a river bank.....as families were floating by in canoes...What is the strangest place you've ever had sex with your spouse or anyone for that matter?
That's tough, I've done it in some strange places.
My local library has a park, I did it on one of cannons outside near the rear of building in afternoon.
This was probably one of the riskiest, as I could have easily have been caught.What is the strangest place you've ever had sex with your spouse or anyone for that matter?
Why are you married if you dont love your wife, or have sex with her and you have a gf who lives in your condo? Whats the point of staying with your wife then you freakin wierdo
In a small pup tent I had set up in the front yard of the house I was renting. We were doing it on a sunny, late summer, Sunday afternoon.
It's a tie. Underneath a pontoon boat at the lake %26amp; in a fire truck.
In a jail cell at a police station with an ex who was in there for a few days.
in the mercy's new york Fitting room. Very fun and risky. I had to shut my mouth.
On the beach in a lifeguard tower
In a maze.
At a zoo
On a baby bed
in a strip club bathroom
on a greyhound bus
That's tough, I've done it in some strange places.
My local library has a park, I did it on one of cannons outside near the rear of building in afternoon.
This was probably one of the riskiest, as I could have easily have been caught.What is the strangest place you've ever had sex with your spouse or anyone for that matter?
Why are you married if you dont love your wife, or have sex with her and you have a gf who lives in your condo? Whats the point of staying with your wife then you freakin wierdo
In a small pup tent I had set up in the front yard of the house I was renting. We were doing it on a sunny, late summer, Sunday afternoon.
It's a tie. Underneath a pontoon boat at the lake %26amp; in a fire truck.
In a jail cell at a police station with an ex who was in there for a few days.
in the mercy's new york Fitting room. Very fun and risky. I had to shut my mouth.
On the beach in a lifeguard tower
In a maze.
At a zoo
On a baby bed
in a strip club bathroom
on a greyhound bus
What is it in a person that would make them decide to stay or leave a marriage where the spouse had an affair?
it could be they believe in their vows, for better or for worse, it could be religious issue, some religions dont believe in divorce, and others believe only when there is abuse or the spouse has cheated. It could be they are stil in love with the person and want to try to make it work , or they are dependent on that person finacially and emtionally, they could have children together and not want to subject their children to divorce and visitations. or they could just be in denialWhat is it in a person that would make them decide to stay or leave a marriage where the spouse had an affair?
If the person acknowledges thta the affair caused harm and the hurt to the other person, it can be forgiven and people can get on with life. Absent feeling bad about it, a person can't be forgiven.What is it in a person that would make them decide to stay or leave a marriage where the spouse had an affair?
I think it depends on what kind of affair the spouse had. If there were feelings involved.
It would depend on how long they were married.....if the marriage was good until this point.
If there are children involved.
If they still loved each other and if the spouse who cheated was willing to do whatever was necessary to fix the marriage.
I think it has more to do with those things than what kind of person you are.
Sometimes you have to look at ';why';? why did the other person have an affair. Was there something lacking or what were they looking for and found there. Correct that problem or issue and then things can be amended. That's the problem, alot of times when couples stray, they never have that ';why'; conversation to expose the root of the what the real issue is.
all depends on the couple, what their morals/beliefs are and how they handled finding out about the affair....maybe they just can't stand what happened, get past the issue and it hurts unbelievably much....other than that idk what to tell you....my grandfather and then my step grandfather left because they felt that they were the problem and that they needed to both get out of the marriage to allow my grandmother to be happy.... this being said she's married to #3....and we hope for the best. she's in her mid 60s, we hope that this one lasts....
AFTER ALL YOU'VE GONE THROUGH, IT HAS TO BE
AGAPE LOVE.
You make a decision if you could ever trust again. We can forgive but many cant forget.
I am staying with my husband after he had an affair. He said some horrible things about me to this girl and even asked her to marry him and told her that he loved her. I don't trust him, I will not be able to forgive him, and I think about it constantly. But... I love him. Love has a lot to do with it in a lot of the cases.
Simple ..........trust believe me when that goes nothing will bring it back
If the person acknowledges thta the affair caused harm and the hurt to the other person, it can be forgiven and people can get on with life. Absent feeling bad about it, a person can't be forgiven.What is it in a person that would make them decide to stay or leave a marriage where the spouse had an affair?
I think it depends on what kind of affair the spouse had. If there were feelings involved.
It would depend on how long they were married.....if the marriage was good until this point.
If there are children involved.
If they still loved each other and if the spouse who cheated was willing to do whatever was necessary to fix the marriage.
I think it has more to do with those things than what kind of person you are.
Sometimes you have to look at ';why';? why did the other person have an affair. Was there something lacking or what were they looking for and found there. Correct that problem or issue and then things can be amended. That's the problem, alot of times when couples stray, they never have that ';why'; conversation to expose the root of the what the real issue is.
all depends on the couple, what their morals/beliefs are and how they handled finding out about the affair....maybe they just can't stand what happened, get past the issue and it hurts unbelievably much....other than that idk what to tell you....my grandfather and then my step grandfather left because they felt that they were the problem and that they needed to both get out of the marriage to allow my grandmother to be happy.... this being said she's married to #3....and we hope for the best. she's in her mid 60s, we hope that this one lasts....
AFTER ALL YOU'VE GONE THROUGH, IT HAS TO BE
AGAPE LOVE.
You make a decision if you could ever trust again. We can forgive but many cant forget.
I am staying with my husband after he had an affair. He said some horrible things about me to this girl and even asked her to marry him and told her that he loved her. I don't trust him, I will not be able to forgive him, and I think about it constantly. But... I love him. Love has a lot to do with it in a lot of the cases.
Simple ..........trust believe me when that goes nothing will bring it back
How do u get your spouse to stop cutting his hair and go to the barber shop for a nice clean cut?
It's not going 2 b ez. trust me my hubbie of 20 years stills cuts his and i hate it. but, while u 2 r out sometimes look at other guys and ask HIM if he likes that and if he would do that to his head but try to make him think that he came up with it not you but we know the truth.How do u get your spouse to stop cutting his hair and go to the barber shop for a nice clean cut?
take him!How do u get your spouse to stop cutting his hair and go to the barber shop for a nice clean cut?
tell him it looks ugly and maybe he well go get it cut by someone you knows how to do it.
tell him it looks bad every time !
hide the clippers and or scissors
You don't.
Tell him he's wonderful and you love him and thank him for marrying a shallow schmuck like you.
i would withhold on the booty, and just tease him with it , but don't give it till he goes and you take him there and then when you get home you could shower with him or some thing else.....lol.....good luck!!!!
Just tell him honey, I want you to look good for me so I am taking you to the Barber shop and let a professional do it!! And if that doesnt work hide all the scissors.
you can either say you know what baby, I'll treat u to a day of care. and take him to the barber shop and after tell him the day stops there.
%26amp;/or hide his clippers from his a$$ he'll have no choice. lol
the mature route would be to just tlk to him bout it but we all know that don't work. :-)
good luck
tell him ';if you dont stop this now im gonna leave your a$$
chop his hands off.
that'll teach him good.
give his cheap a$$ a twenty and tell him, EVERYbody knows he's cheap BECAUSE of his hair.
take him!How do u get your spouse to stop cutting his hair and go to the barber shop for a nice clean cut?
tell him it looks ugly and maybe he well go get it cut by someone you knows how to do it.
tell him it looks bad every time !
hide the clippers and or scissors
You don't.
Tell him he's wonderful and you love him and thank him for marrying a shallow schmuck like you.
i would withhold on the booty, and just tease him with it , but don't give it till he goes and you take him there and then when you get home you could shower with him or some thing else.....lol.....good luck!!!!
Just tell him honey, I want you to look good for me so I am taking you to the Barber shop and let a professional do it!! And if that doesnt work hide all the scissors.
you can either say you know what baby, I'll treat u to a day of care. and take him to the barber shop and after tell him the day stops there.
%26amp;/or hide his clippers from his a$$ he'll have no choice. lol
the mature route would be to just tlk to him bout it but we all know that don't work. :-)
good luck
tell him ';if you dont stop this now im gonna leave your a$$
chop his hands off.
that'll teach him good.
give his cheap a$$ a twenty and tell him, EVERYbody knows he's cheap BECAUSE of his hair.
If something happens to a spouse or loved one during war how long does it take for family to be notified?
From the time the Department of Defense receives the news the (NOK) next of kin will be notified within two days..or as soon as possible.
If they cant find you then it will take longer..
Only when injured will they call you..If killed in action they will never call you..You will get a visit from some military members.If something happens to a spouse or loved one during war how long does it take for family to be notified?
Thing move pretty quickly , when the Red cross sends notice of a family emergency. I had a soldier whos mother passed away while we where in iraq , we got him state side in less then 48 hours .
When i was still a private ( 1983 wow that long ago ) Stationed in Germany my father passed away. i was notified about 3am and was on a plane home by noon .
The Army takes care of it's ownIf something happens to a spouse or loved one during war how long does it take for family to be notified?
depends...if the service member is wounded then most times he/she can call the family and let them know...just depends on the severity of their injuries...if a service member is killed the department of the army has to notify the causality officer and the chaplain either at the service members duty station or nearest to where the family is located..then depending on what time they get notified they will head over to the service members family..the army will not send someone to a families house between the times of 10pm to 6am...so there is that waiting time also...usually they try to notify the family within 24hrs of a death of a service member....
With in a few Hours...Wounded and Medivaced...
Not sure on KIA's anymore...
It is in a Timely fashion...
I do know in Canada it is a Disgrace...
A Soldier was KIA and the Wife didn't find
out until the PO delivered his Personal Effects...
ASAP however make sure they have up to date contact information so they can get a hold of you. Sometimes spouses go back home and they don't update the addresses/phone numbers.
It is done as soon as possible.
If they cant find you then it will take longer..
Only when injured will they call you..If killed in action they will never call you..You will get a visit from some military members.If something happens to a spouse or loved one during war how long does it take for family to be notified?
Thing move pretty quickly , when the Red cross sends notice of a family emergency. I had a soldier whos mother passed away while we where in iraq , we got him state side in less then 48 hours .
When i was still a private ( 1983 wow that long ago ) Stationed in Germany my father passed away. i was notified about 3am and was on a plane home by noon .
The Army takes care of it's ownIf something happens to a spouse or loved one during war how long does it take for family to be notified?
depends...if the service member is wounded then most times he/she can call the family and let them know...just depends on the severity of their injuries...if a service member is killed the department of the army has to notify the causality officer and the chaplain either at the service members duty station or nearest to where the family is located..then depending on what time they get notified they will head over to the service members family..the army will not send someone to a families house between the times of 10pm to 6am...so there is that waiting time also...usually they try to notify the family within 24hrs of a death of a service member....
With in a few Hours...Wounded and Medivaced...
Not sure on KIA's anymore...
It is in a Timely fashion...
I do know in Canada it is a Disgrace...
A Soldier was KIA and the Wife didn't find
out until the PO delivered his Personal Effects...
ASAP however make sure they have up to date contact information so they can get a hold of you. Sometimes spouses go back home and they don't update the addresses/phone numbers.
It is done as soon as possible.
How did you and your spouse meet? How did you break the ice the first time you met?
We met on the phone the first time..through a singles line from our local country station. We talked for an hour the first time we talked. After that we met for drinks and it was easy talking to each other. How did you and your spouse meet? How did you break the ice the first time you met?
I saw her at work and asked her out to happy hour...from there it was a whirlwind romance and we got married about 4 yrs later.
Unfort she hates me now and wants a divorce...the only thing keeping us together is our 10 yr boy...life is difficult sometimes...How did you and your spouse meet? How did you break the ice the first time you met?
Met in a brewery, she was having lunch with an old friend of mine, Didn't manage to break the ice for a while after that as there was almost zero attraction, we were like water and oil.new lipstick the bees
I saw her at work and asked her out to happy hour...from there it was a whirlwind romance and we got married about 4 yrs later.
Unfort she hates me now and wants a divorce...the only thing keeping us together is our 10 yr boy...life is difficult sometimes...How did you and your spouse meet? How did you break the ice the first time you met?
Met in a brewery, she was having lunch with an old friend of mine, Didn't manage to break the ice for a while after that as there was almost zero attraction, we were like water and oil.
If you want sex in the middle of the night and ur spouse is sound asleep is it all right to masturbate while?
still lying in the bed besides ur spouse?If you want sex in the middle of the night and ur spouse is sound asleep is it all right to masturbate while?
If your spouse is one that DOES NOT want to be awakened to have sex, then I would say it is Ok. Masturbation is not cheating.If you want sex in the middle of the night and ur spouse is sound asleep is it all right to masturbate while?
All that should be worked out with the spouse. Some would rather be awakened the very best way. It might really make her mad, practically speaking.
Being consistent.
at least go the the bathroom or something
yes, perfectly normal.
she might wake up to a lovly suprise ;)
then join in with you.
yes
how selfish of you! lol
If your spouse is one that DOES NOT want to be awakened to have sex, then I would say it is Ok. Masturbation is not cheating.If you want sex in the middle of the night and ur spouse is sound asleep is it all right to masturbate while?
All that should be worked out with the spouse. Some would rather be awakened the very best way. It might really make her mad, practically speaking.
Being consistent.
at least go the the bathroom or something
yes, perfectly normal.
she might wake up to a lovly suprise ;)
then join in with you.
yes
how selfish of you! lol
If you want sex in the middle of the night and ur spouse is sound asleep is it all right to masturbate while?
still lying in the bed besides ur spouse?If you want sex in the middle of the night and ur spouse is sound asleep is it all right to masturbate while?
If your spouse is one that DOES NOT want to be awakened to have sex, then I would say it is Ok. Masturbation is not cheating.If you want sex in the middle of the night and ur spouse is sound asleep is it all right to masturbate while?
All that should be worked out with the spouse. Some would rather be awakened the very best way. It might really make her mad, practically speaking.
Being consistent.
at least go the the bathroom or something
yes, perfectly normal.
she might wake up to a lovly suprise ;)
then join in with you.
yes
how selfish of you! lol
If your spouse is one that DOES NOT want to be awakened to have sex, then I would say it is Ok. Masturbation is not cheating.If you want sex in the middle of the night and ur spouse is sound asleep is it all right to masturbate while?
All that should be worked out with the spouse. Some would rather be awakened the very best way. It might really make her mad, practically speaking.
Being consistent.
at least go the the bathroom or something
yes, perfectly normal.
she might wake up to a lovly suprise ;)
then join in with you.
yes
how selfish of you! lol
Is there any secret that if told, you would leave your spouse?
Or if you felt that they were being used, no matter how bad, you would stay with them?Is there any secret that if told, you would leave your spouse?
if i ever knew he was a pedophile i couldn't stay with a man like that,Is there any secret that if told, you would leave your spouse?
Absolutely, just because I love you doesn't mean I will stay with you no matter what (like if he raped someone, or cheated or killed someone purposely). Feeling used - well that's a little more indepth. Why and how do you feel used - is this just a feeling your having because he's not communicating his actions, or is he truly using you?
There is nothing that my husband could disclose to me that would make me leave him. And I am the one who controls whether I am allowing someone to use me, so it is a moot point.
Once trust is broken, no matter what issue the trust is about, that's it. There's nothing left.
If I found out that he has cheated since we have been together I would be out of here. I would not stay and let someone use me. I will not settle for that.
Yeah if I were told these few things I would leave:
1. He still has feelings for his ex
2. He cheated on me by either sleeping, kissing or talking to another girl behind my back
yes
cheating
no matter the circumstances
Of course. I can think of several.
I told you
if i ever knew he was a pedophile i couldn't stay with a man like that,Is there any secret that if told, you would leave your spouse?
Absolutely, just because I love you doesn't mean I will stay with you no matter what (like if he raped someone, or cheated or killed someone purposely). Feeling used - well that's a little more indepth. Why and how do you feel used - is this just a feeling your having because he's not communicating his actions, or is he truly using you?
There is nothing that my husband could disclose to me that would make me leave him. And I am the one who controls whether I am allowing someone to use me, so it is a moot point.
Once trust is broken, no matter what issue the trust is about, that's it. There's nothing left.
If I found out that he has cheated since we have been together I would be out of here. I would not stay and let someone use me. I will not settle for that.
Yeah if I were told these few things I would leave:
1. He still has feelings for his ex
2. He cheated on me by either sleeping, kissing or talking to another girl behind my back
yes
cheating
no matter the circumstances
Of course. I can think of several.
I told you
Married People that have been cheated on - Did you decide to get back at your spouse by ?
returning the favor and cheating on them once you found out about their affair? And if you did cheat on your spouse after they cheated on you, did you regret it? Or was it therapeutic and good for your well-being because you didn't feel like such a victim because you got even in a sense?
Did you still stay married after all this?
Married People that have been cheated on - Did you decide to get back at your spouse by ?
Oh good lord, just divorce them and move on. Your not getting back at them by getting herpes...
unless you give it to her. Then you both get what you deserve. lol.Married People that have been cheated on - Did you decide to get back at your spouse by ?
Well, when my mother had an affair with my now step-dad she threw out my dad and too make him feel worse said she was pregnant. I hate her and this was back in 2002. My dad still feels it as I have a half-sister, he ended up getting in an argument and pushed her down the stairs accidentally after he said that he got another woman pregnant. My future step-mum is now 8 months pregnant.
i know someone that got cheated on and by their husband. she loved him so much she forgave and stayed with him. that has happened twice. now he constantly do it because he know he can get by with it.
didn't stay married and wasn't going to scope to his level, saw and spoke to what he had cheated with and told him really that's probably more punishment then i could of ever given you. bonus for him is now everyday he gets to wake up next to that joke and has to remember how they got together cheating on their spouse's and in a few years they will be doing it again and the very best part is no matter what they say there can't be any trust because of the way they started. me i prefer honest relationships.
There was a time where I seriously thought my wife stepped out, and I considered doing the same to even the playing field. After some thought I realsised that it would only make things worse on my end. On top of feeling betrayed and hurt, I would feel like a betrayer and know I hurt her just as bad. It would only compound the situation and make it worse on both ends.
Some people could do this and make it so they could get over it, more power to em. When it comes down to it, you gotta do what you gotta do.
Did you still stay married after all this?
Married People that have been cheated on - Did you decide to get back at your spouse by ?
Oh good lord, just divorce them and move on. Your not getting back at them by getting herpes...
unless you give it to her. Then you both get what you deserve. lol.Married People that have been cheated on - Did you decide to get back at your spouse by ?
Well, when my mother had an affair with my now step-dad she threw out my dad and too make him feel worse said she was pregnant. I hate her and this was back in 2002. My dad still feels it as I have a half-sister, he ended up getting in an argument and pushed her down the stairs accidentally after he said that he got another woman pregnant. My future step-mum is now 8 months pregnant.
i know someone that got cheated on and by their husband. she loved him so much she forgave and stayed with him. that has happened twice. now he constantly do it because he know he can get by with it.
didn't stay married and wasn't going to scope to his level, saw and spoke to what he had cheated with and told him really that's probably more punishment then i could of ever given you. bonus for him is now everyday he gets to wake up next to that joke and has to remember how they got together cheating on their spouse's and in a few years they will be doing it again and the very best part is no matter what they say there can't be any trust because of the way they started. me i prefer honest relationships.
There was a time where I seriously thought my wife stepped out, and I considered doing the same to even the playing field. After some thought I realsised that it would only make things worse on my end. On top of feeling betrayed and hurt, I would feel like a betrayer and know I hurt her just as bad. It would only compound the situation and make it worse on both ends.
Some people could do this and make it so they could get over it, more power to em. When it comes down to it, you gotta do what you gotta do.
What is something your spouse does that drives you crazy... not in bed either?
example - I HATE the way my husband eats his cereal. He lets it sit there for a few minutes so it gets soggy..........ugh. No matter what cereal it is. It really makes me sick to my stomache. I like my cereal crunchy. Yes I know I can't change it and that's whay he likes but it drives me crazy to the point I don't like to be around him when he eats it. Is there something your spouse does that makes you feel gross or you just can't stand.What is something your spouse does that drives you crazy... not in bed either?
It drives me nuts if he pushes my buttons just for the heck of it... And he knows which buttons to push!What is something your spouse does that drives you crazy... not in bed either?
She turns off the TV if I just went to the bathroom for a couple of minutes. Something about saving energy, but give me a break. I raise the volume a bit so I can still hear what's going on. Is that wasting energy? I don't think so!
And please don't nag about soggy cereal. That's so trivial, kinda like my TV thing. He's still the love of your life. See all that is not trivial that makes you love him and you can deal with any little thing.
He rubs the be-jes@s out of his nose and sniffs rather than blow his nose.....I can't change it so I've learned to 'tune-out' the sniffing....
...as far as his poor nose, he's actually broken blood vessels on one side from years of constantly abusing his poor proboscis lol...this happened before I met him. You'd think that would have made him stop....nope. Chalk it up to be being an old dog hanging on to old tricks lol. Good luck.
It annoys me when i ask my husband a question and lots of times he will say ';i dont know';lol.
That's really the only thing that he does that drives me crazy.
My husband ALWAYS exaggerates! Especially if we are arguing.
puts the dishes in the dishwasher without washing them off first. ARGH!
It drives me nuts if he pushes my buttons just for the heck of it... And he knows which buttons to push!What is something your spouse does that drives you crazy... not in bed either?
She turns off the TV if I just went to the bathroom for a couple of minutes. Something about saving energy, but give me a break. I raise the volume a bit so I can still hear what's going on. Is that wasting energy? I don't think so!
And please don't nag about soggy cereal. That's so trivial, kinda like my TV thing. He's still the love of your life. See all that is not trivial that makes you love him and you can deal with any little thing.
He rubs the be-jes@s out of his nose and sniffs rather than blow his nose.....I can't change it so I've learned to 'tune-out' the sniffing....
...as far as his poor nose, he's actually broken blood vessels on one side from years of constantly abusing his poor proboscis lol...this happened before I met him. You'd think that would have made him stop....nope. Chalk it up to be being an old dog hanging on to old tricks lol. Good luck.
It annoys me when i ask my husband a question and lots of times he will say ';i dont know';lol.
That's really the only thing that he does that drives me crazy.
My husband ALWAYS exaggerates! Especially if we are arguing.
puts the dishes in the dishwasher without washing them off first. ARGH!
How often does your spouse drink alcohol, and do you think it is too much?
my hubby before dinner gets at least 2 ounces of liquor at least three times a week .sometimes 1 or 2 bottles of beer . and sometimes half a bottle of wine . i dont think it is too much compared to some and he nver gets drunk . so i am ok with it . fact he eats better so he does the deal better. How often does your spouse drink alcohol, and do you think it is too much?
I think drinking everyday either its a bottle or glass a day is being an alcoholic. If your spouse is drinking excessively, then most likely there is an underlying problem and you need to have a private one on one talk to figure what is driving him or her to drink and have that temporary feel of euphoria. How often does your spouse drink alcohol, and do you think it is too much?
my hubby has a family history of alcholism, so i watch him. he is a whiskey lover and he can go weeks without it, but then he can get a bottle and drink it in 2 nights, then get another one, and polish it off before bed, then buy one the next night and drink it all evening, so when it becomes habitual like that, to that point where he's not even enjoying it, i tell him i think he's drinking too much. sometimes he gets all pissy with me, but he backs off anyways, knowing i'm right. he'll go and buy a 5th and take him two weeks to drink, and i'll take a lil sticky note and put it on there that says ';i'm proud of you'; letting him know that i appreciate his show of self control. it's all a matter of the person, the history, and the effects.
My husband LOVES tequila but he does not drink it to get drunk. He likes to sample all different kinds. We have bottles ranging in price from $30-$330. He has a few shots or sips a week and a few beers per week. I've never seen him drunk...he never over does it and is very responsible. He drives a fire engine for a living and can't afford to ruin his career with drinking.
Everyday... he drinks at work, after work and when he comes home... I can already smell him when he walks through the door and his breath in the morning could heat the house for the entire winter... ugggh... its nasty hot wine breath... seriously... even the bed sheets smell like his breath... haha... its so nasty...
as far as his drinking being too much... yeah... i'd say so... his breath alone has put a complete halt on our sex life.
Now that we have a baby, he hardly ever drinks. Maybe has a beer with his friends at work when they finish up, but that's about it. So no, I don't think he drinks too much at all.
Everyday %26amp; it's way too much - you can smell it in his pours. I guess that explains why he forgets so much, never completes tasks and has a very very very low sex drive.
Occasionally and I'm fine with it. Alcoholism is a deal breaker for me. Period.
Football season.
Every day.
Yeah
He doesn't like alcohol :) yay for me! He never drinks.new lipstick the bees
I think drinking everyday either its a bottle or glass a day is being an alcoholic. If your spouse is drinking excessively, then most likely there is an underlying problem and you need to have a private one on one talk to figure what is driving him or her to drink and have that temporary feel of euphoria. How often does your spouse drink alcohol, and do you think it is too much?
my hubby has a family history of alcholism, so i watch him. he is a whiskey lover and he can go weeks without it, but then he can get a bottle and drink it in 2 nights, then get another one, and polish it off before bed, then buy one the next night and drink it all evening, so when it becomes habitual like that, to that point where he's not even enjoying it, i tell him i think he's drinking too much. sometimes he gets all pissy with me, but he backs off anyways, knowing i'm right. he'll go and buy a 5th and take him two weeks to drink, and i'll take a lil sticky note and put it on there that says ';i'm proud of you'; letting him know that i appreciate his show of self control. it's all a matter of the person, the history, and the effects.
My husband LOVES tequila but he does not drink it to get drunk. He likes to sample all different kinds. We have bottles ranging in price from $30-$330. He has a few shots or sips a week and a few beers per week. I've never seen him drunk...he never over does it and is very responsible. He drives a fire engine for a living and can't afford to ruin his career with drinking.
Everyday... he drinks at work, after work and when he comes home... I can already smell him when he walks through the door and his breath in the morning could heat the house for the entire winter... ugggh... its nasty hot wine breath... seriously... even the bed sheets smell like his breath... haha... its so nasty...
as far as his drinking being too much... yeah... i'd say so... his breath alone has put a complete halt on our sex life.
Now that we have a baby, he hardly ever drinks. Maybe has a beer with his friends at work when they finish up, but that's about it. So no, I don't think he drinks too much at all.
Everyday %26amp; it's way too much - you can smell it in his pours. I guess that explains why he forgets so much, never completes tasks and has a very very very low sex drive.
Occasionally and I'm fine with it. Alcoholism is a deal breaker for me. Period.
Football season.
Every day.
Yeah
He doesn't like alcohol :) yay for me! He never drinks.
What would you do/your reaction be if you saw your spouse in bed with another person of the same sex?
i'd be pretty mad that i wasn't invitedWhat would you do/your reaction be if you saw your spouse in bed with another person of the same sex?
Shock and under disbelief. It would probably next turn to rage, not because of the sex of the person, but the fact that it was another person all together. After rage and probably acting out. He and his lover would be on the other side of the door. I would probably go through the sadness of the fact that he was cheating, then probably start laughing hysterically at the fact that it was someone of the same gender and probably try to conjure up all the warning signs I seen and ignored. Then i would probably go to anger again at the fact that his stinking @ss was ******* someone else in our bed. But ultimately, i would be going to a lawyer, because I would have to go. No matter how much sorrys he gave, and promises, the image would be blazin in my head, and not only would i have to worry about him being around women, i would begin to worry about him being around men, and I would lose all trust and peace of mind until he was out of my life.What would you do/your reaction be if you saw your spouse in bed with another person of the same sex?
Right after I got done vomiting, they would both be leaving and not coming back. My lawyer would be getting a phone call and we would be getting a divorce on grounds of adultery. Trust is the most important factor in a relationship, once the trust is gone there is no relationship. The marriage vows say forsaking all others, what is the other woman/man a piece of swiss cheese? Even if it was the opposite sex it would still be over for me.
Well there would def be some blows thrown. And I would probably get sick that is not something I'm into, not really trying to see two men together especially my husband being one of them. But if it was hubby that walked in on me he would be way to happy about it he would probably jump right in and enjoy.
They better be fast and able to get out of my house before i could get to the gas can and a match....:)
Seriously I'd be in shock so I'd probably just leave the house.
id throw him out and the bed too, go buy me a new bed, at least id know it wasnt me with the problem, and i would be so glad to be done with him,
Well, that other same sex person better be one of his little sons. If it was another adult male I would set the bed on fire after tying them up to the bed post.
haha notice the difference in answers between men and women on here. That is because man on man = gross, but woman on woman = hot.
I would tied them up together, them pour gasoline on them and all over the place, then light up some matches, and BOOM!!! they are now burning like in hell!!!
I think that would almost be easier then finding the opposite sex. Id file for divorce.
Apologize for the interruption.
Get the garden hose. Cool them off while I was on the phone with his mother telling her she has a buttpirate for a son.
I would be sick. And then kick them both out of my house and burn the sheets.
I would either throw up or throw punches.
Throw up. Kick him out. Never look back.
Maybe chuckle a little.
Ewwwwww! That is just NASTY!
Don't want a man or a woman touching her.
laugh
Shock and under disbelief. It would probably next turn to rage, not because of the sex of the person, but the fact that it was another person all together. After rage and probably acting out. He and his lover would be on the other side of the door. I would probably go through the sadness of the fact that he was cheating, then probably start laughing hysterically at the fact that it was someone of the same gender and probably try to conjure up all the warning signs I seen and ignored. Then i would probably go to anger again at the fact that his stinking @ss was ******* someone else in our bed. But ultimately, i would be going to a lawyer, because I would have to go. No matter how much sorrys he gave, and promises, the image would be blazin in my head, and not only would i have to worry about him being around women, i would begin to worry about him being around men, and I would lose all trust and peace of mind until he was out of my life.What would you do/your reaction be if you saw your spouse in bed with another person of the same sex?
Right after I got done vomiting, they would both be leaving and not coming back. My lawyer would be getting a phone call and we would be getting a divorce on grounds of adultery. Trust is the most important factor in a relationship, once the trust is gone there is no relationship. The marriage vows say forsaking all others, what is the other woman/man a piece of swiss cheese? Even if it was the opposite sex it would still be over for me.
Well there would def be some blows thrown. And I would probably get sick that is not something I'm into, not really trying to see two men together especially my husband being one of them. But if it was hubby that walked in on me he would be way to happy about it he would probably jump right in and enjoy.
They better be fast and able to get out of my house before i could get to the gas can and a match....:)
Seriously I'd be in shock so I'd probably just leave the house.
id throw him out and the bed too, go buy me a new bed, at least id know it wasnt me with the problem, and i would be so glad to be done with him,
Well, that other same sex person better be one of his little sons. If it was another adult male I would set the bed on fire after tying them up to the bed post.
haha notice the difference in answers between men and women on here. That is because man on man = gross, but woman on woman = hot.
I would tied them up together, them pour gasoline on them and all over the place, then light up some matches, and BOOM!!! they are now burning like in hell!!!
I think that would almost be easier then finding the opposite sex. Id file for divorce.
Apologize for the interruption.
Get the garden hose. Cool them off while I was on the phone with his mother telling her she has a buttpirate for a son.
I would be sick. And then kick them both out of my house and burn the sheets.
I would either throw up or throw punches.
Throw up. Kick him out. Never look back.
Maybe chuckle a little.
Ewwwwww! That is just NASTY!
Don't want a man or a woman touching her.
laugh
Do you have a back up plan if you and your spouse don't work out?
Like if you live together, do you have a 'plan b' if you guys break up, or do you not think about it?Do you have a back up plan if you and your spouse don't work out?
i think that having a basic back up plan is good, who would move out, where would they stay and things like thisDo you have a back up plan if you and your spouse don't work out?
If you are married to someone and you have a ';back up plan'; then you have already doomed the relationship with doubt. When you get married that should take all thought of ever leaving one another and destroying them. The younger generation thinks that marriage is just another relationship that they can dispose of when it gets rocky or when they are unhappy. Have you ever not been selfish and wondered if YOU yourself make your spouse the happiest they can be?
No, you should never have a ';back up'; because it defeats the purpose. If you do then you should never have become married in the first place.
No. I do have a plan for marriage counseling if the times do get tough for us though.
Marriage and relationships need constant work and spending time alone together to do so is my best advice.
Also treating your mate with the same attention you used to land them helps as well. I suggest once a week , you should have a date with them. Even if it is to discuss the grocery bill.
I don't think about it. We're married. That means we're in this for the long haul.
i do, but hate thinking about it
i think that having a basic back up plan is good, who would move out, where would they stay and things like thisDo you have a back up plan if you and your spouse don't work out?
If you are married to someone and you have a ';back up plan'; then you have already doomed the relationship with doubt. When you get married that should take all thought of ever leaving one another and destroying them. The younger generation thinks that marriage is just another relationship that they can dispose of when it gets rocky or when they are unhappy. Have you ever not been selfish and wondered if YOU yourself make your spouse the happiest they can be?
No, you should never have a ';back up'; because it defeats the purpose. If you do then you should never have become married in the first place.
No. I do have a plan for marriage counseling if the times do get tough for us though.
Marriage and relationships need constant work and spending time alone together to do so is my best advice.
Also treating your mate with the same attention you used to land them helps as well. I suggest once a week , you should have a date with them. Even if it is to discuss the grocery bill.
I don't think about it. We're married. That means we're in this for the long haul.
i do, but hate thinking about it
What's the most thoughtful gift you can give to your spouse for a birthday?
That depends on the person really.
You know the person best so you guess what would make him/her happy and gift that!What's the most thoughtful gift you can give to your spouse for a birthday?
A thoughtful gift for my wife might be a kitchen appliance, however, it's unlikely to be the thoughtful gift for your spouse.
I'm sure that TV advertising can tell you about something that should be perfect for their profitability.
A thoughtful gift is just that. You need to think about what your spouse most wants. It's unlikely to be purchased at your local Wallmart.What's the most thoughtful gift you can give to your spouse for a birthday?
I like Things Remembered, it gives a very personal touch to anything usually impersonal (frames, champagne flutes, pens) and all the work is done in store and is usually done the same day.
Or you could always try a weekend getaway at a hotel, get a small room for the two of you, you can stay a night or a weekend and do things around the hotel in a relatively busy area of your town. Either way make it romantic with roses and candles and of course his favorite (and yours) sweets (chocolote covered strawberries, truffles)
My favor gift was season tickets to a Beef and Board where we go every two months. Maybe for a guy basketball tickets or a romantic weekend, it really matters how sentimental you spouse is. It is hard to put my self in a guys place, my husband loves alone time whenever we can be alone. Have the kids go away for the weekend so we can reconnect. Now I try to do that for my daughters for their birthdays and anniversary and my son also.
Something that he wants and not something that you want him to have. For instance, my bf wanted a car charger and a blue tooth and I got it for him on Valentine's Day because I knew that it'd be useful and wouldn't go to waste! He was happy with it and I was happy to make him happy! So, take yourself out of the equation and just think of something that will make him happy, no matter what you think of it!
something that had somthing to do with your relationship befor you were married.
(example)
Like if on a first date a guy took a girl to the fair and got her a bear then
for his birthday she could giive him that bear. :0
Bugatti Veyron
It would be so very thoughtful.
Don't be cheap, It about true love.
I don't know if this is the MOST thoughtful gift, but I gave my boyfriend a picture of us in a nice frame once, and the picture was from a really good day that we both fondly remember.
If it were myself, I would really enjoy a night alone without tv or kids in the background or a 3 day weekend getaway to a great city, somewhere out of the ordinary.
Anything that is completely personal use, or something that you know they want and would not buy for themselves.
He loves those body pillows and he messed his up washing it....He got his from this expensive store in the mall...so I got him another one.Sounds simple but when you get someone something they really want its special.
I always think about what he's been talking about like things he has said that he wants and i buy the one i think he would like the best good luck!
Show up at work naked. They seem to love that, plus the staff really get a kick out of it.
Something he's always wanted, but didn't buy himself.
For the guy- A tune-up for his car.
For the gal - A complete cleaning of the entire house.
A golden last rolo :)
my boyfriend loved it when i bought him one.
A love letter %26amp; a bunch of lottery tickets :)
a threesome
sex with another woman while you watch
sex HIS way.
a bag of dirt
An affair
You know the person best so you guess what would make him/her happy and gift that!What's the most thoughtful gift you can give to your spouse for a birthday?
A thoughtful gift for my wife might be a kitchen appliance, however, it's unlikely to be the thoughtful gift for your spouse.
I'm sure that TV advertising can tell you about something that should be perfect for their profitability.
A thoughtful gift is just that. You need to think about what your spouse most wants. It's unlikely to be purchased at your local Wallmart.What's the most thoughtful gift you can give to your spouse for a birthday?
I like Things Remembered, it gives a very personal touch to anything usually impersonal (frames, champagne flutes, pens) and all the work is done in store and is usually done the same day.
Or you could always try a weekend getaway at a hotel, get a small room for the two of you, you can stay a night or a weekend and do things around the hotel in a relatively busy area of your town. Either way make it romantic with roses and candles and of course his favorite (and yours) sweets (chocolote covered strawberries, truffles)
My favor gift was season tickets to a Beef and Board where we go every two months. Maybe for a guy basketball tickets or a romantic weekend, it really matters how sentimental you spouse is. It is hard to put my self in a guys place, my husband loves alone time whenever we can be alone. Have the kids go away for the weekend so we can reconnect. Now I try to do that for my daughters for their birthdays and anniversary and my son also.
Something that he wants and not something that you want him to have. For instance, my bf wanted a car charger and a blue tooth and I got it for him on Valentine's Day because I knew that it'd be useful and wouldn't go to waste! He was happy with it and I was happy to make him happy! So, take yourself out of the equation and just think of something that will make him happy, no matter what you think of it!
something that had somthing to do with your relationship befor you were married.
(example)
Like if on a first date a guy took a girl to the fair and got her a bear then
for his birthday she could giive him that bear. :0
Bugatti Veyron
It would be so very thoughtful.
Don't be cheap, It about true love.
I don't know if this is the MOST thoughtful gift, but I gave my boyfriend a picture of us in a nice frame once, and the picture was from a really good day that we both fondly remember.
If it were myself, I would really enjoy a night alone without tv or kids in the background or a 3 day weekend getaway to a great city, somewhere out of the ordinary.
Anything that is completely personal use, or something that you know they want and would not buy for themselves.
He loves those body pillows and he messed his up washing it....He got his from this expensive store in the mall...so I got him another one.Sounds simple but when you get someone something they really want its special.
I always think about what he's been talking about like things he has said that he wants and i buy the one i think he would like the best good luck!
Show up at work naked. They seem to love that, plus the staff really get a kick out of it.
Something he's always wanted, but didn't buy himself.
For the guy- A tune-up for his car.
For the gal - A complete cleaning of the entire house.
A golden last rolo :)
my boyfriend loved it when i bought him one.
A love letter %26amp; a bunch of lottery tickets :)
a threesome
sex with another woman while you watch
sex HIS way.
a bag of dirt
An affair
Do you and your spouse exersize in your bedroom?
Do you have a bowflex in there???? or do you go to a gym?Do you and your spouse exersize in your bedroom?
I go to the gym, he plays golf. But we do burn some calories in the bedroom. hahaDo you and your spouse exersize in your bedroom?
We don't use machines in our bedroom. we use each other. My wife has some sexy strong legs too because of me and I have some nice abs, she gets a nice toned butt.
Every night..
No bowflex.....but that does sound interesting!!!
No bowflex. Lubricants, outfits, imagination and we'll be in there for hours, potentially days.
in the basement! The bedroom is sacred - definitively not for working out and breaking a sweat - in the fashion.
Have you heard of tantric sex? We don't need a machine. I get plenty of stretching and yoga! TEE HEE
We do plenty of exercise in our bedroom - it's called sex!!
But really, in answer to your question, we have a treadmill in our very large living room, that way we can use it and put on something we want to watch at the same time. We just don't have time to go to the gym, and this works for us because we can watch the kids at the same time.
I was actually thinking of this. Not sure I have the room too tie her up and use the bowflex
No exercise equipment in the bedroom - unless you want to get a little kinky, lol.
yes we do......without gym equipment..
I go to the gym, he plays golf. But we do burn some calories in the bedroom. hahaDo you and your spouse exersize in your bedroom?
We don't use machines in our bedroom. we use each other. My wife has some sexy strong legs too because of me and I have some nice abs, she gets a nice toned butt.
Every night..
No bowflex.....but that does sound interesting!!!
No bowflex. Lubricants, outfits, imagination and we'll be in there for hours, potentially days.
in the basement! The bedroom is sacred - definitively not for working out and breaking a sweat - in the fashion.
Have you heard of tantric sex? We don't need a machine. I get plenty of stretching and yoga! TEE HEE
We do plenty of exercise in our bedroom - it's called sex!!
But really, in answer to your question, we have a treadmill in our very large living room, that way we can use it and put on something we want to watch at the same time. We just don't have time to go to the gym, and this works for us because we can watch the kids at the same time.
I was actually thinking of this. Not sure I have the room too tie her up and use the bowflex
No exercise equipment in the bedroom - unless you want to get a little kinky, lol.
yes we do......without gym equipment..
Would you want your spouse to know?
I'm curious! If you and your spouse were in bad shape meaning that you were both dying in different hospitals. And one of you passed away would you want the other one to know? Why or why not?Would you want your spouse to know?
Yes. So you can decide whether to fight or let go.Would you want your spouse to know?
That's really sad. I'm sorry for your loss and pain. I agree with you that they should tell her. It might not be ';best'; for her, but she should be told.
yep so the other 1 can die and they will both go to imaginary heaven then they will be together, but i bet the husband died first so he could get away from the old bird
Yes. So you can decide whether to fight or let go.Would you want your spouse to know?
That's really sad. I'm sorry for your loss and pain. I agree with you that they should tell her. It might not be ';best'; for her, but she should be told.
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yep so the other 1 can die and they will both go to imaginary heaven then they will be together, but i bet the husband died first so he could get away from the old bird
Would you want your spouse to know?
I'm curious! If you and your spouse were in bad shape meaning that you were both dying in different hospitals. And one of you passed away would you want the other one to know? Why or why not?Would you want your spouse to know?
Yes. So you can decide whether to fight or let go.Would you want your spouse to know?
That's really sad. I'm sorry for your loss and pain. I agree with you that they should tell her. It might not be ';best'; for her, but she should be told.
yep so the other 1 can die and they will both go to imaginary heaven then they will be together, but i bet the husband died first so he could get away from the old birdnew lipstick the bees
Yes. So you can decide whether to fight or let go.Would you want your spouse to know?
That's really sad. I'm sorry for your loss and pain. I agree with you that they should tell her. It might not be ';best'; for her, but she should be told.
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yep so the other 1 can die and they will both go to imaginary heaven then they will be together, but i bet the husband died first so he could get away from the old bird
Tax question about injured spouse form?
I did not make any income for 2007 but our economic stimulus check was 100% taken for a debt only in my husbands name wouldnt I be entitled to receive at least half of it for myself and our kids????Tax question about injured spouse form?
If you file the Form 8379, you will receive 1/2 of the total stimulus rebate that you would have otherwise been entitled to.
If you are only filing the Form 8379 to receive your split on the rebate, fill out Part I and Part III only. Don't bother with Part II. Write ';Stimulus Rebate'; in the white space on the top of the form and mail it in. Figure about 8 to 14 weeks for processing, but you will receive 1/2 of your rebate eventually.
Unlike with filing the form for apportionment of a tax refund, the state where you live doesn't matter for the rebates. You'll automatically receive 1/2 of the total rebate due based upon the joint return that you filed.Tax question about injured spouse form?
Was the injured spouse form filed with your tax return? If so, call the IRS at 1-800-829-0582, extension 726, as they will have to do an internal referral to get it corrected. If not, file the form per the instructions in another post.
Yes, his whole reFUND would be taken since it was all due to his income and withholding, but you should have gotten half of the stimulus payment if the injured spouse form was properly filed and processed.
What state do you live in? Did you file an injured spouse form?
If you file the Form 8379, you will receive 1/2 of the total stimulus rebate that you would have otherwise been entitled to.
If you are only filing the Form 8379 to receive your split on the rebate, fill out Part I and Part III only. Don't bother with Part II. Write ';Stimulus Rebate'; in the white space on the top of the form and mail it in. Figure about 8 to 14 weeks for processing, but you will receive 1/2 of your rebate eventually.
Unlike with filing the form for apportionment of a tax refund, the state where you live doesn't matter for the rebates. You'll automatically receive 1/2 of the total rebate due based upon the joint return that you filed.Tax question about injured spouse form?
Was the injured spouse form filed with your tax return? If so, call the IRS at 1-800-829-0582, extension 726, as they will have to do an internal referral to get it corrected. If not, file the form per the instructions in another post.
Yes, his whole reFUND would be taken since it was all due to his income and withholding, but you should have gotten half of the stimulus payment if the injured spouse form was properly filed and processed.
What state do you live in? Did you file an injured spouse form?
Do you and your spouse have a code word for lovey time?
Whats your ';code word'; ??
You know... the word you both use so that you both know its time for some lovey lovey time.Do you and your spouse have a code word for lovey time?
We have a safe word does that count?Do you and your spouse have a code word for lovey time?
No, he usually just cuddles against me and start kissing on me.
';do you wanna color';
lol just call it ';sexy time'; like borat...just thought it was funny at first, but it stuck..
Come here you hunk of burning love. ;)
Do you need to be punished?
she tell me to pull it out
You know... the word you both use so that you both know its time for some lovey lovey time.Do you and your spouse have a code word for lovey time?
We have a safe word does that count?Do you and your spouse have a code word for lovey time?
No, he usually just cuddles against me and start kissing on me.
';do you wanna color';
lol just call it ';sexy time'; like borat...just thought it was funny at first, but it stuck..
Come here you hunk of burning love. ;)
Do you need to be punished?
she tell me to pull it out
Whom do you think your children prefer more you or your spouse?
I have three little boys out of them my youngest is absoulutly obsessed with his father. He has so much seperation anxiety for my hubby where as for me I can drop him off at daycare and it's '; See ya when I see ya!'; I'm just wanderin how many other parents in my shoes.Whom do you think your children prefer more you or your spouse?
Usually kids get attached to their primary caregiver (whether that's mom or dad) but as they get a little older, they start to want the opposite parent. But I've seen exceptions, some kids being obsessed with daddy and other kids obsessed with mommy.
Both my kids were big mommy kids, except when my son came along and my husband had to take our daughter more, she became more of a daddy's girl.Whom do you think your children prefer more you or your spouse?
When I get home, my 20 month old shouts ';DADA!!!! oh mama,'; and returns to what she was doing. It irritates me a little, but then I think of the kids who don't want anything to do with thier fathers and I'm glad she loves him so much. As a mommy, they ALWAYS have the love for you, I mean, you gave birth to them! Being attached to their father is healthy and means they are well adjusted. IN a month you'll be the favorite again. They Swing!
I have had the same experience and i now realise that they go through phases when mommy is most important and the next phase daddy is most important! It used to upset me and made me feel unimportant but now i know that around the corner, they will be back to mommy... and so the cycle repeats itself. Don't worry, it's noraml child development at different ages!
I don't have children myself.. but i do work in a provate day nursery so i know waht you mean. I see it every day. It's different for everyone, sometimes i see boys crying for their dads/mums and then don't bother too much when the other drops them off etc.. Don't be worried, I'm sure he loves you all the same :)
Usually kids get attached to their primary caregiver (whether that's mom or dad) but as they get a little older, they start to want the opposite parent. But I've seen exceptions, some kids being obsessed with daddy and other kids obsessed with mommy.
Both my kids were big mommy kids, except when my son came along and my husband had to take our daughter more, she became more of a daddy's girl.Whom do you think your children prefer more you or your spouse?
When I get home, my 20 month old shouts ';DADA!!!! oh mama,'; and returns to what she was doing. It irritates me a little, but then I think of the kids who don't want anything to do with thier fathers and I'm glad she loves him so much. As a mommy, they ALWAYS have the love for you, I mean, you gave birth to them! Being attached to their father is healthy and means they are well adjusted. IN a month you'll be the favorite again. They Swing!
I have had the same experience and i now realise that they go through phases when mommy is most important and the next phase daddy is most important! It used to upset me and made me feel unimportant but now i know that around the corner, they will be back to mommy... and so the cycle repeats itself. Don't worry, it's noraml child development at different ages!
I don't have children myself.. but i do work in a provate day nursery so i know waht you mean. I see it every day. It's different for everyone, sometimes i see boys crying for their dads/mums and then don't bother too much when the other drops them off etc.. Don't be worried, I'm sure he loves you all the same :)
Smokers: Would you ever give up smoking for you spouse/potential spouse?
If they felt really passionate about it because of all the implications such as money and health related issues and in general they just thought it was horrible.
If you partner said they wouldn't marry you unless you gave it up, would you?Smokers: Would you ever give up smoking for you spouse/potential spouse?
Yes. Im recently married and i've been working on quitting for about eight months now (because of my husband). Its tough but i'm getting better. I used to smoke at least at pack a day on stressful days...now i'm down to about 4 smokes per day. Also, I didnt understand why he makes a big deal out of me smoking at first because he knew I smoked before we married, but now I realize when you choose to spend the rest of your life with someone....you expect them to be around for as long as possible. So in my case, love for my husband outweighs my need to smoke so....i'm trying to quit.
P.S. ~ Jason you should give me ';some'; creditSmokers: Would you ever give up smoking for you spouse/potential spouse?
I am a smoker, my husband is not. The answer is ';no';, I have no plans at the moment to quit smoking for him, or anybody. But this is not a question to be asked after getting married. This is one of many things to be discussed before tying the knot. Which we did. He'd rather I quit of course, but he'd also rather have me as a smoker than not have me at all. I keep smoking out of our apartment and strictly on the balcony, and he doesn't pester me about it, and makes sure that when we're in public, if possible, it's a place where I can smoke. And the car, of course, is a designated smoking area. It's all about tolerance on the nonsmoking partner's part, and courtesy on the smoking partner's part. Like any relationship where the partners have differences (and smoking preference is a BIG one), if they want to make the relationship work, they will.
Me and my partner both gave up smoking at the same time - I'm doing ok, he's not doing so great. But he has the courtesy not to smoke in my car, or in our apartment (he goes onto our balcony to smoke). It's something that I really appreciate, because if he didn't do those things, I wouldn't be able to remain smoke-free.
Go to your doctor and ask for Zyban. I used it to quit, and it made cigarettes taste TRULY awful.
I usually go out with smokers, my current boyfriend only smokes occasionally and he is trying to quit so I try not to smoke around him.
If I smoked when they met me, then they know what their getting themselves in for. I wouldn't start a relationship with a doctor, then ask them to stop cause they might catch a cold.
I am married and no i would not stop smoking for my husband. He has very expensive taste in sports and all i do is smoke and eat chocolates. If my partner told me he would not marry me if i don't stop smoking i would wonder whether he really loved me or not and where the demands would stop. What if you get fat. Old and ugly. Your hair falls out. Anything.
I would do it for a penny if I could. It's not just that easy like flipping a switch you know. I made it opast nine days once.. that was as long as I could go. I can do 48 hours very easily but then, you really dont want to be around me, ya know.
Nooo !
I talk all my girlfriends into smoking.......I don't think they look weird walking down the road smoking a pipe.
If they said they wouldn't marry me, i'd get a chimney installed on my head.
nope, take me as I am or screw! If I smoked when I met them it was there choice to be with me. If was such a serous concern, then they should have considred that beofre they decided to be with a smoker
I would try to.. but as many before me have said it is not something you can just do, it takes lots of will power!!
When I smoked the only thing that made me give up was getting pregnant, it's not easy but when you know you have a life inside you it gives you motivation
I don't but my husband does, I figure it's his life and as long as I don't have to loan him money to buy them, it's his buisness...
It's a very hard thing to do. I would consider it. But probably couldn't do it.
i already gave up smoking stoges for my lungs :)
Well... Err... Ah Crap. No, I don't think I would.
No.
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maybe
If you partner said they wouldn't marry you unless you gave it up, would you?Smokers: Would you ever give up smoking for you spouse/potential spouse?
Yes. Im recently married and i've been working on quitting for about eight months now (because of my husband). Its tough but i'm getting better. I used to smoke at least at pack a day on stressful days...now i'm down to about 4 smokes per day. Also, I didnt understand why he makes a big deal out of me smoking at first because he knew I smoked before we married, but now I realize when you choose to spend the rest of your life with someone....you expect them to be around for as long as possible. So in my case, love for my husband outweighs my need to smoke so....i'm trying to quit.
P.S. ~ Jason you should give me ';some'; creditSmokers: Would you ever give up smoking for you spouse/potential spouse?
I am a smoker, my husband is not. The answer is ';no';, I have no plans at the moment to quit smoking for him, or anybody. But this is not a question to be asked after getting married. This is one of many things to be discussed before tying the knot. Which we did. He'd rather I quit of course, but he'd also rather have me as a smoker than not have me at all. I keep smoking out of our apartment and strictly on the balcony, and he doesn't pester me about it, and makes sure that when we're in public, if possible, it's a place where I can smoke. And the car, of course, is a designated smoking area. It's all about tolerance on the nonsmoking partner's part, and courtesy on the smoking partner's part. Like any relationship where the partners have differences (and smoking preference is a BIG one), if they want to make the relationship work, they will.
Me and my partner both gave up smoking at the same time - I'm doing ok, he's not doing so great. But he has the courtesy not to smoke in my car, or in our apartment (he goes onto our balcony to smoke). It's something that I really appreciate, because if he didn't do those things, I wouldn't be able to remain smoke-free.
Go to your doctor and ask for Zyban. I used it to quit, and it made cigarettes taste TRULY awful.
I usually go out with smokers, my current boyfriend only smokes occasionally and he is trying to quit so I try not to smoke around him.
If I smoked when they met me, then they know what their getting themselves in for. I wouldn't start a relationship with a doctor, then ask them to stop cause they might catch a cold.
I am married and no i would not stop smoking for my husband. He has very expensive taste in sports and all i do is smoke and eat chocolates. If my partner told me he would not marry me if i don't stop smoking i would wonder whether he really loved me or not and where the demands would stop. What if you get fat. Old and ugly. Your hair falls out. Anything.
I would do it for a penny if I could. It's not just that easy like flipping a switch you know. I made it opast nine days once.. that was as long as I could go. I can do 48 hours very easily but then, you really dont want to be around me, ya know.
Nooo !
I talk all my girlfriends into smoking.......I don't think they look weird walking down the road smoking a pipe.
If they said they wouldn't marry me, i'd get a chimney installed on my head.
nope, take me as I am or screw! If I smoked when I met them it was there choice to be with me. If was such a serous concern, then they should have considred that beofre they decided to be with a smoker
I would try to.. but as many before me have said it is not something you can just do, it takes lots of will power!!
When I smoked the only thing that made me give up was getting pregnant, it's not easy but when you know you have a life inside you it gives you motivation
I don't but my husband does, I figure it's his life and as long as I don't have to loan him money to buy them, it's his buisness...
It's a very hard thing to do. I would consider it. But probably couldn't do it.
i already gave up smoking stoges for my lungs :)
Well... Err... Ah Crap. No, I don't think I would.
No.
...*puff puff*...................naaahhhh........鈥?puff*
maybe
Is there a clause in INS law which says if a spouse is incarcerated they do not have to attend INS hearings?
I want to know if there are loopholes for Illegals trying to obtain their green cards. If there are clauses where one or the other ';spouse'; does not have to be present at hearings.Is there a clause in INS law which says if a spouse is incarcerated they do not have to attend INS hearings?
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Do you think you are good enough for your spouse or you think your spouse is lucky to have you?
I think we are both lucky to be with each other.
As for being good enough, I don't know, we have our ups and downs, but for the most part we just muddle along as best we can - which seems to be working quite well, nearly 10 years later.Do you think you are good enough for your spouse or you think your spouse is lucky to have you?
I am good enough and lucky enough to have such a lovely Wife and 2 adorable Kids. What else I need, I am happy enough.Do you think you are good enough for your spouse or you think your spouse is lucky to have you?
some times I think he's lucky some times that I 'm lucky and others that we are the most UNFORTUNATE people on the planet and I wish we never meet
She is lucky to have such a Religious boy like me.
She should feel worthy to even die for me at times
both. Because if anyone is lucky they it will be difficult to live together.
I think I am
good enough
for my spouse
lucky to have me....i always remind him of the fact.
it is all on her in my future but i know that she is lucky
I'm ok. He could possible do better.
my spouse is gonna be lucky to have me.pimple cure the bees
As for being good enough, I don't know, we have our ups and downs, but for the most part we just muddle along as best we can - which seems to be working quite well, nearly 10 years later.Do you think you are good enough for your spouse or you think your spouse is lucky to have you?
I am good enough and lucky enough to have such a lovely Wife and 2 adorable Kids. What else I need, I am happy enough.Do you think you are good enough for your spouse or you think your spouse is lucky to have you?
some times I think he's lucky some times that I 'm lucky and others that we are the most UNFORTUNATE people on the planet and I wish we never meet
She is lucky to have such a Religious boy like me.
She should feel worthy to even die for me at times
both. Because if anyone is lucky they it will be difficult to live together.
I think I am
good enough
for my spouse
lucky to have me....i always remind him of the fact.
it is all on her in my future but i know that she is lucky
I'm ok. He could possible do better.
my spouse is gonna be lucky to have me.
Had to file injured spouse due to husbands back child support debt. I efiled and all income was mine howlong?
My husband is disabled due to spinal cord surgery and is pending disability with no income in 2008. I filed injured spouse electronically to protect my refund. We have to children and I was told this is how i had to file. I filed married filing jointly. How long does this take. I know the irs says 11weeks. Does it really take that long?Had to file injured spouse due to husbands back child support debt. I efiled and all income was mine howlong?
My husband is disabled due to the same thing and owes back child support from several years ago. I filed injured spouse last year and this year. Last year it only took about 5 weeks and I received a check in the mail even though I specified direct deposit. I've heard the time Varies. It's only been 3 weeks so far this year and still waiting.Had to file injured spouse due to husbands back child support debt. I efiled and all income was mine howlong?
That's about right. You may see it a bit sooner but don't plan on it.
My husband is disabled due to the same thing and owes back child support from several years ago. I filed injured spouse last year and this year. Last year it only took about 5 weeks and I received a check in the mail even though I specified direct deposit. I've heard the time Varies. It's only been 3 weeks so far this year and still waiting.Had to file injured spouse due to husbands back child support debt. I efiled and all income was mine howlong?
That's about right. You may see it a bit sooner but don't plan on it.
What question would you ask your future husband or wife? What do you wish you knew about your spouse?
Before you got married?
What is the one thing you would advice anyone to make sure they knew before the big taking the plunge?What question would you ask your future husband or wife? What do you wish you knew about your spouse?
Before you got married?
Would you mind taking an STD/HIV test?
How many times have you been married?
How many children do you have and do you pay child support?
Do you want children?
What is the one thing you would advice anyone to make sure they knew before the big taking the plunge?
Make sure he/she is not jealous, will be supportive of your personal endeavors (career, business, hobbies), make sure they want to be commited 100%, pattern of his relationship history. And I would want to know how his relationship with his family is, especially his mother...most likely an indication on how he will treat you from what's he's seen growing up, either respecting or disrespecting women.What question would you ask your future husband or wife? What do you wish you knew about your spouse?
This isn't something you can ask them--but see how they treat their parents--particularly their father for women and their mother for men. You can get a good idea of how someone will treat their spouse by seeing how they treat their parent of the opposite gender.
The 3 most import things they do not want me to find out about.
You know employers run background checks and marriage is a lot more important to you than a job apllicant to an employer. Hopefully its the only person you ever hire to share your life with.
why did you cheat on me?
It's really apparent to me now that I should have chosen someone who was equally close to his family as I am. It's also painfullly apparent that if a person tends to be even slightly self-centered, cold, dishonest, etc., they will be 10 times worse after marriage.
I wish I knew that he is unyielding and unlikely to make change, I wish I knew how stubborn he is and how chauvinistic he really is.
My advice: If there is something about his personality that really bothers you, try and see if he is willing to work on it, if not go into it knowing he will never change. i.e..do not get married thinking it will be better when you are married, it actually gets worse.
Where do you see yourself in 5 years, 10 years, 25 years from now?
Reason being is to see if our future goals are compatible. I wouldn't want to marry someone doesn't want the same or similar things in life as me. For me I want someone who enjoys traveling, has career ambitions, would like to own a house and kids, and so on.
P.S. Remember the little things that annoy you while you're dating only magnify over time and will get on your nerves years later.
My girlfriend and I went over something like this in pre-marital counseling. (getting married in a few months) Two questions: 1. What was the saddest thing that someone ever said to you. (Not did, just said)
2. Honestly....if i did one thing to break your trust what would it be. (Oddly enough it's not always cheating or being dishonest)
It helps you to see the worst that could ever come around....but most importantly helps to clean out that negativity (sp?) that leads to those things.
I don't know if it would be a question per say, but the advise I would give you is to really examine your relationship - if he seems controlling, insecure or trouble communicating with you. I know from experience that those things can cause huge problems later. You really need to recognize the issues and deal with them in order to have a strong marriage.
Will yolu always follow God with me? Regardless, of what happens in my life,will you be the man of the house,and lead me? Will you always protect me to best of your abilities, and remain my best friend?
FINANCIAL ISSUES! I would have been more literate about personal finance and would have found out his financial history or financial goals. The main things that will end your marriage is finances and agreeing on how to discipline your children. that's my two problems in my marriage. if you they will change after marriage they will not, it gets worse and all the things that annoyed you just a little bit before marriage gets more irritating after marriage. good luck.
1. make sure that you know where they stand on fidelity issues. is it ok to cheat? do they think its ok while you are engaged but not married?
2. are they honest?
3. how is their credit? do they pay their bills? how will you handle finances?
4. how is his/her family? will the family be trying to move in with you after you get a house together?
5. what kind are the roles in your relationship? does he expect you to do all the cooking? cleaning?
6. does he want kids? does he expect you to stay home with the kids or are you going to share in the responsibilites and you work also? how many kids does he want?
7. what religion is he? will you convert if you are not the same religion or does he want you to convert?
8. where will you live?
i wish i had known that my husband was a serial liar and a cheater and that i cannot change him. i wish i had known that he was not a communicator. (well, the signs were there, i just didnt listen to my inner voice)
What is the one thing you would advice anyone to make sure they knew before the big taking the plunge?What question would you ask your future husband or wife? What do you wish you knew about your spouse?
Before you got married?
Would you mind taking an STD/HIV test?
How many times have you been married?
How many children do you have and do you pay child support?
Do you want children?
What is the one thing you would advice anyone to make sure they knew before the big taking the plunge?
Make sure he/she is not jealous, will be supportive of your personal endeavors (career, business, hobbies), make sure they want to be commited 100%, pattern of his relationship history. And I would want to know how his relationship with his family is, especially his mother...most likely an indication on how he will treat you from what's he's seen growing up, either respecting or disrespecting women.What question would you ask your future husband or wife? What do you wish you knew about your spouse?
This isn't something you can ask them--but see how they treat their parents--particularly their father for women and their mother for men. You can get a good idea of how someone will treat their spouse by seeing how they treat their parent of the opposite gender.
The 3 most import things they do not want me to find out about.
You know employers run background checks and marriage is a lot more important to you than a job apllicant to an employer. Hopefully its the only person you ever hire to share your life with.
why did you cheat on me?
It's really apparent to me now that I should have chosen someone who was equally close to his family as I am. It's also painfullly apparent that if a person tends to be even slightly self-centered, cold, dishonest, etc., they will be 10 times worse after marriage.
I wish I knew that he is unyielding and unlikely to make change, I wish I knew how stubborn he is and how chauvinistic he really is.
My advice: If there is something about his personality that really bothers you, try and see if he is willing to work on it, if not go into it knowing he will never change. i.e..do not get married thinking it will be better when you are married, it actually gets worse.
Where do you see yourself in 5 years, 10 years, 25 years from now?
Reason being is to see if our future goals are compatible. I wouldn't want to marry someone doesn't want the same or similar things in life as me. For me I want someone who enjoys traveling, has career ambitions, would like to own a house and kids, and so on.
P.S. Remember the little things that annoy you while you're dating only magnify over time and will get on your nerves years later.
My girlfriend and I went over something like this in pre-marital counseling. (getting married in a few months) Two questions: 1. What was the saddest thing that someone ever said to you. (Not did, just said)
2. Honestly....if i did one thing to break your trust what would it be. (Oddly enough it's not always cheating or being dishonest)
It helps you to see the worst that could ever come around....but most importantly helps to clean out that negativity (sp?) that leads to those things.
I don't know if it would be a question per say, but the advise I would give you is to really examine your relationship - if he seems controlling, insecure or trouble communicating with you. I know from experience that those things can cause huge problems later. You really need to recognize the issues and deal with them in order to have a strong marriage.
Will yolu always follow God with me? Regardless, of what happens in my life,will you be the man of the house,and lead me? Will you always protect me to best of your abilities, and remain my best friend?
FINANCIAL ISSUES! I would have been more literate about personal finance and would have found out his financial history or financial goals. The main things that will end your marriage is finances and agreeing on how to discipline your children. that's my two problems in my marriage. if you they will change after marriage they will not, it gets worse and all the things that annoyed you just a little bit before marriage gets more irritating after marriage. good luck.
1. make sure that you know where they stand on fidelity issues. is it ok to cheat? do they think its ok while you are engaged but not married?
2. are they honest?
3. how is their credit? do they pay their bills? how will you handle finances?
4. how is his/her family? will the family be trying to move in with you after you get a house together?
5. what kind are the roles in your relationship? does he expect you to do all the cooking? cleaning?
6. does he want kids? does he expect you to stay home with the kids or are you going to share in the responsibilites and you work also? how many kids does he want?
7. what religion is he? will you convert if you are not the same religion or does he want you to convert?
8. where will you live?
i wish i had known that my husband was a serial liar and a cheater and that i cannot change him. i wish i had known that he was not a communicator. (well, the signs were there, i just didnt listen to my inner voice)
Do you and your spouse come from living different life-styles?
Do you find it to be a ground for conflict?Do you and your spouse come from living different life-styles?
Yes, it sucks big time! I try very hard to be as happy as possible, even when things are not going well or close to ideal. Oh well thats life there is nothing you can do about it.Do you and your spouse come from living different life-styles?
Yes, my husband and I were brought up in two very different families. Sometimes this causes conflict because we are living with his family and I find certain things very strange and difficult to deal with. I agree with the above post and think the biggest thing is compromise, because no two people are the same. It also helps if you accept eachothers differences and dont enforce certain rules (which you may be used to) upon one another.
Sure... we come from different life-styles and cultures.
I am American... he is Italian, from Sicily.
when I first met him the whole Italian mama's boy, italian machismo attitude stereotypes kind of made me cautious. But he reassured me that he wasn't the 'typical' italian... and I believed him, because I was in love. Plus he was acting like a normal, decent man.
come to find out, he fits almost every stereotype there is about Italian men plus some. He's a drunk, he's lost all self respect and responsibility, he cries for mama whenever we have a problem and he has no sense of the word ';man';. He is a child walking around in the body of a man.
i want to divorce him asap.
Yes, my husband and I grew up in completely different lifestyles. He had many siblings and lived out in the country and I was a single kid, grew up with my grandparents in the city. We have many things in common because we experienced other common things...but how you were raised does impact who you grow up to be and it can infact be grounds for conflict. There are certain things that its hard to understand the other person, because of how differently you grew up, and its hard to compromise if you can't give in a little on something you were brought up to believe. But, you have to learn to compromise, agree to disagree and love the other person for how different they are. Sometimes, it is also good to have those differences....makes you more well rounded and accepting. I cherish some of the things that my husband has thought me from how he was raised because I didn't have that. In terms of religious growing up, it can be even more of a conflict, but just be clear about eachothers expectations, etc. It was a little different culturally for us, because im german and he is american. There are some things that we just can't understand eachother about because I was raised in europe with some of the traditions we have over there, versus here. Its even tough when it comes to raising a kid together, because you have two different parenting styles you are trying to make into your own. But if both are good communicators and have any maturity that too can be overcome.
yep. he comes from rich upper class and i come from poor dirt. sure it is a ground for conflict - i envy his spoiled brats rich daddy's daughters and their sunny childhood while mine was dark and depressing. that's why now i am trying to make their lives (his daughters, not his) as depressive as possible
ps. speaking about cinderella and her step mother and yada yada yada. this is like if cinderella married a prince who already had daughters from previous marriage and turned exactly into her own step mother. maybe i should write a fairy tale about that.lol
Yes, in a way. I grew up in a religious family where as my husband didn't. My parents never really 'forced' us to go to church but they did encourage it. Its not a conflict because I knew about his beliefs before we got married and if it was a big deal I wouldn't have married him. He'll come to church with me every now and then but I don't make it an obligation - Compromise, right?
hell yes. thats the reason were seperating as of yesterday.. its crazy.. and over shitty money problems... i thought love was stronger than this... i thought wrong!
your going to have to elaborate b/c we all come from living different life styles
That's right.
My family is German and hers is Swedish.
No we came from very similar backgrounds.
yes I did and ended up getting divorced.
omg YES
Yes, it sucks big time! I try very hard to be as happy as possible, even when things are not going well or close to ideal. Oh well thats life there is nothing you can do about it.Do you and your spouse come from living different life-styles?
Yes, my husband and I were brought up in two very different families. Sometimes this causes conflict because we are living with his family and I find certain things very strange and difficult to deal with. I agree with the above post and think the biggest thing is compromise, because no two people are the same. It also helps if you accept eachothers differences and dont enforce certain rules (which you may be used to) upon one another.
Sure... we come from different life-styles and cultures.
I am American... he is Italian, from Sicily.
when I first met him the whole Italian mama's boy, italian machismo attitude stereotypes kind of made me cautious. But he reassured me that he wasn't the 'typical' italian... and I believed him, because I was in love. Plus he was acting like a normal, decent man.
come to find out, he fits almost every stereotype there is about Italian men plus some. He's a drunk, he's lost all self respect and responsibility, he cries for mama whenever we have a problem and he has no sense of the word ';man';. He is a child walking around in the body of a man.
i want to divorce him asap.
Yes, my husband and I grew up in completely different lifestyles. He had many siblings and lived out in the country and I was a single kid, grew up with my grandparents in the city. We have many things in common because we experienced other common things...but how you were raised does impact who you grow up to be and it can infact be grounds for conflict. There are certain things that its hard to understand the other person, because of how differently you grew up, and its hard to compromise if you can't give in a little on something you were brought up to believe. But, you have to learn to compromise, agree to disagree and love the other person for how different they are. Sometimes, it is also good to have those differences....makes you more well rounded and accepting. I cherish some of the things that my husband has thought me from how he was raised because I didn't have that. In terms of religious growing up, it can be even more of a conflict, but just be clear about eachothers expectations, etc. It was a little different culturally for us, because im german and he is american. There are some things that we just can't understand eachother about because I was raised in europe with some of the traditions we have over there, versus here. Its even tough when it comes to raising a kid together, because you have two different parenting styles you are trying to make into your own. But if both are good communicators and have any maturity that too can be overcome.
yep. he comes from rich upper class and i come from poor dirt. sure it is a ground for conflict - i envy his spoiled brats rich daddy's daughters and their sunny childhood while mine was dark and depressing. that's why now i am trying to make their lives (his daughters, not his) as depressive as possible
ps. speaking about cinderella and her step mother and yada yada yada. this is like if cinderella married a prince who already had daughters from previous marriage and turned exactly into her own step mother. maybe i should write a fairy tale about that.lol
Yes, in a way. I grew up in a religious family where as my husband didn't. My parents never really 'forced' us to go to church but they did encourage it. Its not a conflict because I knew about his beliefs before we got married and if it was a big deal I wouldn't have married him. He'll come to church with me every now and then but I don't make it an obligation - Compromise, right?
hell yes. thats the reason were seperating as of yesterday.. its crazy.. and over shitty money problems... i thought love was stronger than this... i thought wrong!
your going to have to elaborate b/c we all come from living different life styles
That's right.
My family is German and hers is Swedish.
No we came from very similar backgrounds.
yes I did and ended up getting divorced.
omg YES
Is there a clause in INS law which says if a spouse is incarcerated they do not have to attend INS hearings?
I want to know if there are loopholes for Illegals trying to obtain their green cards. If there are clauses where one or the other ';spouse'; does not have to be present at hearings.Is there a clause in INS law which says if a spouse is incarcerated they do not have to attend INS hearings?
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Do you think you are good enough for your spouse or you think your spouse is lucky to have you?
I think we are both lucky to be with each other.
As for being good enough, I don't know, we have our ups and downs, but for the most part we just muddle along as best we can - which seems to be working quite well, nearly 10 years later.Do you think you are good enough for your spouse or you think your spouse is lucky to have you?
I am good enough and lucky enough to have such a lovely Wife and 2 adorable Kids. What else I need, I am happy enough.Do you think you are good enough for your spouse or you think your spouse is lucky to have you?
some times I think he's lucky some times that I 'm lucky and others that we are the most UNFORTUNATE people on the planet and I wish we never meet
She is lucky to have such a Religious boy like me.
She should feel worthy to even die for me at times
both. Because if anyone is lucky they it will be difficult to live together.
I think I am
good enough
for my spouse
lucky to have me....i always remind him of the fact.
it is all on her in my future but i know that she is lucky
I'm ok. He could possible do better.
my spouse is gonna be lucky to have me.
As for being good enough, I don't know, we have our ups and downs, but for the most part we just muddle along as best we can - which seems to be working quite well, nearly 10 years later.Do you think you are good enough for your spouse or you think your spouse is lucky to have you?
I am good enough and lucky enough to have such a lovely Wife and 2 adorable Kids. What else I need, I am happy enough.Do you think you are good enough for your spouse or you think your spouse is lucky to have you?
some times I think he's lucky some times that I 'm lucky and others that we are the most UNFORTUNATE people on the planet and I wish we never meet
She is lucky to have such a Religious boy like me.
She should feel worthy to even die for me at times
both. Because if anyone is lucky they it will be difficult to live together.
I think I am
good enough
for my spouse
lucky to have me....i always remind him of the fact.
it is all on her in my future but i know that she is lucky
I'm ok. He could possible do better.
my spouse is gonna be lucky to have me.
Had to file injured spouse due to husbands back child support debt. I efiled and all income was mine howlong?
My husband is disabled due to spinal cord surgery and is pending disability with no income in 2008. I filed injured spouse electronically to protect my refund. We have to children and I was told this is how i had to file. I filed married filing jointly. How long does this take. I know the irs says 11weeks. Does it really take that long?Had to file injured spouse due to husbands back child support debt. I efiled and all income was mine howlong?
My husband is disabled due to the same thing and owes back child support from several years ago. I filed injured spouse last year and this year. Last year it only took about 5 weeks and I received a check in the mail even though I specified direct deposit. I've heard the time Varies. It's only been 3 weeks so far this year and still waiting.Had to file injured spouse due to husbands back child support debt. I efiled and all income was mine howlong?
That's about right. You may see it a bit sooner but don't plan on it.pimple cure the bees
My husband is disabled due to the same thing and owes back child support from several years ago. I filed injured spouse last year and this year. Last year it only took about 5 weeks and I received a check in the mail even though I specified direct deposit. I've heard the time Varies. It's only been 3 weeks so far this year and still waiting.Had to file injured spouse due to husbands back child support debt. I efiled and all income was mine howlong?
That's about right. You may see it a bit sooner but don't plan on it.
What question would you ask your future husband or wife? What do you wish you knew about your spouse?
Before you got married?
What is the one thing you would advice anyone to make sure they knew before the big taking the plunge?What question would you ask your future husband or wife? What do you wish you knew about your spouse?
Before you got married?
Would you mind taking an STD/HIV test?
How many times have you been married?
How many children do you have and do you pay child support?
Do you want children?
What is the one thing you would advice anyone to make sure they knew before the big taking the plunge?
Make sure he/she is not jealous, will be supportive of your personal endeavors (career, business, hobbies), make sure they want to be commited 100%, pattern of his relationship history. And I would want to know how his relationship with his family is, especially his mother...most likely an indication on how he will treat you from what's he's seen growing up, either respecting or disrespecting women.What question would you ask your future husband or wife? What do you wish you knew about your spouse?
This isn't something you can ask them--but see how they treat their parents--particularly their father for women and their mother for men. You can get a good idea of how someone will treat their spouse by seeing how they treat their parent of the opposite gender.
The 3 most import things they do not want me to find out about.
You know employers run background checks and marriage is a lot more important to you than a job apllicant to an employer. Hopefully its the only person you ever hire to share your life with.
why did you cheat on me?
It's really apparent to me now that I should have chosen someone who was equally close to his family as I am. It's also painfullly apparent that if a person tends to be even slightly self-centered, cold, dishonest, etc., they will be 10 times worse after marriage.
I wish I knew that he is unyielding and unlikely to make change, I wish I knew how stubborn he is and how chauvinistic he really is.
My advice: If there is something about his personality that really bothers you, try and see if he is willing to work on it, if not go into it knowing he will never change. i.e..do not get married thinking it will be better when you are married, it actually gets worse.
Where do you see yourself in 5 years, 10 years, 25 years from now?
Reason being is to see if our future goals are compatible. I wouldn't want to marry someone doesn't want the same or similar things in life as me. For me I want someone who enjoys traveling, has career ambitions, would like to own a house and kids, and so on.
P.S. Remember the little things that annoy you while you're dating only magnify over time and will get on your nerves years later.
My girlfriend and I went over something like this in pre-marital counseling. (getting married in a few months) Two questions: 1. What was the saddest thing that someone ever said to you. (Not did, just said)
2. Honestly....if i did one thing to break your trust what would it be. (Oddly enough it's not always cheating or being dishonest)
It helps you to see the worst that could ever come around....but most importantly helps to clean out that negativity (sp?) that leads to those things.
I don't know if it would be a question per say, but the advise I would give you is to really examine your relationship - if he seems controlling, insecure or trouble communicating with you. I know from experience that those things can cause huge problems later. You really need to recognize the issues and deal with them in order to have a strong marriage.
Will yolu always follow God with me? Regardless, of what happens in my life,will you be the man of the house,and lead me? Will you always protect me to best of your abilities, and remain my best friend?
FINANCIAL ISSUES! I would have been more literate about personal finance and would have found out his financial history or financial goals. The main things that will end your marriage is finances and agreeing on how to discipline your children. that's my two problems in my marriage. if you they will change after marriage they will not, it gets worse and all the things that annoyed you just a little bit before marriage gets more irritating after marriage. good luck.
1. make sure that you know where they stand on fidelity issues. is it ok to cheat? do they think its ok while you are engaged but not married?
2. are they honest?
3. how is their credit? do they pay their bills? how will you handle finances?
4. how is his/her family? will the family be trying to move in with you after you get a house together?
5. what kind are the roles in your relationship? does he expect you to do all the cooking? cleaning?
6. does he want kids? does he expect you to stay home with the kids or are you going to share in the responsibilites and you work also? how many kids does he want?
7. what religion is he? will you convert if you are not the same religion or does he want you to convert?
8. where will you live?
i wish i had known that my husband was a serial liar and a cheater and that i cannot change him. i wish i had known that he was not a communicator. (well, the signs were there, i just didnt listen to my inner voice)
What is the one thing you would advice anyone to make sure they knew before the big taking the plunge?What question would you ask your future husband or wife? What do you wish you knew about your spouse?
Before you got married?
Would you mind taking an STD/HIV test?
How many times have you been married?
How many children do you have and do you pay child support?
Do you want children?
What is the one thing you would advice anyone to make sure they knew before the big taking the plunge?
Make sure he/she is not jealous, will be supportive of your personal endeavors (career, business, hobbies), make sure they want to be commited 100%, pattern of his relationship history. And I would want to know how his relationship with his family is, especially his mother...most likely an indication on how he will treat you from what's he's seen growing up, either respecting or disrespecting women.What question would you ask your future husband or wife? What do you wish you knew about your spouse?
This isn't something you can ask them--but see how they treat their parents--particularly their father for women and their mother for men. You can get a good idea of how someone will treat their spouse by seeing how they treat their parent of the opposite gender.
The 3 most import things they do not want me to find out about.
You know employers run background checks and marriage is a lot more important to you than a job apllicant to an employer. Hopefully its the only person you ever hire to share your life with.
why did you cheat on me?
It's really apparent to me now that I should have chosen someone who was equally close to his family as I am. It's also painfullly apparent that if a person tends to be even slightly self-centered, cold, dishonest, etc., they will be 10 times worse after marriage.
I wish I knew that he is unyielding and unlikely to make change, I wish I knew how stubborn he is and how chauvinistic he really is.
My advice: If there is something about his personality that really bothers you, try and see if he is willing to work on it, if not go into it knowing he will never change. i.e..do not get married thinking it will be better when you are married, it actually gets worse.
Where do you see yourself in 5 years, 10 years, 25 years from now?
Reason being is to see if our future goals are compatible. I wouldn't want to marry someone doesn't want the same or similar things in life as me. For me I want someone who enjoys traveling, has career ambitions, would like to own a house and kids, and so on.
P.S. Remember the little things that annoy you while you're dating only magnify over time and will get on your nerves years later.
My girlfriend and I went over something like this in pre-marital counseling. (getting married in a few months) Two questions: 1. What was the saddest thing that someone ever said to you. (Not did, just said)
2. Honestly....if i did one thing to break your trust what would it be. (Oddly enough it's not always cheating or being dishonest)
It helps you to see the worst that could ever come around....but most importantly helps to clean out that negativity (sp?) that leads to those things.
I don't know if it would be a question per say, but the advise I would give you is to really examine your relationship - if he seems controlling, insecure or trouble communicating with you. I know from experience that those things can cause huge problems later. You really need to recognize the issues and deal with them in order to have a strong marriage.
Will yolu always follow God with me? Regardless, of what happens in my life,will you be the man of the house,and lead me? Will you always protect me to best of your abilities, and remain my best friend?
FINANCIAL ISSUES! I would have been more literate about personal finance and would have found out his financial history or financial goals. The main things that will end your marriage is finances and agreeing on how to discipline your children. that's my two problems in my marriage. if you they will change after marriage they will not, it gets worse and all the things that annoyed you just a little bit before marriage gets more irritating after marriage. good luck.
1. make sure that you know where they stand on fidelity issues. is it ok to cheat? do they think its ok while you are engaged but not married?
2. are they honest?
3. how is their credit? do they pay their bills? how will you handle finances?
4. how is his/her family? will the family be trying to move in with you after you get a house together?
5. what kind are the roles in your relationship? does he expect you to do all the cooking? cleaning?
6. does he want kids? does he expect you to stay home with the kids or are you going to share in the responsibilites and you work also? how many kids does he want?
7. what religion is he? will you convert if you are not the same religion or does he want you to convert?
8. where will you live?
i wish i had known that my husband was a serial liar and a cheater and that i cannot change him. i wish i had known that he was not a communicator. (well, the signs were there, i just didnt listen to my inner voice)
Do you and your spouse come from living different life-styles?
Do you find it to be a ground for conflict?Do you and your spouse come from living different life-styles?
Yes, it sucks big time! I try very hard to be as happy as possible, even when things are not going well or close to ideal. Oh well thats life there is nothing you can do about it.Do you and your spouse come from living different life-styles?
Yes, my husband and I were brought up in two very different families. Sometimes this causes conflict because we are living with his family and I find certain things very strange and difficult to deal with. I agree with the above post and think the biggest thing is compromise, because no two people are the same. It also helps if you accept eachothers differences and dont enforce certain rules (which you may be used to) upon one another.
Sure... we come from different life-styles and cultures.
I am American... he is Italian, from Sicily.
when I first met him the whole Italian mama's boy, italian machismo attitude stereotypes kind of made me cautious. But he reassured me that he wasn't the 'typical' italian... and I believed him, because I was in love. Plus he was acting like a normal, decent man.
come to find out, he fits almost every stereotype there is about Italian men plus some. He's a drunk, he's lost all self respect and responsibility, he cries for mama whenever we have a problem and he has no sense of the word ';man';. He is a child walking around in the body of a man.
i want to divorce him asap.
Yes, my husband and I grew up in completely different lifestyles. He had many siblings and lived out in the country and I was a single kid, grew up with my grandparents in the city. We have many things in common because we experienced other common things...but how you were raised does impact who you grow up to be and it can infact be grounds for conflict. There are certain things that its hard to understand the other person, because of how differently you grew up, and its hard to compromise if you can't give in a little on something you were brought up to believe. But, you have to learn to compromise, agree to disagree and love the other person for how different they are. Sometimes, it is also good to have those differences....makes you more well rounded and accepting. I cherish some of the things that my husband has thought me from how he was raised because I didn't have that. In terms of religious growing up, it can be even more of a conflict, but just be clear about eachothers expectations, etc. It was a little different culturally for us, because im german and he is american. There are some things that we just can't understand eachother about because I was raised in europe with some of the traditions we have over there, versus here. Its even tough when it comes to raising a kid together, because you have two different parenting styles you are trying to make into your own. But if both are good communicators and have any maturity that too can be overcome.
yep. he comes from rich upper class and i come from poor dirt. sure it is a ground for conflict - i envy his spoiled brats rich daddy's daughters and their sunny childhood while mine was dark and depressing. that's why now i am trying to make their lives (his daughters, not his) as depressive as possible
ps. speaking about cinderella and her step mother and yada yada yada. this is like if cinderella married a prince who already had daughters from previous marriage and turned exactly into her own step mother. maybe i should write a fairy tale about that.lol
Yes, in a way. I grew up in a religious family where as my husband didn't. My parents never really 'forced' us to go to church but they did encourage it. Its not a conflict because I knew about his beliefs before we got married and if it was a big deal I wouldn't have married him. He'll come to church with me every now and then but I don't make it an obligation - Compromise, right?
hell yes. thats the reason were seperating as of yesterday.. its crazy.. and over shitty money problems... i thought love was stronger than this... i thought wrong!
your going to have to elaborate b/c we all come from living different life styles
That's right.
My family is German and hers is Swedish.
No we came from very similar backgrounds.
yes I did and ended up getting divorced.
omg YES
Yes, it sucks big time! I try very hard to be as happy as possible, even when things are not going well or close to ideal. Oh well thats life there is nothing you can do about it.Do you and your spouse come from living different life-styles?
Yes, my husband and I were brought up in two very different families. Sometimes this causes conflict because we are living with his family and I find certain things very strange and difficult to deal with. I agree with the above post and think the biggest thing is compromise, because no two people are the same. It also helps if you accept eachothers differences and dont enforce certain rules (which you may be used to) upon one another.
Sure... we come from different life-styles and cultures.
I am American... he is Italian, from Sicily.
when I first met him the whole Italian mama's boy, italian machismo attitude stereotypes kind of made me cautious. But he reassured me that he wasn't the 'typical' italian... and I believed him, because I was in love. Plus he was acting like a normal, decent man.
come to find out, he fits almost every stereotype there is about Italian men plus some. He's a drunk, he's lost all self respect and responsibility, he cries for mama whenever we have a problem and he has no sense of the word ';man';. He is a child walking around in the body of a man.
i want to divorce him asap.
Yes, my husband and I grew up in completely different lifestyles. He had many siblings and lived out in the country and I was a single kid, grew up with my grandparents in the city. We have many things in common because we experienced other common things...but how you were raised does impact who you grow up to be and it can infact be grounds for conflict. There are certain things that its hard to understand the other person, because of how differently you grew up, and its hard to compromise if you can't give in a little on something you were brought up to believe. But, you have to learn to compromise, agree to disagree and love the other person for how different they are. Sometimes, it is also good to have those differences....makes you more well rounded and accepting. I cherish some of the things that my husband has thought me from how he was raised because I didn't have that. In terms of religious growing up, it can be even more of a conflict, but just be clear about eachothers expectations, etc. It was a little different culturally for us, because im german and he is american. There are some things that we just can't understand eachother about because I was raised in europe with some of the traditions we have over there, versus here. Its even tough when it comes to raising a kid together, because you have two different parenting styles you are trying to make into your own. But if both are good communicators and have any maturity that too can be overcome.
yep. he comes from rich upper class and i come from poor dirt. sure it is a ground for conflict - i envy his spoiled brats rich daddy's daughters and their sunny childhood while mine was dark and depressing. that's why now i am trying to make their lives (his daughters, not his) as depressive as possible
ps. speaking about cinderella and her step mother and yada yada yada. this is like if cinderella married a prince who already had daughters from previous marriage and turned exactly into her own step mother. maybe i should write a fairy tale about that.lol
Yes, in a way. I grew up in a religious family where as my husband didn't. My parents never really 'forced' us to go to church but they did encourage it. Its not a conflict because I knew about his beliefs before we got married and if it was a big deal I wouldn't have married him. He'll come to church with me every now and then but I don't make it an obligation - Compromise, right?
hell yes. thats the reason were seperating as of yesterday.. its crazy.. and over shitty money problems... i thought love was stronger than this... i thought wrong!
your going to have to elaborate b/c we all come from living different life styles
That's right.
My family is German and hers is Swedish.
No we came from very similar backgrounds.
yes I did and ended up getting divorced.
omg YES
Do you believe a spouse using myspace creates situations or opportunities where s/he can start cheating?
With the browsing option it practically begs everyone to try out. Who hasn't? Is the site evil for married people? or even people with gf/bf. What's your take?Do you believe a spouse using myspace creates situations or opportunities where s/he can start cheating?
If your spouse is going to cheat, MySpace isn't going to make them do so. If they want to cheat, they're going to do so, regardless of what websites they visit. There should be a trust in your significant other. My husband and I both have MySpace accounts and I've never questioned that. We trust one another.Do you believe a spouse using myspace creates situations or opportunities where s/he can start cheating?
My husband thinks that I am ';advertising'; with my profile. It is set to private and there is no way I would cheat on him. I am on Myspace to reconnect with friends, not to find a man. I think that there are others out there that use Myspace as a way of doing so. Myspace is only one way to do this, there are other sites on the Web that make it accessible for people to meet others and cheat. Myspace isn't necessarily to blame.
No, because I know his password :)
Seriously, though, I agree with what the first poster said. If your spouse is the type to cheat, they will do it regardless, and if they aren't the type to cheat, then MySpace is not going to entice them. I use MySpace to keep in touch with old friends and out-of-state friends, not as a dating service. If there is trust in the relationship, then having a MySpace account should be a non-issue.
I am married and I have one but we just moved out of our home state and it is a good way to keep in touch with friends. I only have friends that I know not anyone I don't and I think this is the way it should be for all. I do find a common theme with myspace though I see that a lot of people are blaming myspace for a lot of things that go wrong like missing kids etc. Myspace is not to blame if a person is going to cheat they are going to cheat if a kid has gone missing because of the internet then why were the parents not monitoring it better .
You can't blame a site for the behavior of the user. If your spouse is actively looking, they could go to myspace, or ANY chat room on the Internet.
I can't say the site is evil. People have to be accountable for their actions.
to me, its for ';teenie boppers';. if you are married, and have a myspace, best bet is to keep it private, and add only people you want to see your stuff
The risk of him actually meeting someone off Myspace is low.
It just isnt an effective tool for that sort of thing.
If your spouse is going to cheat, MySpace isn't going to make them do so. If they want to cheat, they're going to do so, regardless of what websites they visit. There should be a trust in your significant other. My husband and I both have MySpace accounts and I've never questioned that. We trust one another.Do you believe a spouse using myspace creates situations or opportunities where s/he can start cheating?
My husband thinks that I am ';advertising'; with my profile. It is set to private and there is no way I would cheat on him. I am on Myspace to reconnect with friends, not to find a man. I think that there are others out there that use Myspace as a way of doing so. Myspace is only one way to do this, there are other sites on the Web that make it accessible for people to meet others and cheat. Myspace isn't necessarily to blame.
No, because I know his password :)
Seriously, though, I agree with what the first poster said. If your spouse is the type to cheat, they will do it regardless, and if they aren't the type to cheat, then MySpace is not going to entice them. I use MySpace to keep in touch with old friends and out-of-state friends, not as a dating service. If there is trust in the relationship, then having a MySpace account should be a non-issue.
I am married and I have one but we just moved out of our home state and it is a good way to keep in touch with friends. I only have friends that I know not anyone I don't and I think this is the way it should be for all. I do find a common theme with myspace though I see that a lot of people are blaming myspace for a lot of things that go wrong like missing kids etc. Myspace is not to blame if a person is going to cheat they are going to cheat if a kid has gone missing because of the internet then why were the parents not monitoring it better .
You can't blame a site for the behavior of the user. If your spouse is actively looking, they could go to myspace, or ANY chat room on the Internet.
I can't say the site is evil. People have to be accountable for their actions.
to me, its for ';teenie boppers';. if you are married, and have a myspace, best bet is to keep it private, and add only people you want to see your stuff
The risk of him actually meeting someone off Myspace is low.
It just isnt an effective tool for that sort of thing.
When you divorce your spouse did you decide if its even split or who takes it all?
When my wife left me she let me have everything. She did feel bad for cheating on me and basically just wanted me gone.When you divorce your spouse did you decide if its even split or who takes it all?
I never divorced, but almost every member in my family has. They all agreed to take it all, and take the other for everything they could get. They fought like cats and dogs over the stupidest possessions and money.
I think it should be an even split, it only seems fair. Marriage is a two way thing. You give half, you take half in divorce- and if someone wasn't giving.... well sadly they should still be entitled to half. And karma can bite them in the @ss later !When you divorce your spouse did you decide if its even split or who takes it all?
Even split. I'm a fair person ; )
I haven't even married him yet.
I never divorced, but almost every member in my family has. They all agreed to take it all, and take the other for everything they could get. They fought like cats and dogs over the stupidest possessions and money.
I think it should be an even split, it only seems fair. Marriage is a two way thing. You give half, you take half in divorce- and if someone wasn't giving.... well sadly they should still be entitled to half. And karma can bite them in the @ss later !When you divorce your spouse did you decide if its even split or who takes it all?
Even split. I'm a fair person ; )
I haven't even married him yet.
Did you and your spouse grow up in the same country?
Do you and your spouse have the same nationality or are you both originally from different countries?
nationality (question is not about ethnicity)Did you and your spouse grow up in the same country?
We were not born in the same country, or even the same hemisphere. Hubby was born in the Netherlands and immigrated with his family when he was just 11 years old. My parents, who also immigrated from the Netherlands, were here in Australia when they had their family - 8 of us.
We met here, married and have 4 children together. I have never been to Europe, and he has never been back.
Hubby is fluent in both English and Dutch, but I only speak English.Did you and your spouse grow up in the same country?
I was born and raised in N.E. Ohio in the USA,
My wife was born and grew up in the Ukraine ,
we are both latinos...i grew up in the states, he grew up in mexico.
I'm English and he's Korean. I moved to Korea to be with him.
no we grew up in different countries
I don't know! I haven't found her yet!
no we borught up in two diffrent countries
No we didn't. He came here when he was 25.
My ex spouse %26amp; I are both American
nationality (question is not about ethnicity)Did you and your spouse grow up in the same country?
We were not born in the same country, or even the same hemisphere. Hubby was born in the Netherlands and immigrated with his family when he was just 11 years old. My parents, who also immigrated from the Netherlands, were here in Australia when they had their family - 8 of us.
We met here, married and have 4 children together. I have never been to Europe, and he has never been back.
Hubby is fluent in both English and Dutch, but I only speak English.Did you and your spouse grow up in the same country?
I was born and raised in N.E. Ohio in the USA,
My wife was born and grew up in the Ukraine ,
we are both latinos...i grew up in the states, he grew up in mexico.
I'm English and he's Korean. I moved to Korea to be with him.
no we grew up in different countries
I don't know! I haven't found her yet!
no we borught up in two diffrent countries
No we didn't. He came here when he was 25.
My ex spouse %26amp; I are both American
Do you love your dog more than you love your spouse?
An incident today at the neighbor's place got me thinking :)
Just curious.Do you love your dog more than you love your spouse?
More than my ex spouse?
Yes.Do you love your dog more than you love your spouse?
no
yespimple cure the bees
Just curious.Do you love your dog more than you love your spouse?
More than my ex spouse?
Yes.Do you love your dog more than you love your spouse?
no
yes
If a wife find the needs to attach to her spouse for 24 hrs, wants to know everything he does.?
Is this obsession or love. What is the best way to distinguish the two?If a wife find the needs to attach to her spouse for 24 hrs, wants to know everything he does.?
She is insecure and needs to control her husband by being a part of his life 24/7. It's EXTREMELY unhealthy and will be a major factor in their eventual breakup.
The difference between the two is that love feels good, but obsession/insecurity feels bad.If a wife find the needs to attach to her spouse for 24 hrs, wants to know everything he does.?
Why on earth would anyone want to attach to anyone 24/7?
There must be some sort of insecurity or jealousy issue.
I would say either obcession or a huge lack of trust.
Love can be obcessive.
I think he is very insecure.
Get couples counseling.
Check in with him ocassionally.
Gosh you don't want to live like this. I did and it just about destroyed my spirit %26amp; soul
someting has her feeling insecure
simply there isn't trust, you might not trust you man.
or lately something isn't feeling right to you.
It's an obsession borne from insecurity. You will never win. You're not actually married to her, are you?
You have lost her trust. Trust once lost is hard to recover. Counseling should help but open and honest communications between the both of you would be recommended. You see it as obsessing, she sees it as betrayal. She has a right to be hurt and probably feels that you will do it again if given the chance. You will have to work very hard to regain her trust.
She is insecure and needs to control her husband by being a part of his life 24/7. It's EXTREMELY unhealthy and will be a major factor in their eventual breakup.
The difference between the two is that love feels good, but obsession/insecurity feels bad.If a wife find the needs to attach to her spouse for 24 hrs, wants to know everything he does.?
Why on earth would anyone want to attach to anyone 24/7?
There must be some sort of insecurity or jealousy issue.
I would say either obcession or a huge lack of trust.
Love can be obcessive.
I think he is very insecure.
Get couples counseling.
Check in with him ocassionally.
Gosh you don't want to live like this. I did and it just about destroyed my spirit %26amp; soul
someting has her feeling insecure
simply there isn't trust, you might not trust you man.
or lately something isn't feeling right to you.
It's an obsession borne from insecurity. You will never win. You're not actually married to her, are you?
You have lost her trust. Trust once lost is hard to recover. Counseling should help but open and honest communications between the both of you would be recommended. You see it as obsessing, she sees it as betrayal. She has a right to be hurt and probably feels that you will do it again if given the chance. You will have to work very hard to regain her trust.
Petition for Alien Relative:Permanent resident filling for a spouse?
How long will it takes if a permanent resident or US citizen spouse files I-130 for his/her spouse? My cousin is a permanent resident and his wife is in F-1 visa. He has to wait 2 more years to become a US citizen. Is it a good idea if he files I-130 for his wife while he is a permanent resident and since he only has two more years left to become a US citizen or should he wait until he become a US citizen to process I-130 for his wife?Petition for Alien Relative:Permanent resident filling for a spouse?
For a permanent resident petitioning a spouse the wait for a visa is between 5 and 6 years, except if the spouse is in Mexico where the wait is 8 years.
He can file now. When he has his citizenship he should notify USCIS and they will upgrade his petition from F2A to IR-1 and then there will be no wait.
For a permanent resident petitioning a spouse the wait for a visa is between 5 and 6 years, except if the spouse is in Mexico where the wait is 8 years.
He can file now. When he has his citizenship he should notify USCIS and they will upgrade his petition from F2A to IR-1 and then there will be no wait.
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