What is it in a person that would make them decide to stay or leave a marriage where the spouse had an affair?

it could be they believe in their vows, for better or for worse, it could be religious issue, some religions dont believe in divorce, and others believe only when there is abuse or the spouse has cheated. It could be they are stil in love with the person and want to try to make it work , or they are dependent on that person finacially and emtionally, they could have children together and not want to subject their children to divorce and visitations. or they could just be in denialWhat is it in a person that would make them decide to stay or leave a marriage where the spouse had an affair?
If the person acknowledges thta the affair caused harm and the hurt to the other person, it can be forgiven and people can get on with life. Absent feeling bad about it, a person can't be forgiven.What is it in a person that would make them decide to stay or leave a marriage where the spouse had an affair?
I think it depends on what kind of affair the spouse had. If there were feelings involved.





It would depend on how long they were married.....if the marriage was good until this point.





If there are children involved.





If they still loved each other and if the spouse who cheated was willing to do whatever was necessary to fix the marriage.





I think it has more to do with those things than what kind of person you are.
Sometimes you have to look at ';why';? why did the other person have an affair. Was there something lacking or what were they looking for and found there. Correct that problem or issue and then things can be amended. That's the problem, alot of times when couples stray, they never have that ';why'; conversation to expose the root of the what the real issue is.
all depends on the couple, what their morals/beliefs are and how they handled finding out about the affair....maybe they just can't stand what happened, get past the issue and it hurts unbelievably much....other than that idk what to tell you....my grandfather and then my step grandfather left because they felt that they were the problem and that they needed to both get out of the marriage to allow my grandmother to be happy.... this being said she's married to #3....and we hope for the best. she's in her mid 60s, we hope that this one lasts....
AFTER ALL YOU'VE GONE THROUGH, IT HAS TO BE


AGAPE LOVE.
You make a decision if you could ever trust again. We can forgive but many cant forget.
I am staying with my husband after he had an affair. He said some horrible things about me to this girl and even asked her to marry him and told her that he loved her. I don't trust him, I will not be able to forgive him, and I think about it constantly. But... I love him. Love has a lot to do with it in a lot of the cases.
Simple ..........trust believe me when that goes nothing will bring it back